How do you deal with intense saddness?

Question

When hope seems far away.

Answer 1

Ms Crone, I'm detecting a pattern to your questions and I'm beginning to worry about you a bit. I think that you need to go to your place of power, among the natural world, where there are LOTS of trees and wild things. Away from all noise, people, and other modern distractions. YOu need to spend MORE than a few hours there, you need to have a period of a couple of days of solitude where you can find a STRONG tree, project ALL of your negative feelings of hurt and pain INTO the tree. Then find another STRONG tree and ask it to lend you some of its Positive, good feelings and just hug that tree until you can take no more of its energies.

Then sit down between both trees and go into a deep meditative state. Make your intentions to be to discern what it is about yourself that is allowing the outside world to have SO much influence on your emotional state, lately. During those few days, eat NO meat, and drink NO artificial beverages, Eat lightly and vegetarian as much as is possible, a little milk or cheese is OK but no more. Cleanse yourself of all animal foods for the time you are there. Drink ONLY water, or fruit juice, no alcohol, or cargbonated beverages, Home brewed Mead or wine is OK, but nothing with artificial chemicals in it.

You need to purge yourself of all the negative and hurtful emotions of the world that you have been picking up over the summer. Eliminating animal products will avoid you having to take up the fears and apprehensions of the animals as they awaited slaughter. Avoiding alcohol will avoid contamination of your body and spirit as you seek to find the sources of your negativity.

Once you identify those things in your life, SWITCH your meditative style and search within yourself to find the solutions to those influences. If you have a familiar pet, bring it along with you. Pets have a way of signalling to you when you have hit on key points in your life that need working on and seem to be able to lend energy to help you repair the damages of those influences.

When all is done, find some CLEAR running water, a stream, river, or even a flowing spring and bath yourself in it, feeling the refreshing waters wash off your nonproductive influences that have originated within yourself.

When done, ground yourself. Do a little ritual of thanksgiving, laeve a small gift to the place and return home and begin to clean up your home, removing those things that bring forth your feelings of dispair. Once that is done, relax to some soothing music, eat a good meal, get some restful sleep and re-start your life with a fresh perspective and renewed energy. Avoid those things that you have identified as being the source of your negativity and find something else to replace them, make the new things be things that are of a positive nature, things that bring you joy and fulfillment. Remember that you have cleansed yourself of the wrong influences and from that point on, only take on Positive influences.

I wind up having to do this myself, at least once a year or at least every other year. I think it's about time that you did this for yourself. This weekend would be an excellent time to do it as it wil be YOUR special celebratin of Mabon. Let me know how it work out for you, Ms Crone. I'll lend you some of MY protective energies and my loving energies as well.

BB,
Raji the Green Witch

Answer 2

I usually deal with sadness by going within and exploring just what it is that the sadness is trying to teach/tell me. Now that may sound simple, but I assure you that it is not; in fact it is an intense and powerful process.

In addition to the process of introspection, I dance - any kind of dance that I feel called to at that moment. Sadness, like any emotion, is both and neither good nor bad, dark nor light; it is Divine energy, and energy needs to move to tell it's story. I've worked with a variety of "trance dance" modalities, such as that of Shiva Rea, Gabrielle Roth, and Daniel Leven, as well as traditional dance - from classical ballet to tribal-style belly dance. The thing is to let the energy move through you, rather than stagnate within. And journalling helps the process immensely.

Jai!

Answer 3

When someone is experiencing sadness for a Death in the Family or someone Dear, or near to them, or if it is because something tragic happened in your Lifetime, the only way to fight sadness would be being strong and brave at the same time. There are People that cannot stand any problem that gets in their way, and sometimes they would rather ignore that something is happening then dealing with it. So, I think that to deal with any kind of Sadness you are experiencing you need to be brave, and think positive, that you will be able to handle anything and everything.

Answer 4

I'm just one of many that has had to deal with this. I lost a son and a daughter when they were babies. I went through the grieving process but the yearning has never gone away. My way of dealing or coping is that I have written a journal to them over the years and it took me 25 years to write a poem for them and after writing it I can't bring myself to read it.

Intense sadness is a part of us, buried deep inside, we have to learn to put it behind a door in our heart or we will go mad.

Answer 5

I let myself be sad for a little while. I have to get things out of my system. Then I try to do things that make me feel better....I listen to music and try to do basic things like re-watching a favorite movie. And I pray. I know that these things don't make my sadness go away but they make it easier to breathe because for these moments I can feel good again. Sometimes those moments of peace last a good while and I know I'm on my way toward healing.

Answer 6

Prayer, Meditation

Answer 7

Ups and downs in life are unavoidable and many times they are beyond our control. One has to behave courageously and with balance of mind during the period of sadness.
It is better to share the grief with close friends or relatives.
Grief gets reduced and joy increases by sharing with close people. Philosophical attitude also reduces pain from grief.

Answer 8

just remember one thing... when you are very sad you may become self destructive, you may see no hope and will like to destroy things. just dont do anything that you will regret for the long term. ....aking a light example throw your beer bottle to the floor donot throw away the monitor.....no matter how sad you are in a few hours/days/weeks you will once again feel happy. just remember that.

Answer 9

I write a letter to someone who I think would understand, then I hide the letter in a box of unsent letters and go to bed.

Answer 10

i guess really its different for everyone....not dure what ur personal beliefs are, but personally i believe e\verything happens for a reason and and tho i may not know what it is I am being prepared to deal with something/one greater in the future.....for me its all about faith