Were you abused as a child or adult?

Question

Do you still speak to the abuser?

all who answered yes deserve stars and 10 points- sorry I have to choose just one

Answer 1

Yes, I was abused. My mother was a disabled, brain-damaged drunk, but she was still verbally abusive and neglectful (buying beer before paying rent). My father was worse...basically he was a violent sociopath and a predator.

For the most part, I stopped speaking to my mother entirely in my mid 20s. This was after the summer I attempted suicide in the aftermath of our *last* heated argument. But I did come back around to help my older sister arrange my mother's final care, and we did get to speak a little, when she was in the hospital dying. Not that it helped, of course, she was still in denial and as messed-up in the head as she ever was....

And of course, a hospital death-bed is no place for a confrontation. Basically you say your goodbyes and suck it up.

And my father? We don't speak. Last I heard, he had cancer of the prostrate, testicles and lymph nodes....and yet *somehow* he was still able to carry on and do his thing, attempting to run a petting zoo for kids, in spite of his reputation around town as a predator. o_O WTF?

Really. My father is one of two people on this earth I absolutely under *no* circumstances will *ever forgive* for his trespassings and atrocities. I can and did forgive my mother because she had brain damage going back to when she was a teenager...and at some point you do realize that she just *lost it* and didn't have the free will to stop killing herself with the alcohol and cigarettes.

But my father has long since gone *past* the point to where he should have *stopped* with his evil and madness, and he still keeps going. I swear if I had to deal with him on a day-to-day basis, I'd have to kill him, and I don't want *that* ruining my life, because then, *he wins* you see....

He's out of state though, and out of my life, and last I heard, his body was *falling apart* on him. He's not long for this earth...he may well have died already. I hope that's the case.

And I hope this doesn't totally wreck the curve here. Thanks for your time. ^_^

Answer 2

Yes as a child and yes even more so as an adult, No I don't have any contact with any of the abusers!!!

Answer 3

As a child by my dad's ex wife.No,I don't speak to her anymore,neither does my dad.Yes,My first serious boyfriend was abusive,so was my first ex husband.I learned a long time ago how to stay away from those people and broke the cycle.

Answer 4

Verbally and mentally abused by others. No, but sometimes your abuser claims to be your best friend. It took me 25 years to find out what a jerk he was. Not only did it cost me time, but also he took me for than $2,000. I feel like the biggest fool who walked the earth.

Answer 5

I started abusing myself at 14, for 11 years this has been goin on

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Yes and yes sometimes, you're kind of stuck in an ethical dilemma when those abusers were your parents.

Answer 8

Nope

Answer 9

Yes and Yes

Answer 10

yes, i was sexually abused as a child
well im still a kid,im 16
ahaha
and yes i do still have to see his ugly face sometimes..
i had to talk to him like a week ago