We have both been married twice mine were short marriages his 1st was short the 2nd they were together 12 yrs but only married 2 out of the twelve.I am thirty and he is 38 and I am ready to finally have the family thing we have 8 children between us but our 2 year old twins are the only ones that we have together.His ex's cheated on him so now he thinks all women are the same.I am completely in love with him and have never been this devoted to anyone.We live together but I feel like I can never compare to his ex because aside from her cheating on him he thinks she was pretty great.I on the other hand feel like I have to compete and I am always doing everything wrong.I need so help I am so confused?
2007-09-19 18:49:32 · 6 answers · asked by KansasChick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need time apart. That way he can decide if he wants to be with you or not. You have been together long enough and he should know if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you or not. Its not fair that you suffer because of what his ex did. If she was so great she wouldnt have cheated on him.
2007-09-19 19:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by <Carol> 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have lots of problems. You need to triage your problems. I recommend the first thing you do is have your tubes tied. Society will not need anymore strippers or criminals in 18 years.
Next you need to seek professional counseling. After several years of productive counseling, then, and only then, should you attempt to tackle the relationship situation.
2007-09-19 18:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what his long term goals are. Ask him if he sees you in that long term as well. Let him know how you feel about him and that you have anxiety about his ex wives constantly being compared with you....you are not his ex wives and you have no intention of repeating their problems with him!
2007-09-23 18:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 4 marriages between you and you want to do it again with a man who doesn't want to get married.
What are you thinking.....get some counseling.
2007-09-19 19:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a time limit. You can't keep waiting around-someone else may pass you by.
2007-09-19 19:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Serenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not less than anyone, you need confident, tell him you want to get married. 6 yrs is too long without marriage.
2007-09-19 18:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋