I am a live-in nanny for a family in London. I am from Nebraska originally but i moved over here and have been with a wonderful family for 2 years. I love the kids and their parents have a great marriage. Most days i love my job. Their is one major problem. I recently discovered i am pregnant. I am 100 percent sure the father is the father of the family i work for, my boss. If i fessed up, it would destroy his marriage and his family. I have not told anyone other than a few close friends, my doctor, and my mother, who still lives in Omaha. What can i do?
2007-09-19 15:28:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes. you need to talk to that man. he has also made a choice to break his marriage vows.
2007-09-19 15:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by beemusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not trying to sound judgmental but if they had a great marriage, what was he doing between your legs since you are 100% sure he is the father of your child? I think you should come clean to the family, ask for the family's forgiveness and find another job away from them. Hope everything works out.
2007-09-19 15:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by ~Anonymous~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?
You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.
2016-02-11 09:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When reading your story a few things popped into my head....1. How good of a relationship could these two have if he is sleeping with you? 2. How good of a father could he be if he would do something (sleep with babysitter) that could possibly destroy the family? 3. How exactly did this happen, did you come onto him or did he come on to you? You are not in Nebraska anymore. I would hope you are going to tell your child about their father otherwise you are protecting him and his family instead of yours. And if you plan to tell the truth to your child, eventually they will want to meet their father...soooo come clean! That is if you are planning on keeping it.
2007-09-19 15:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by april k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my godness, let me tell you no matter what the truth will comes out sooner or later.. All I am gonna say is tell the baby's father, cause you are not the responisble one, he is the responisble too. And you have to talk with him about it.. no offense but you got to think before you slept with the married guy but oh well things happens for a reason... And also you need to think whether you wants to quit or stay work with that family... if I were you I will quit and move back to home state before the wife finds out the affair that her husband had with you.. GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-19 15:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sakae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure it is the father, How did it happen in the first place, yes I know sex, but how. Anyways I suppose you sshould just tell the father secretly, just say I'm pregnant, and don't give anymore, I mean do what you feel is best, Maybe it is best you find a husband before your child is born.
2007-09-19 16:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by Banstaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was such a wonderful family,why then did you screw the (Husband,Father) and vice versa.No wonder Nanny,s get such a bad name.Just fess up you have already ruined the family,next time keep your legs shut.
2007-09-19 15:59:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resign and go home. You have a long road ahead of you. Next time, don't sleep with your boss.
2007-09-19 15:41:11 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋