I have a boyfriend, were the same age, we've been together 4 a while now and i just don't understand what i'm doing wrong. He calls me everyday (none missed), i call him but not as much as he calls me. And he tells me that he wants me 2 start calling him more i say i will but i don't. Everyday he tells me how much he loves me and never wants me 2 leave him but i never say anything like thatin return. Now when he talks 2 me he starts to ask questions about me talkin to other dudes but i just ignore him cause i know im not talking to anyone else but him. He is the best boyfriend in the world, i just wish i knew y i treated him this way...(not purposely)
2007-09-19 18:54:26 · 10 answers · asked by Mercadese C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe his last girlfriend cheated on him and it really hurt him bad.. maybe he is really in love with you and is upset or scared of getting hurt becuase he thinks u might cheat on him.. just write a note or somthing is the easyest way and tell him u love him n u wont ever hurt him and stuff like that.. guys r just like girls they have to be told that they r loved and stuff or they get worryed
2007-09-19 18:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by **Wishing For A 2010 Baby** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you sound like my girlfriend and I. Same thing here i tell her how much i love her, she doesn't say it back...i think she has said it a total of 8times since we've been together. I know where he is comming from, although you may not be talking to anyone, because you don't respond in the same way he demonstrates his affection, it makes him wonder if there is something wrong or possibly someone else. My girlfriend and I talk on the phone just like you do, with the exception that she calls me more than i call her, yet when she doesn't call as much as she normally would it does mess with my head. I'm sure thats how he feels always calling you, wondering if he is the only one in love. :0(
why you treat him this way actually comes down to you and your past relationships, have you been hurt in the past and are you afraid that he may hurt you aswell? If so you need to realize that not all guys are alike and that if you really want to make this work your just going to have to trust in the relationship and let your GUARD DOWN..... if your truly not the type of girl that expresses her emotions with words you may want to try to show you care about him and ONLY him by doing little things, my girlfriend made me a photo album of us... it showed me that she does really care and really made me happy.
2007-09-19 19:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by marcelo0613 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see immediately what's wrong and you should not have to change.
He's trying to start "controlling" you.
He "tells you" to call him more, psychologically You don't actually do it.
He "tells you" he loves you everyday,
He wants you to do the same, but you can't.
Not everyone is alike, so now he's starting to question your every move, only because he isn't getting his own way.
I'm sorry, I'm sure he's a nice guy, but you are walking right into a disaster getting ready to happen and you don't even see it coming.
The reason you treat him this way, is because you know deep down inside, it's not fair for him to tell you how to feel, when to feel it and how to show it, so because you don't feel the need to go overboard beacause of his insecurities, does not mean you are treating him wrong NOR need to change.
Oh and what do you consider seeing him for awhile? If it's around 6 months, that's my drawing line for some reason, by then you really know if it's going to be long term or not, even though you still want to be w/that person, the signs are there for you by 6 months.
Good luck, and don't change for this guy.
2007-09-19 19:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 04:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to make more of an effort to reassure him of how you feel, if you truly love him. You just may not be interested enough to make that effort. I can guarantee you one thing, if you don't eventually he will leave you for someone that will. I would not overdo the phone calls, however. Just tell him that you love to hear from him, but that you would rather him call when he has time to talk.
2007-09-19 19:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to be yourself.You both are two different people so you both arent going to express yourselves the same way.Just TELL HIM that he is the best bf ,and that he means alot to you,and just ask him not to get upset when you dont say everything that he wants you to say when he wants you to say it,because you DO love him but you dont want to feel pressured or obligated to do anything,because if you are pressured,then the things you say,and the love you feel will start to become fake
2007-09-19 19:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by luv11syng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i understand your problem clearly. my bf was just like you and i was like your bf. my bf (now husband) loves me a lot but he can't express it in a sound way. i know he loves me, but still i expect some more expressions of love from him.
firstly,ask yourself if you like or love him or not. be honest to yourself. if you love him, there's nothing wrong to let him know that. i think, expression of love is a key thing in a relationship. otherwise there may arise unwanted problems.
tell him that you love him. be frank with him. talk a lot...laugh a lot. be generous to show him what you feel. don't check the emotions... let them come out. he might be confused if you love him or not. if you do, just express that. trust me, there's nothing wrong with it. i think he'll be ok if his confusions about you are gone.
2007-09-19 19:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Wonderful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Paren Farex's odd thoughts,this one is odd bordering on obsessive. Tell him you have to visit relatives in the"make up place" and see how he is doing in 3 weeks.
Yes break all contact, but promise you will call him in three weeks.
If you love someone,set them free,if they love you,they will come back.
2007-09-19 20:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see:
Underwear, towels, bedsheets, cat litter, socks, AC filter, vacuum bags, the oil in your car, light bulbs, batteries, friends & on occasion the place you reside.
2007-09-19 19:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you are not attached the way he is.he is falling for you ,even though i dont know why because you guys seem young for that.its just that it probably takes more time than him for you to really start liking someone.
2007-09-19 18:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by kingml213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋