I'm hopeful, I'm scared, and optimistic, but realistic.
My best friend's mom is on life support. She has cistic fibrosis and her lungs are failing. She is breathing at 50% on her own, and they are weaning her off the ventilator tomorrow morning. I am going down there, but I want to make a card. I don't want to say anything about death, but I don't want to say anything about Living either. I'm not religious, so I can't say the cliche "my prayers are with you" tidbit. Can anyone help me write a poem or just a few sentences? I'm too emotionally drained to think right now.
2007-09-19 19:01:17 · 7 answers · asked by wranglergirl 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There's a chance that she will make it, but I don't know the probability. (That's why i don't want to say anything about life OR death.)
2007-09-19 19:04:51 · update #1
I am going to visit (live three hours away) tomorrow. I want to be there for not just the patient, but for the whole family. The card is for everyone. I just don't want it to be cliche and say things like "my best wishes", or "my condolences" etc.
2007-09-19 19:16:12 · update #2
cards might be a bit serious. May I suggest some beautiful flowers....
As for what to say. What ever you say, don't lie to her cuz a lot of people will try to say something nice but untrue. This would only make her think more because all she has to do is look you in the eye and your non-verbal action would just give it away.
My advice is stick to the truth. something like... I'm here to visit you and pulling for you because you're like a mom to me. I love you. this might be too heavy. you may try something lighter like I brought these beautiful flowers for you to cheer you up then give her a big beautiful smile and try to keep positive.
If she ask a question that force you to give an negative answer. Instead of (white) lying her answer, don't answer it. Steer the conversation toward something positive. Trust me, just you being there with the flowers is already good enough.
good luck
2007-09-19 19:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by typical dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have thought long and hard in what I was goingto say that may help you. I feel the best thing to do right now is to hold out on the card. Just go down there and be there for your friend. Let her know that you are there and will support her. Right now she needs you. Her Mum may get through and she may not. I understand how you maybe feeling. It is a hard place to be in. I guess if you really want to write a card, a suggestion maybe that you send your best wishes and love through these emotional times.
I hope she pulls through, and can fight this. Best wishes to you all. God Bless.
2007-09-20 02:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your personal visit and a few words of consolation is more than effective than a card. You want to make your visit a record by a leave behind card that every body else can read except the patient.
2007-09-20 02:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
M-k...-You're most "Realistic" option is, BUY her a simple "thinking of you..." card, SAY as little as possible, and make SURE you give her a heart-felt HUG. She'll remember THAT hug- above ALL else...-because it "says" what she NEEDS right now. Good luck.
2007-09-20 02:14:46 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nevermind dont worry u know wht u ought to do u ddint need to be scared
u can just keep silent and smile at her.
2007-09-22 09:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by ~electra~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are thinking of you during this difficult time. says it all, right?
You and whoever else should then sign it, love--george bush
Love, osama
2007-09-20 02:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by wpepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" My thoughts are with you guys.
Whatever happens, I'm right here."
And give her a hug.
2007-09-20 02:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by treemeadow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋