Do "you" think when you have children, you'll be more or less like your parents?

Answer 1

My parents sat around collecting disability for imaginary illnesses. My mother seldom ever worked. My father was a scam artists. I also had a sex offender in my family. As a result I grew up very poor. I guess not having children allowed me to not be like them and to become a software developer. Maybe what you suggest is true.

I am very proud of the fact that I am 41, with no children. My youger brother is following in my footsteps!

Answer 2

I always said that I would never be like my mother, but the older I become, the more I see myself being really similar to her.
I want to say this:
For all of the younger people on the community that haven't had any children as of yet, just think about how your parents raised or are raising you.

If they aren't on drugs, selling you to a slave ring, or allowing you to ruin your entire life, then they must be doing something right! Give your parents a pat on the back every now and again and say thank you for being the mean person you are.

I know that my mom is the only reason I didn't drink, do drugs, or drop out of school when I was a teen: SHE WOULD HAVE KILLED ME!

And, now my mothers words resonate through my house when I'm telling my kids the same things she told me.

Answer 3

i will prolly model my parents in some respects, but also combine their parenting techniques with what i have learned from my teachers and other childhood experiences. i have good parents and would not mind if i was like them as a parent, however i feel in many ways i have a somewhat different personality to both my parents and am attracted to mean who are (at least in some respects) different to my father, so the nature of my relationship with my partner and our combined parenting style will prolly be similar to that of my parents, but with many small changes. sheesh, that's a long sentence. also, i would like to note that children do not necessarily model their parents behavior and can turn out very different. it depends on many factors. the primary is if they identify with the model (in this case the parent.) also we are a product of both our genes and our environment. the relationship between the two is not always fully understood as it is very complicated. NB:alcoholism usually does have genetic factors, as well as environmental and just cos a parent is an alcoholic, it doesn't mean you will be, although it may increase the chances- i'm not too sure of the stats on that one but it seems probable (that last part was a response to Clint E's answer.)

Answer 4

I think a little of both. Being a parent doesn't come with instructions so I think by instinct we do as our parents did at the begining and find out what works.
I do alot of the stuff my mom used to do with me, but then again I leave out some of the things I don't agree with.
When I was growing up my mom never helped me out finacially even though she's pretty well off. Never helped me get a car , never helped me with credit and kicked me out to the streets when I got in trouble.
I help my kids out as much as I can.I will be buying my daughter a car next year and my door will always be open to my kids , good or bad.

Answer 5

I know that over time we become like our parents (just because we were conditioned to learn their ways when we were young children). I suspect that women of child bearing age would be reading books and doing what their friends are doing, but eventually they will fall back into what they saw as a kid.

There are programs for things like alcohol addiction, smoking addiction, and even anger management programs and I don't think those things came from within us, we all were conditioned by watching others. So I do think we follow our parents' patterns.

Answer 6

I will love my parent more,but I didn't want to be all the time like my parent,but study some book that are healthy and helpful,or go for corse,no matter what I believe i love my children as much as my parent love me

Answer 7

That's a good question, it depends in what aspect. I think I'll definitely improve on discipline methods. Basically whatever flaws I see in my own parents' parenting I'll try to avoid when I'm a parent. I guess parents always know best, don't they?

Answer 8

I'm less like my parents i give my kids more things and let them get away with more so they can be kids i let them have fun and go outside and play.

Answer 9

May be to some extent but surely an improved version or a latest edition.

Answer 10

YES,the great upbringing mixed with coolness and freedom to choose . I am one of those cool parents who is so close to my kid and accepted by all other cool parents and frowned upon by uptight parents.so more in the good department and less in the you can't do that dept.