Ok i know this topic has been up here plenty of times before but I'm in love with my female best friend. I've already tooken the step and told her how i felt and this was last year and all she had to say was i Never had anyway so those sweet things for me and she gave me a hug and that was the end. After that i tried to tell myself that i wasn't really in love with her and i was mistaken my friendship for love but i really am deeply in love with her. I love her so much that sometimes i forget she's not my girlfriend and that she belongs to someone else and it hurts so bad . I've tried to stop being friends with her but i love our friendship to i don't wanna lose that but i dont see any other way out. one minute im happy and the next minute i'm sad because of her . I don't know what to do and i need someone's advice. Thanks
2007-09-19 14:36:55 · 9 answers · asked by Devin B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ah. The perpetual torture of loving someone who does not love you (...in that way)... back. There simply is no other choice. You just have to move on. Find someone else. I know it sounds so cut and dry and the answer is not what you want to hear. Yet... there is no other answer. If she has rejected you this way... you are just asking to be hurt over and over and over again. Moving on is hard.. but it does feel pretty good after awhile when you find someone that you really like... and... wait a minute... might even love too?!? It is possible. Life does go on.... and takes you along with it. Let it.
2007-09-19 14:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the most common of romantic issues and also one of the more difficult to resolve, as you have already found out.From what you have written, it would appear that she does not have any romantic feelings for you but would rather keep things the way they were.Your pain ,sadness, jealousy, see-saw battle within you to either end your friendship and/or your love for her are typical of these situations.While you may try to talk to her again about your romantic feelings for her, I think you may have to give up on this one and settle for the platonic relationship you currently share.Good luck buddy.
2007-09-19 15:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is: first of all think what is more important to you:
the friendship that you already have with her
the possibility of having a relationship with her (with the chances of not working and/or loosing the friendship)
the possibility that because you tell her one more time she is going to get apart from you
after you think trough all that then you decide which one is more important and the do it
after doing the one that you choosed to be the most important
than at least you will know that yo tried your best and that you didin't missed any chances
2007-09-19 14:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by originalquene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off on the passion and focus on the solid friendship, don't lose her by frightening her with romantic overtures. It's better to keep her in your life, love her , cherish her, respect her, don't bad mouth her romantic interest, and when someday he fumbles the ball she may very well think you are the coolest guy in her life and a spark may become a flame..
2007-09-19 14:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by gummy bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. Women are evil creatures who only like to tear out our hearts and shove it in our faces. This is why I only go after hook-ups. I still need the sex for my physical body, but there is a void left from lack of love. The green-eyed ginger ones are the most evil ones of all. Busty Irish beauties are my main weakness.
2007-09-19 14:41:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A year is a long time talk to her again. Only this time don't be quite so casual have a sit down 2 way conversation.
2007-09-19 14:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it like it is friends. because i guranteed if you 2 get intimate friendship is destroyed been there done that
2007-09-19 14:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to be your self and be honest with her. if she likes you back then that is great if she doesn't then you have to except what she has to offer. and just be her friend and if you can't be just friends then you have to deal with it and move on. best of luck to you
2007-09-19 14:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by petlover1082 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let her go, im so sorry
2007-09-19 14:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmine :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋