Did they find out about it? Do you still keep the secret? did you enjoy it or feel guilty?
2007-09-19 18:15:43 · 17 answers · asked by Talent 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did right after we first got married with my ex. I was confused, mainly that's the reason. My husband was being really mean to me at the time, like abusive... not black eyes or punching or anything, but still mean... slapping and choking. Anyway, I think I may have wanted revenge. I don't know. But I broke it off with my ex after a month and a half and got my act together, and eventually so did he... he stopped being violent and began talking about his emotions. I kept it a secret for about a year and a half, but then I got pregnant and had our son... and he starting being the perfect husband and I don't know, the guilt was killing me. So I confessed. He stayed with me. We're at 3 1/2 yrs and things are going great. Talk about a rough start, huh? We both put each other through hell and back... but we grew up and changed for the better, and today, I'm proud of who I am and would never cheat on him again or lie about anything. As a matter of fact, if we weren't together anymore... I'd never cheat on anyone again. It's an awful thing to do to anyone... biggest regret of my life.
2007-09-19 18:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have cheated before. In general, I am a faithful, monogamous person but I have a tendency to stay in a relationship long after the fire has died because I don't like confrontation and the whole breaking up drama...so when I have cheated, it has more or less been a way to get out of the relationship with out as much of the "please, please, take me back/don't leave/I can change" stuff from the person I don't want to be with anymore. So yes, they found out about it because I didn't try hard to keep it secret. I did enjoy it to an extent but yes, I also did feel guilty and I realize this behavior reflects poorly on me.
2007-09-20 01:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by Janineisacoolsouthernchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This goes back to that familiar question of what is "cheating."
Those who take the moral high ground always sound overly defensive. I used to be there. Eventually you find out that the heart is not as simple as that. Anyone who has always controlled their emotions, and thinks they always will, has never had any real emotions. I'm talking about love - Love if you will - emotional cheating.
Yes, I told her. Yes I enjoyed it. Yes I feel guilty. I am guilty, why shouldn't I feel that way?
2007-09-20 01:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by The Babe is Armed! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here's my confession. Was dating a guy named Darren for a while, he was a jerk to me and cheated on me. I pulled up in a friends yard to see my ex boyfriend (love of my life) and flirted like crazy. Darren came out of a neighbors house and thought I was there for him. I told him off and told him to get home, and broke up with him. Then went back to my ex's friends house and made plans to hook up. We did and I had a lot of mixed feelings about it. I hated my ex's current girlfriend, and she and I got into an argument. I thought I would feel better about getting her back, but it wasn't everything I thought it would be. My ex still loved me, Darren never found out. I liked the fact that Darren got played hard, but not so great about the overall experience. Its not who i am and I wouldn't do it again.
2007-09-20 01:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i was 14...but i didnt kno any better = / back then u were in relationships for less than 8 hours and broke up that same day lol
2007-09-20 01:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never! I know how bad it hurts to be cheated on and I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
2007-09-20 03:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I "cheated" on wife of 7yrs. I had made freinds while seperated and i kept talk/text them after we got back togther. I didn't think it was that bad, but she did. I look back on it now and wish i'd never kept intouch w/them. I cost me!!
2007-09-20 01:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by milk-trucker 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when i was married to my now .ex. wife no i never cheated on her but she did that.s why i divorced her when you cant trust a woman or man and this happens it.s better to get divorced rather than wonder who and when is the next time it.s not worth it in my honest opion?
2007-09-20 01:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never. My husband and I, no matter how much problems we have do not use cheating as an outlet.
2007-09-20 03:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No Never. I never would, Its unfair and pointless. Im in a relationship because I want to be.
2007-09-20 01:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Rob83 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋