What happens if you have a strong feeling you husband is cheating on you?

Question

What do you do if he is? what do you say? How do you react? This Question is for a very good friend of mine i keep tell ing her to wait for eveadence but she dont want to wait what do i do as friend to help her and to be there for her what do i say that wont hurt her feelings? I dont wanna say i told you he's not cheating HELP PLZ

Answer 1

Then you have to run it down to be certain

Answer 2

Just because your friend has a strong feeling, doesn't necessarily mean it's true. It could be that your friend is overly jealous and imagining all these scenarios where her husband is cheating on her, and in reality, he's at work doing his job. You're right to try to get her to calm down. If she's so worried that he's having an affair on her, she needs to do some investigative work. It could be as simple as asking him, looking at his phone records, asking his close friends, family, whatever. But, don't crucify the guy until you have more proof!

As a friend, you are her logical sounding board. When she comes to you and starts unloading on you, go over with her why she feels this way. Ask her what proof she has. Give her some logical explanations of why he could be doing the things he's doing. Tell her to do some investigative work before making a decision. The decision she makes could be the wrong one. And, if she makes the wrong one, she will end up regretting it.

Answer 3

Well this is always a hard questions. Cheating is never good and someone usually always gets hurt. My number one rule is if you cheat I am gone! NO ANDS IF'S OR BUTTS! If she brings it up to her husband to soon and he is cheating, he may just get sneaker about it. And she may never find out. It would be best for her to wait so that way she can show him all the facts. And if he is cheating, if it were me getting cheated on, I would have all my stuff packed before he came home, and out of the house. Then confront him about it and telling him I am leaving his sorry ***!!! But to tell you the truth there isn't much that you can do. YOu can tell a friend something till you are blue in the face, but they aren't really going to listen. They are going to do what they want to. And more and likely they learn the hard way. B/c love is blinding!! And makes it hard for that individual to take a step back and see the full picture.
But all in all just tell her that if he is for some reason cheating, that if she pops the bubble too soon, she may never find out! It would be in her best interest ,if she truely wants to know, to wait.
I can see where she is coming from b/c she is very egar to know. If it's going on she wants to put an end to it. But it's all in her hands. You just need to be there for her to have a shoulder for her to cry on either way it goes.
Hope this was some what helpful and didn't put you to sleep! LOL
Hope all goes well!

Answer 4

If she thinks he is cheating then he is, only a wife could know this not a friend. She is scared to death it's true that's why she can't wait. All she wants to hear from him is it's not true and because she wants it not to be true she will believe anything he tells her this is what he is counting on it's how men and women get away with it. Best thing you can do is let her work it out the way she needs to.Just be there for her don't judge her or tell her she shouldn't be doing this. Right now she is not thinking rationally but she will work it out.

Answer 5

I believe it is considered to be lack of trust regardless if she only suspects or has proof. If she thinks he is then she doesn't trust him. Has she discussed some of the signs of cheating with you? Mysterious phone calls, "working" late, caught in lies, a strange odor or perfume that is not hers, etc? How do you KNOW that he isn't?

Does she want out of the marriage and is just using this as grounds? Whatever the "reasons" for her thinking that her husband is cheating, be a friend and don't put your nose too far into it unless she asks.

Answer 6

Your friend gotta decide now before she go snoop around for concrete evidence of infedility whether she wants to stay on this marriage or walk out. If she opt to stay on this marriage no matter what her snooping might bring, than she gotta be very strong to weather this out if in the event, her husband is really cheating on her.

If she opt to walk out of her marriage if her husband is found cheating, she gotta learn how to be calm over such things.

The thing is whether your friend is ready to face the consequences after snooping around? It can be very painful and devastating but nevertheless, it can be a very good self discovery experience.

Answer 7

Behave normal. at least for a while. Ask him why things are different from the usual. Not different s'cos the relationship is growing positively but different s'cos it is not the same-the "unionness" of me being your wife is ....(ask her to fill this blank).
Her expression will show to the husband that she as his wife cares and like to talk things over it. ask in the manner that she is genuine,care, loves,and what to know what could be the problem that as couple should talk it over. To want to protects, cherish this marriage altutde. Not to have a warfare type of approach.
Do not go for a witch hunt for evidence so what if u found out it true BUT what if not true.

Answer 8

Honey if a woman senses that her man is dipping it where it doesn't belong, chances are she's right. Be there for her as comfort when she confirms it and to bail her out if she catches him with his pants off.

Leave these two to their personal business. Stay around as a shoulder to cry on but keep your opinion to yourself or it may come back to you someday. What if she decides to keep him anyway and turns on you because of something you said. Don't think that it doesn't happen.

Answer 9

I know everybody talks about privacy, I say screw it, if you really wanna know find the evidence... Check the cell phone, whatever it takes... Actually I'd probably think about ending it, because regardless of if he is cheating or not she wont be happy until she finds out he is... Because that is her expectation.Weird but true.

Answer 10

unfortunately, any time a partner asks "hmmmmm... i wonder if s/he's cheating on me?".... well, 98.9999% of the time, s/he is.

more times than not, if/when confronted, there will be a complete denial... unless incriminating evidence - pictures, audio recordings, emails, etc. - is presented.

as a friend, you are walking a very thin line. don't feed into it, don't even try to get incriminating evidence for your friend.

best thing to do is listen and hand over the tissues because if you bad mouth her husband or get the scoop on his infidelity, you friendhip will be in jeopardy if your friend decides to stay with her husband.

good luck!

Answer 11

if your intuition tells u something is wrong than it mostis, to confront or not to confront, he may lie to u at first, but i would want to know the truth so i could prepare myself for whatever was going to happen, so i would get someone to follow him, check his cell phone, just keep my eyes and ears open, because eventually he will slip up and the truth will come out. some people can be pretty tricky and work hard at hiding it.