My husband can't seem to keep his hands off me (sexually). Most people wouldn't be bothered but I can't do anything without him touching me!! I can't sleep, get dressed, take a shower, cook, I mean nothing! I have asked him a million times in the past 5 YEARS to stop it, but he just can't. He told me that he needed help, because he can't control himself when he's around me. Which made me feel even more worse. So anyway how can I help him to keep his hands off of me, without taking away his want for me?
2007-09-19 20:36:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow!! Are you guys ridiculous or what? What kind of ignorant a** person would say that he should f*ck someone else? If you don't have an intelligent answer, perhaps you shouldn't answer at all!!
2007-09-19 20:50:54 · update #1
If this had only been going on for a year I would take it as that initial lust in all relationships that eventually mellows (to hopefully a satisfying level of activity for both), but five years of pawing is a lot for anyone to put up with. It's how a nursing mother sometimes feels--like her body isn't her own anymore and there are always two or four hands pulling at her. Even the most maternal woman can become exhausted with this.
It sounds like your husband doesn't respect your personal space and his "won't take no for an answer" is a form of control. If he himself admits its a problem then you're a step ahead. You should see a counselor to try to work through this. He may likely be a sex addict and no matter how good that sounds to you men out there, it's still an unhealthy addiction. I'm guessing a counselor can show you a way to show your husband that you love and appreciate him without shutting him down completely or making him feel utterly rejected. It seems you've been thinking more of his feelings than your own. Good luck!
2007-09-19 21:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by busseysmom 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
LOL honey u don't wanna do that.
a man without his sex drive is a man that is dead towards u, think about a man that never looks at u like u the most desirable women alive or doesn't even know u exist.
yes it might be too much to handle now but once it dies. it takes a part of ur womanhood with it.
rather swot him away or invest in a good pair of handcuffs, it will turn him on yeah and get u to do what u have to. u have to improvise in a marriage sometimes not kill the passion
2007-09-19 20:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get him help, possible therapy or counseling. However, I don't know alot of women who would be bothered by their husbands being unable to keep their hands off of them. At least you know that he has intense desire for you. That dramatically decreases the thought or possibility of infidelity in your relationship. In this day and age, a marriage like that is far and few between. I hope you guys can find adequate professional help so that your marriage can be more balanced.
2007-09-19 22:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he has admitted he needs help which is a step. Always communicate your feelings which is important. When he does touch you why don't you try direct his hands to another part of your body! If you are cooking and he comes around and puts his hands on your chest slowly move them towards you stomach and hold them there sort of hugging him. Show him it is okay to grab you there. Its good your man wants you but he should also respect you. Balance it so he can have fun and respect you.
2007-09-19 21:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by jhn_grz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you won't be able to touch her against her needs so while you're no longer happy with that then you will ought to discover yet another female chum. you additionally can tell her which you no longer choose her to touch you the two considering you do unlike being aroused with out being allowed to touch her and notice the place that is going.
2016-10-19 04:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with that. At least it's you he's after. If you happen to be tired or not in the mood at that specific time just talk about it nice. Communication is the key but it sounds like a healthy marriage to be honest with you.
2007-09-19 20:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with saying that enough is enough. If you feel like you are being pawed at then he should respect that you need some space. No one has the right to touch you if you don't want it. It can make you feel claustraphobic.
2007-09-19 21:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was probably like that when you got married, and it was probably one of the reasons you fell in love with him. It is how he expresses love. Your rejections are saying to him that you do not love him. You should consider yourself lucky that he gives his attention to you and learn to reciprocate or he may go elsewhere to find someone that will appreciate his affections.
2007-09-19 20:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by Stinky Badger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's making excuses. You've clearly set some boundaries with him, and he's not respecting them, therefore, not respecting you. If he thinks he needs help, then why hasn't he seen a therapist yet? He needs to gain some sort of control over this.
2007-09-20 04:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by seaelven 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try to be funny about it and walk around with a box on. no seriously tell him if you have to you will go behind a locked door to shower and get dresses and he will have to keep himself in another room when your cooking,or your stop cooking.
2007-09-20 04:13:43 · answer #10 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋