Who has divorced based on irreconcilable differences? What happened? How were you both different? What did you not have in common? Did you overlook these differences prior to marriage? Did you have a gut feeling that you two were a little different? Are you friends or aquaintances now? What good came out of your experience? Please tell me your story with all the DETAILS that are necessary.
2007-09-19 18:29:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Great job Machngun!
2007-09-19 19:53:58 · update #1
Awsome Job Road Runner!
2007-09-20 09:25:32 · update #2
mine is a long story. we were married for 4 years.she has 2 wonderful kids from her previous marriage. I took her kid a my own.complete with losing sleep over them.great vacations. bought the kids cars.motorcycles.and 4 wheelers.I had lots of mood swings tho.had a hard time with that.I dont drink nor am I ever abusive.just had bouts with depression. I finally went into therapy and signed myself in hospital for treatment and while in there my wife decided to leave and took the kids and all the furniture with her. the kids havent hardly spoken to me since.shes always stirring things up.shes haveing financial problems and Ive tried to help but am limited myself.Ive met a kind wonderful woman and am thinking of marriage but am not ready yet.the ex has had a hard time moving on too.we have talked about reconciling but neither will relocate.am bitter in my heart about her leaving when I needed her the most.I would call it irreconcilable differences. can never forgive her nor do I want to forgive her.it was a expensve lesson learned.I cant make the paayments on the stuff bought for the kids and she took the stuff with her and is having difficulty making the payments.we were not compatable now that I look at it,shes too self centered and controlling.too head strong too.I am laid back and take life as it comes.she plans every aspect of he life and I am spontanious.I am social. she is a computer type and spends 10 or more hours a day on itmore on the weekends. I love sex. she wants it on her terms only when she wants it.and she has to be in control of the times and duration.I like to be outside. shes an inside type.she controls her kids and outlines their lives to the second when they are out of her sight.I love to cook and make an art out of it, she takes the short cut and makes quick meals.we have little in common.shes a teacher and has been for most of he life. I jump from job to job.am a trucker. thats what we do.anyway. no turning back.she left me at the worst possible time. and if she cant stand beside me when I need her most. then good bye and good luck.
2007-09-20 00:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by road runner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had evidence of her adultery...witnesses even a coworker . I have young children with her and took the path of irreconcilable differences. Was very hard at the time as I was still very much in love with her. 10 months later ...Good luck ex..and thank you !~ We are civil with one another although I do avoid any contact with her unless necessary...no trips to Wally World here..lol atleast not with her.
2007-09-19 18:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 22:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced because I got married way too young and my x was 12 years older than me. Just didn't work.
2007-09-19 18:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex divorced me on those grounds...She wanted out and for 15 years I never raised a hand to her...never cheated on her...never came home drunk....never abused her (verbally or physicaly)...We were married for 10 years before we decided to have kids....had a beautiful little girl. Up to this point we rarely argued...and everything was cool.
About 4 - 6 months after our daughter was born...she told me that she wasn't happy. A few weeks after, I came home from work to a note that she had taken our daughter to her Mom's and wanted a divorce.
I begged and pleaded with her to come home and see a counselor with me...for our daughter's sake...she agreed.
We saw a counselor...things got better. She moved back with me...we talked things out and things got better...so much so that a few months later she found out that she was pregnant again. She wrote in a letter to her family that she was "Never more in love in her life." Soon our beautiful son was born.
6 months later she wanted a divorce.
I told her that this was all too familliar...and maybe that she was experiencing some form of "post-pardum" depression...and since it worked before...we should return to the counselor. She told me, "I'm not falling for his 'tricks' this time!"....and since you can't force someone into counselling...I moved out. A couple of months later I was served papers for divorce on the grounds of "Irreconcilable differences"...because she had no other reason.
The divorce was ugly...she tried to keep me from seeing my kids...tried to tell the court that I abused my children...
My lawyer got her to confess in court that, in 15 years, I never abused her...the kids...was never in any kind of a fight with anyone...and I never even hit a dog or a cat!
Because of that I was awarded joint custody...I ALWAYS pay my child-support...and I have regular visitation with my kids (Who love me as much as I love them!)...We are mostly civil to each other (mostly for the kid's sake)...but every now and then she tries to come up with some kind of scheme to get me to sign over my paternal rights (the last one involved the kid's going to a special private school - and if I signed over my rights I wouldn't be expected to pay half tuition - I told her that I didn't have to pay it now...that if she wanted the kids to go to the school..then send them!)
I see my children every week...I now have a beautiful girlfriend that I adore...and I'm about to go back to court to get even more time with them....and every time my kids are with me we have FUN. I'm the "Disneyland Dad". She has to be the one to tell them to "Do their homework", "Do their chores", "No...you can't go to the party"...etc...
And one day--when they're teenagers and they tell their mother "You don't understand me!! I wanna go live with my DAD!!!" I'll say to her..."See? You should have played nicer!!"
I am past the strong emotions I felt when we split. I really do hope her all the best. She has a great job (She makes about 3 times more than I do now!) and she is a good mother...but she tried to keep me from my children...so I can't forgive her for that...but I can stop hating.
My life is good right now...and I still have my kids...What else could I ask for?!
I hope this answers your question...sorry I got a bit "Long Winded!"
2007-09-19 19:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by MACHNGUN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i diviorced her on those grounds rather than file adultry on her it.s quicker and faster to get . away from her type of a person . fact. my opion?
2007-09-19 18:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋