I'm a Scorpio........I know that I really hurt him but, dammit, I want him back. I even apologized for what I did. I was so sincere in my apology. I just want to be able to talk to him again. I felt such a connection with him and I pretty sure he felt the same way. How can I get him back? Oh and by the way, the only way I have to contact him is through e-mail. How do I get him back?
2007-09-19 10:49:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Horoscopes
I don't know if it makes a difference but actually he really hurt me too. But even with that said, I've already forgiven him and I just want him to AT LEAST be my friend, of course I would like it to be more, but I'm not trying to go there. I just want my friend back. The last time I sent him an e-mail was like in the beginning of August. I was really sincere, cause after everything went down, I felt bad. I really do wish there was something that I could do.
2007-09-19 11:10:36 · update #1
Cancer is the crab. And that's just what Cancer men are like when they feel hurt or threatened - they retreat back into that hard shell and it is very tough to get them back out.
As some others here have noted, Cancer men can be moody and overly sensitive. Sometimes you feel like you are walking on eggshells when you are with them.
Do just as you would if you were trying to get a crab to come back out of his shell. Stay near, but don't poke and prod or try to force him out, as this will only frighten him more and prolong his hiding. Be patient and wait until he is ready to stick his head out a little bit, and then you can try to start communicating again. Don't force any issues, just let him know you are there and you are still interested, and if there is a real connection, he will eventually start talking to you again. Rebuilding trust with a Cancer is difficult, but not impossible. It just takes a lot of patience.
2007-09-19 11:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by Cathy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that u love him, and that u made a mistake. The BEST way to get him back (assuming this guy is emotional and sensetive) is this:
1) Mail him a package, make sure it has a special letter inside that is threaded with your heart
2) Put something in there that u guys did together or that u BOTH love, like the first movie u guys ever saw together
3) A "sorry" and "i love you" card will always go nice with your letter
4) Any special photos of you together will be wonderful.
5) Decorating the box will only show him how much you care
6) Gift basket wont hurt either.
If he doesnt accept your apology then he's really not worth it. People will always screw up and hurt others, hell, sounds like u did it for sure; i know i have. You dont have to be a christian to beleive this, but the bible states that TRUE love is to have the ability to forgive; even a moron could figure that out. Just in case your wondering, im a cancer male.
P.S. I know ALOT about astrology, but over the years i found that its just not true. Astrology is just another form of occultism, and the oldest form of phychics. Even science, the greatest tool of turning hardcore religious people into atheist, has stated that astrology is only true because people accept it in their minds. Im a cancer male, but i dont fit the description, im me, not a cancer. So please put this question in the "love and relationship" section.
Good luck, i hope you package or letter will make your man's heart turn all warm, fuzzy, and squshy again =D
2007-09-19 12:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK first thing I am not sure it would be great to try to get back with someone if the only way to get in contact with him is by email because he could have read it and forgot about it or he could have deleted it before he read it. You really need to try to get his number a apology is always better when he can here it and when he has something to reply back with you can answer him and he also could here in your voice how sorry you are. Since the only way is by email send him a message 1 or 2 a week don't keep emailing him he might think your crazy but every once in a while so that way he knows you still like him. When you email him don't always talk about how sorry you are, tell him how your day went and what you an him use to talk about and at the end you could put P.S. I am truly sorry. Well I hoped some of this works for you. If you want to really be with him don't give up until it works, but also keep in mind there could be a better guy out there for you.
2007-09-19 11:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/yJuWL
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-18 16:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're going to have to work really hard to win back his trust - im a scorp and my guy is a cancer. at times i can be really insensitive to him without even realizing it - i do have to be careful sometimes. i dont know exactly what to tell you to do other than be very persistent and depending on what you did offer him the promise that it won't happen again or that you will at least work on it. acknowledging that you've done something wrong often helps - thats something that us scorps don't like to do, but that cancers really need for us to do. scorps are proud and that isn't always a good thing.... hope this helped
2007-09-19 10:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you do something bad to get back at him for what he done to you? It doesn't matter now because he is gone FOREVER. Don't play games with Cancer and most Scorpio people like to play games but a Cancer won't stand for it. Once you let us get away we're gone forever!!
2007-09-19 12:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by GoodGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOPPSS!!!
I don't think you will get him back.............sorry to say. Once a Cancer's deep love, and hard-won trust are betrayed....
That's it. They don't come back for more, it's too much emotional danger for them.
In fact, he will lick his wounds for awhile and recover before letting anyone "in" again.
But whatever else happens, DO meticulously aknowledge and state what you did wrong, and how truely sorry you are, because they need that, or else they'll dwell on it forever and it will haunt them if it goes unresolved in their mind. At least give him that peace, and good luck to you.
2007-09-19 11:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by tiny pup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
o dear o dear... u let a cancer go........ it is almost impossible to get them back....... i have experienced it and learnt from others experiences as well... however i have heard only a scorpio woman can get a crab back! so good luck girl... use your own intution on this one.
but best of all .. back off give him time and space... if he is really yours he will come back... if u run after him he will hide more deeper in his shell...
additionl:
cancers really dont bother about stuff they did to hurt you ..they are a bit self centered when it comes to matters of the heart , they only think about what 'you' did to hurt them... they are extremely sensitive about themselves and never forget an insult or emotional pain others have cause them.... so i guess it doesnt really matter to him that he hurt you, for now he is firm about not wanting to talk to you....
you could give it time or sneek up on him and have a quite face to face conversation... dont go on apologizing again just act normal ask questions... listen to him more than u talking...
chances are slim so best of luck and if things get bad..dont lose yourself ...just let go!
2007-09-19 10:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a Cancer man is through with someone, that's it! Unless it is on their own terms. Be patient and go on with your life. Maybe he will reappear in the future. Remember... you can't make someone love you.
2007-09-19 10:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-23 22:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋