So I found I was gay (or bi?) about 6 or 7 months ago. I'm 23 years old.. and after a lot of new thoughts and new strange complex feelings coming out, I feel like I've accepted it.. but I read so many "in the closet" stories (I came out to my friends and family once I started to question my sexuality) about guys wanting so badly to have sex and have relationships with other men but feeling scared because of societal prejudices.. but for me while I know those gay feelings are there, I really do not want to do anything about it right now..
There are a lot of gay people where I work, and it still feels very disturbing when gay men freeze up talking to me, staring idly. The thought of men getting horny talking to me makes me feel really gross inside..
Do many gay people go through this kind of phase initially?
2007-09-19 12:42:33 · 13 answers · asked by Yeah 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
re: responses below..
i do know this is for real, because it is an uncontrollable undeniable feeling... i guess as of now i am bi...
i came out when i started questioning, because I was going through a lot of stress (having just graduated college) and i needed my friends to understand.. i'm lucky cuz it was all well-received, but i didn't really expect anyone to shun me..
and at this point, i'm not really ashamed... i guess the "gross out" feeling can be related to how a girl feels when guys stare (yeah that verifies me as gay).. but it makes me kinda feel like a thing..
2007-09-19 13:09:57 · update #1
Don't worry that other men find you attractive. This is the way things are. Their feelings are normal. You, of course, don't have to act on the "vibes" they send out to you, but you might consider it in the future. By the way, don't get sexually involved with people at work. It's way too problematic.
Move ahead with your life at your own pace and in a way that's comfortable for you. If people find you attractive, well, that's a point for you, isn't it?
2007-09-19 12:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by Richard B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may not be really gay (if you are, that is okay) but I truly do not believe you would feel gross inside if you were BUT you also didn't say how old you were and believe it or not, it could make a big difference.
I'm not gay but I am accepting of gay people. IT IS WHAT IT IS, RIGHT?
And IF you are young (teenager) -- don't worry about it for now -- if it happens, it happens - but don't be in a rush to find out. It's all good --- hang in there (sorry you aren't getting an answer from a gay person here) -- just a real person and I care about people.
2007-09-19 12:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, gayer than a pocket full of rainbows, pet. My mother is Off-The-Boat Irish, and my father is half Irish and half Spanish, his father being born in Ireland and mother in Spain.... So, that makes me...3 quarters Irish and 1 quarter Spanish. And the last time I checked my weight I was like 132 or 135. I am 5'8 tall. Let's see...I would fit into: Scene/Emo; Glamour and Shock Rocker; X-Core. As for Gay stereotypes......"Lipstick Lesbian" (Hate that one)/ Android and Soft Femme. What's all this about anyway? :) -Hallifax Apollo
2016-05-18 22:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the thought of men gettin sexually aroused talking to you turns you off then you're probably not really gay. and the fact that you've just discovered this at the age of 23 shows that it's most likely just a sexual curiosity about men. if you we're gay you would have known from the day you we're born. you don't become gay, you're either gay or your not. it's a phase your going through. you're just curious. gay people it's more then just sexual they can see themselves in love with their own gender.
2007-09-19 12:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I like the idea of guys getting excited talking to me. But that's because I know it means they have a genuine interest in me. Given my low self-esteem, I just typically brush off compliments and the such and continue talking. But maybe you aren't really gay or bi, or possibly are just curious and are thinking it's something bigger.
2007-09-19 12:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by kagom_jack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my gay friends have told me yes. You surprise me with your openness about coming out. Many new people to the family as it is sometimes called are timid and aren't so quick to come out to friends and family.
My suggestion is to stick to who you are. don't date anyone just for the sake of dating in your newfound circle, then ur just a manslut. Wait for the right person. and find some close friends who are gay or find a nice girl (usually str8) who is familiar with the gay circle or as they're usually called, faghags. Don't play in to sterotypes, be yourself
Friends not boyfriends will help with your confusion.
Besides you don't need approval about your sexuality from anyone else but yourself.
2007-09-19 12:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by Acappella S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dear Yeah,
Let's try rewording that question Shall we?
"so I'm gay, should I make it any more difficult on myself?"
No.
IF you are gay... Be gay and find someone to be happy with.
All the rest of the drama belongs to someone else.
Love Long and Perspire,
PennyAnn
2007-09-19 13:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe youre a straight guy that happens to find the male body attractive.
I think its kinda weird that youve gone that long and just now notice that you kinda like guys. I don't think you are full blown gay like you might think you are.
2007-09-19 12:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ziggy Stardust 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Offense
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RB: Sena (fast and developing)
FB: Jyumonji (in this position once and it was good enough)
WR1: Tetsuma (dominating)
WR2: Monta (devil backfire)
TE: Akaba (the other ES21)
LT: Bamba (good protecting quartback blind side)
LG: Yamabushi (great use of hands)
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RT: Gonzalez (big and usefull)
Defense 3-4
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LE: Mizumachi (most effective as defensive lineman)
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ROLB: Kakei (Just effective)
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Special Team: 3 more sorry!
K: Musashi (very powerful kicker)
P: Koutarou (very accurate)
KR/PR: Sena (2 KR TD)
Gay off!
2007-09-19 12:45:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have issues dude.. anyone who is truly comfortable with their sexuality is not "grossed out" by the object of their affections... SO... you're either experiencing some self hate issues over it...embarrassment... or you're making the question up to see how people will respond ... your story seems extremely far-fetched... I've never heard of ANY body "coming out as soon as they started to question" ... the more i read your question the more preposterous it becomes...
2007-09-19 12:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋