Should I tell her?

Question

Ok so my best friend thinks she is really skinny because she rides horses, but shes not. She isn't fat, just a little chubby. She tells me how skinny she is, and I usually just go along with it. I also know that she lies about her weight, she says 110 but I read her sports physical once and it said 121. Should I tell her that she isn't that skinny, or at least to stop telling people she is because it puts them in an awkward position? I'm her bbf remember so I tell her everything. I just don't know if this is something that I should do or not. Thanks!

Answer 1

don't do it to hurt her feelings... and don't approach her in a way that will hurt her feelings.... just tell her that she's driving you crazy.... that is if you want to tell her... but really... who is it hurting...? you?... her reputation?... has somebody came up to you and said... i hate when your best friend talks about how skinny she is... it makes me not like her?.... if so then tell her just on the fact that it is getting other people annoyed... if its not bothering anyone but you..... tell her why its bothering you... if you can't come up with a good reason... then just leave it alone.... good luck....

*you might want to talk with her and see if she is borderline for some type of eating disorder too.... just a thought!

Answer 2

Well...if your friend is always talking about how skinny she is, then she's probably already aware that she's not. We tend to put a lot of emphasis on those things in life that are at the forefront of our thinking. I believe she may be looking for some reassurance from others that she looks okay.

With a friend like that I think the most important thing to do is simply let her know that skinny or fat...she's your best friend. When you're together and she brings it up...simply give her comment as little acknowledgment as possible and change the subject.

As far as other people are concerned...It's not up to you to manage their relationship with her. If it bothers them...they'll say something themselves.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

121 isn't fat... :/
Unless she's, like, 4 feet tall or something. That's a perfectly normal weight.
Maybe you're being too critical of her, actually. That doesn't sound like a "chubby" weight.
Most people think things about themselves that (to everyone else) may not be totally true. It doesn't mean she's lying - she might actually believe she's skinny (and it honestly sounds like she is).
Don't tell her. You might do the same thing... you could think your eyes are pretty, when people think they're average. Or that your hair is awesomely shiny, but others think it's dull.
Either way, why hurt her feelings when she honestly isn't chubby anyway?

Answer 4

Your friend might be going around saying that she's skinny because she either wants to believe it or needs a confidence boost. Maybe it's a way for her to let people know that she needs encouragement about the way she looks. I wouldn't tell her that she's NOT skinny or chubby (though 121 is a perfectly healthy weight). But you should hint that it's rude for her to go around and brag about her weight to others. Also, compliment her on something that she's wearing. It will give her that extra boost. Good luck!

Answer 5

When you come rite down to it, how important is it?! Like you said, she's kidding no one but herself. If she "shaves" a few lbs. off herself, thinks people believe her, that's on her. They also know the truth. Also, do you honestly think by you saying anything to her is really going to matter anyway? It's up to you IF you really think it's going to change what she says. And again, really how important is it...I'm sure others feel the same way as you, but they just smile & say to themselves the same exact thing you are thinking. In this case, I would just leave "well enuf alone". It all falls back on her anyway. She has to know people aren't blind & really know the truth anyway. Now, if she weighed 200 lbs. that wld. be another story, but what's 10 lbs. Or maybe you cld. just say, why do you worry about a lousy 10+ lbs. Wouldn't it be better if you didn't say anything at all rather than elaborate on the truth. It's up to you.

Answer 6

121 pounds is skinny. I really don't want to know what you consider chubby. And also, different scales can say different things. Maybe she does think she is 121. Let her think that. Don't be a prude.

Answer 7

It may be a really hard thing to do but she is your bf so I think you should probably tell her! Try to do it in the nicest way possible and don't say she is really fat just not as skinny as she thinks she is! In the end I think she will be glad you told her so she isn't making a fool of herself.

Answer 8

Different people have different views on being skinny or chubby or fat. If you think she is chubby, you should tell her that YOU think she is chubby. I say this bc other people might think she is skinny. Have you asked other ppl for their opinion regarding her weight? Have they told you honestly that they think she is chubby? If the majority of the ppl tell you she is, then tell her.

Answer 9

121 isnt skinny or fat. Id say its normal unless ur friend is a midget then yeah its fat. Tell her shes not skinny but medium. You should cuz people look at you akwardly thinking ur retarded. If shes your friend then she wont get mad.

Answer 10

You can either ignore her when she talks about being skinny. Or tell her you don't want to hear it anymore. Find a nice way to say it of course, but do not tell her she's chubby.