Me and the wife were fooling around this morning. We were interupted and she had to leave earlier than me. I was still in the mood so I jacked off to porn.
She asked if I played with myself and I said yes. Now she's all mad and going crazy.
Is this really that big of a deal?
2007-09-19 18:54:46 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES a huge deal. Esp when you've done something wrong in the past. MOST women are insecure, and they just want to be the center of your attraction and nothing else. Yes porn is bad, it makes her feel that she don't satisfy you and you are looking for something else.
I totally understand why she is going crazy. Maybe you treat her so bad and you're such a dumb one.
Maybe you're jobless and got nothing to do but to look at women fooling around on the internet or maybe cheating on her in real life.
You need to talk to her and maybe you'll get everything fixed. You're the only one who knows her and you SHOULD understand her.
2007-09-19 19:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Unhappy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I was her, I'd be mad too. Not so much about the porn thing but the fact that you got to be at least party satisfied and she didn't.
She was probably hoping that you had to suffer all day like she did.
Maybe exercise some restraint next time and plan a nice romantic rendezvous with her for when she gets home? So you guys can pick up where you left off. Candles, flowers, massage oil? Get my drift?
Now stop thinking about yourself for a change and realize that, yes, it is a big deal to her, so at least try and make her feel better about it, k?
2007-09-19 19:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by jpiglet86 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From another wife: YES...that belongs to us..See to guys it's nothing but a porn..But to us, it that female on the screen...The girl in the movie that says, and does anything..The girl that only a fantasy can phantom... Not like we think it could ever be real...But it's just the thought of thinking you were with someone else mentally...LOL..I hope this isn't sounding complicated....
Try to understand that we as wives believe every drip drop and round bout belongs to us..If we can't finish..YOU CAN'T FINISH... That's so frustrating, we have to go all day..But in a few takes or a quick flick all the pressure is done..NO don't go like that..Let he cool down..And when the time is right bring to life the LOVE that she feels belongs to her and her alone.....Make sure you tell her that while your at it..We need to know so we can rest assure..Next time you might wanna pop in a flick..
I wish you luck..
A Soldiers Wife
2007-09-19 19:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The "big deal" part is the porn. Why do you have to look at other women to take care of yourself? That's where the problem is. Lusting after the other women is the problem. You have a wife...other women (even in a magazine or on a movie) should not be necessary.
2007-09-19 20:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey ! If she wasn' t going to be there while you were still horny , you simply satisfied yourself !
How many other men would have cheated and found another woman to play around with ?
You' re a faithful husband .
She should get over herself and be very glad that she has an honest husband !
I still don' t understand women !
2007-09-19 19:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope. No big deal at all.
Why is she upset by it? Sit down and talk with her and clear up any misconceptions she has about you getting yourself off.
Everyone masturbates, even she does... though she might not like to admit it. Maybe offer to let her watch you masturbate so she can have a mental image of what you're doing when she can't be there with you.
In any case, turn this small hang-up into a highlight for both of you!
2007-09-19 19:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by Greenman 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The porn is just soooooooooo wrong.
You are opening the door to evil, really.
Tell me one thing, after seeing porn, can you get the image out of your mind?
No, it will always be there, not like normal things you see, you somewhat forget it, but this nasty porn that has NOTHING to do with love making never leaves your memory, but it can be put to rest if you try.
Masturbating is your private right, but leave the porn out.
I can also image that it hurt her feelings, like you would like to be with others, because actually, you were in a sense.
2007-09-19 19:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm one of the women who has an issue with porn. I don't want to feel like my husband is comparing me to gorgeous women, wishing he could be with them, or wondering if he could have done better. It's an insecurity issue, I guess.
However, I'm well aware that he sometimes takes matters into his own hands. I have absolutely no problem with that.
2007-09-19 19:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not a big deal, but why don't you ask her what the big deal was. Maybe it was just because she was frustrated all day and you got some enjoyment out of it.
2007-09-19 20:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by buzymom72 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You can start over now and take a bit longer to make sure she is well pleasured! Make sure she knows that it was her you were thinking of when you were looking at the pretty pictures!
2007-09-19 19:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋