I have been living in my husbands grandmothers house for a month and a half. we were supposed to be looking after her as she has discovered that she is terminally ill. Then my mother in law and her husband moved in too. Since then I have been caring for granny and getting verbally and emotionally abused by my mother in law. I said before granny came home from hospital that I couldn't take full responsibility for her due to a young child of my own, but they dissmissed that and not that it has gotten too much they resent me. We had a huge arguement last night and now I have decided to leave for my own sake and my baby.
I'm I wrong for walking out??
By the way I am taking my baby with me...
2007-09-19 18:32:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You probably made the right decision, sounds like everyone needs some time apart.
2007-09-19 18:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong for walking out. you have a child of your own to take care of who probably takes up and needs most of your time. There are others there who can take care of her. You dont need that verbal abuse either. None of its good for you or your child. You do whats right for your child. Being stressed out and mentally abused by the verbal abuse is not whats best. Plus your mother in law is there it her mother let her take the responsibility to take care of her not you. You already know whats the best thing for you to do, so just do it. Good luck on everything and congrats on the little one.
2007-09-19 18:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by shylovemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Your husband needs to lay down the law here. If theyre living there, they can take care of THEIR OWN MOTHER and your first priority needs to be your husband and child. Your husband should have taken that decision out of your hands and moved the three of you out a while ago. If your bonehead husband's parents have an issue with this, send em to Shreveport ;)
2007-09-19 18:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you have to do what is right for you and your child. Your in laws are there to care for the grandmother so you shouldn't be obligated to stay if you are being treated badly. Does your husband also live there? What does he have to say about everything?
2007-09-19 18:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by sinful_exotic_heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you, your husband and your baby to find another place to live. If they need you as a caregiver, then they should pay you to come in and care for granny if they are going to make the living in situation unbearable.
2007-09-19 19:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your child and move out. It sounds like her son/daughter live there now so they can take care of her. Your first priority should be your child and if your husband does not understand that, then you two need to talk.
2007-09-19 20:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by buzymom72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband is not doing anything about the abuse, then yes. you have the right to be mad. but have you talk to him about it, it is best if you and your husband is leaving but if he is not welling too, for your sake. then leave. don't even think about it twice. but always take your child, you wouldn't want your baby to be in a mess like that. good luck. and you can email me anytime. take care
2007-09-19 18:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by nandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do , dont leave your husband behind. let him know your problem. if he dont get it or wont leave the house, make he think that who should he takes care now. your own family or his. you and your family have your own to care, him, you and your baby. dont let your heart hurt much and getting more. i know it hard cause i've been to it. be strong dont argue with anyone especially your husband. let him be the head to take u out of there. also it is the right you take your baby away. the baby is yours!!! dont be afraid and be strong.. anyway good luck!!
2007-09-19 18:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by women82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man I feel that you are right to leave for the sake of your child and your sanity, but then again it's your husband's family....who is he going to choose? It should be you and his child, but then again there is sick grandma. Either way, his mom needs to back down. He needs to man up and say 'this is hurting my wife and my relationship" and tell her to stop. I guess what I am saying is yes, I would leave too.
2007-09-19 18:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lexie J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband should be the one to stick up for u, if your not getting along with the mother in law u need to leave. no one deserves to be emotionally abused.
2007-09-19 23:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋