She has only been to one practice so far and it seems like she doesn't want to play. She told some of her teammates that she had detention one day but they had seen her at a football game and told me that. is there anything i can do? should i speak 2 her? or her mother because her mother thinks she is at practice every day. should i tell the athletic director?? HELP!
2007-09-19 10:16:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sports ➔ Hockey
If you are really an eighth grade field hockey coach, I would assume that you know enough about how to do your job, and how to deal with student athletes, and their parents.
There are a LOT of holes in your paragraph.
a) what does her sexuality have to do with it?
b) If she has only been to one practice............was all she did flirt with the other girls?
c) Eight graders are usually 12 and 13 years old..........not usually fully developed sexually to know whether or not they are bisexual and/or the nuances of flirting.
Personally, I think you are very disturbed!
Jenni
Seriously? I don't remember my daughter flirting until she was 16 or 17. Never really thought about her sexuality either...that was her mother's job ;)
Either way, if this guy really is a coach, he should already be well-versed in situations like this.
2007-09-19 15:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by Like I'm Telling You Who I A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course, speaking to the athletic director is advisable. I would suggest that you speak with the girl about the problems that can occur if someone claims sexual harassment because of her unwanted attention. If you feel this girl is a disrupting influence on the team, you, as coach would be obligated to, either, advise her to change her behavior, or remove her from the team.
You probably wouldn't tolerated if some boy hung around practice and flirted with the girls all afternoon. It should be no different with this girl.
As far as telling the parent, I'd advise letting the athletic director handle that. Protect ALL the girls, to the best of your ability, but don't sacrifice the rest of the team's well being for, just, one.
2007-09-19 10:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Vince M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eighth grade field hockey coach player bi flirts girls
2016-02-02 03:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She lied about having detention and ditched practice. Kick her off the team. You don't want flakes on the team.
* wow Like I'm Telling what gives? 12 and 13 yr olds girls around my area are huge sluts. I've seen way too many pregnant girls. Oh and some swing both ways just in case. Our society has made it trendy to be bi.
** Puberty hits females at a younger age than males. I remember flirting at age 12. Oh, and the dad is usually the last to know b/c he doesn't want to think of his little girl as being sexual in any way shape or form.
2007-09-19 13:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
set up a camera in the locker room!
haha jk.
no, seriously, dont give me thumbs down, im 16. its what I would do, but not what you should do.
The sexuallity of a player should not be of concern unless it becomes an issue on field. if she is missing practice and it seems like she doesnt want to play, the best choice is to cut her from the team until she proves to you that she deserves a spot on your team.
do not go to the athletic director, thats going a bit too far. if you choose not to cut her, but she still doesnt go to practice, then you should tell her parents, and let them decide what to do with her.
do not make an issue out of her sexuality, its her call. im willing to bet her parents already know that she is bi. again, let them deal with it. if you do talk to them, let them know you are concerned and are leaning towards cutting her. this makes you look like both a good, dedicated coach, and a concerned adult.
good luck with that, and i hoped this has helped.
2007-09-19 11:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by shotgunmerc 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The girl's sexuality is none of your business. Missing practices is. There's not much more to it.
You only mentioned missing one practice. Do you tell the athletic director every time someone misses a practice? Is that really a reason to talk to her parents or are you looking for an excuse to address the other issue which is, like I said, and like many other people say, none of your business.
2007-09-19 10:48:54 · answer #6 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Her being bi has nothing to do with it. Her sexuality is none of your concern but if she's not meeting her obligations, she should be removed from the team. Speak with the student about her intentions and if she doesn't step up, speak with your superior about how to go about removing her.
2007-09-19 10:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what would you do if she wasn't bi and she was missing practice and lying about why?
the consequences should be the same in either situation.
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as for the flirting, if it is bothering the other teammates they can tell her to stop - if not, then just leave things alone.
2007-09-19 10:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by saf913 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sexual orientation is a non-issue. You are there to coach and teach. Your students are there for training and education. Anything else will not be tolerated. If you cant handle the situation I suggest you find another occupation.
2007-09-19 10:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you and the athletic dir. should set up a meeting with her and mom,and dad, and this should be decussed, because you do not want a a girl hanging around trying to make hits and scores on the players, she has to be stopped, it will only get worse,,
2007-09-19 10:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sonny H 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋