Do you think I'm wrong?

Question

Okay so mydaughter bday is coming up soon , right..so it just going to be a kids party at the park. Im basically just inviting some family and friends with children. I invited my friend and I remember that last year she brought more people then what I thought and this year I decide to text her asking how many people was she going to take and she text me back saying my whole family mom's, pop's s, two big sisters and her boyfriend plus 3 little girls. Actually 2 of the kids are her big sis kids and the other is her niece. So I dont really mind for one of the sisters but the rest of the people damn..She text me back saying is that a problem and ofcource I said no didnt want to be rude but I just dont like the idea that she's taking everybody and mommas to the kids party. And I did tell her that I wanted to make this a small party. Is not like a grown up party. Im pretty mad about it. You think Im tripping or is not okay what shes doing??

Answer 1

What she's doing is fine because you said it was fine.
You need to learn to say something next time.

Answer 2

Well, my family and these other 2 families are really close. I have 2 kids, one has 3 kids and the other has 4 kids. When we have the kids b-days, everyone comes (kids and their parents) and a few other peeps come, too. And the one whose day it is provides the cake and most of the food, but everyone pitches in, not because it's expected, but that's just how we are. That's in our culture. So if your friend is maybe Spanish or Pacific Islander, then that's so normal. If she's a really good friend, then you should be able to talk to her about things before they get as far as they have. Now that you've told her it's fine, it would be rude to go back on your word. Next time, emphasize how it's a kids party, and they'll do kids stuff and just snack foods or something. On the other hand, you'll have more hands to help setting up stuff and more eyes to help watch the kids.

Answer 3

You have a big problem and that's your friend. I mean if your telling your friend the party is going to be a small one your obviously telling not to invite her entire family. I really think your friend feels she is like your sister so she has the right to invite her family and friends to the party.

If you don't put a stop to this she will never change and she will continue doing what she pleases.

You should talk to her; tell her you don't have enough money to have a big party and that your sorry she can't invite her family and friends. Also, let her know that when you can afford a big party you will think about inviting them yourself. Tell her you don't want to be rude, but you can't afford to spend a lot of money for this party and that inviting more people that's spending more money, and your sorry.

Answer 4

She should know better than to bring extra people to your daughters birthday party. Not really sure on what she it thinking to bring all those people. I think you should tell her that you are planning a small party and would like for only those you invite to come. Maybe later on down the road you could have a pot luck, cook out get together and everyone could come and bring a dish. But for right now it is just a small birthday party for my daughter. I would be mad too!

Answer 5

You are not wrong feeling mad.....

It does not matter if she is your regular friend and close friend, you need to clearly stated your mind. You could easily set the limit to immediately family, that in regular world is spouse and kids. To bring whole family is clear sign of inconsiderate. I do have a suggestion to ask her to bring some drinks and snacks for the party. I think if she is your friend, she souled not mind. You need to learn how to say no, otherwise, you will encounter many challenges in both personal and professional life. Good luck.

Answer 6

If you told her you wanted to have a small party she should not have took it uponed herself to ask her whole family to go. I would have to say friend or not she is walking on you even if you didn't tell her it was not ok for them to come. Being your friend she should have known not to invite anyone else. I would have to tell you don't invite her next year I hope I helped have a good day

Answer 7

NO U AINT TRIPPIN..ok what the hell its ur daughters b-day NOT HERS..dont be scared to tell her that it aint okay to invite the world population, and if she got a problem then she doesnt have to come because u planned this party and she cant just show up with the whole damn family.Good luck

Answer 8

If you have enough time, change your mind. Let her know that you dont have enough food to feed all those people.Explain that you really wanted a small party and you can not accommodate everyone. You are not being rude if you communicate your side of this thing to her instead of waiting till they get there and being irritated the whole time.

Answer 9

Wow, here in Manhattan, people are just glad to drop them off at any party place without supervision or if in the park, they leave a "nanny" nearby.
You are doing the right thing, if it is a "kid's party" then it's just for kids!!! Why do people feel always, they are somehow "invited"???

Answer 10

You could rightly say it is a small kids party so could she just bring a few kids with her. It's your party , you should have some control on how and who comes to it. If it makes her mad then you won't have 25 adults there will you?

Answer 11

A little bit, but some people are like that, my mom has a friend that is like that, but next year kinda lie to her telling her you aren`t having a party so just kinda lie not really. You need to control yourself and tell her to her face that you wanted a small party.