I have two daughters who just turned 12 months old. And i am pregnant again. I just recently told my husband that i am pregnant again. He isnt as happy about it as i thought he would be. Our plan was to have three or four children but the twins were unexpected and we didnt expect to have another baby this soon after. Anyone have advice on how to get him more excited about this new baby
2007-09-19 09:27:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
give him time. Men see babies as a money pit. He will warm up soon!
2007-09-19 09:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really offer much advice from experience because my husband and i planned for this pregnancy and tried for 4 months. We then lost the baby at 5 wks after knowing for one wk. Then our doctor gave us the go ahead 3 wks later to try again and here we are at 37wks and 6 days with our baby girl.
The only real thing i can say is maybe once he feels the baby move he will become more excited. My husband was excited from the beginning, but when he felt her move it was even more real and exciting for him. When the doctor said she was able to hear us from the outside he began singing and reading to her every night.
I could go on, but it is not my goal to make you feel worse about the situation. He was caring and watched out for me and helped out as the pregnancy progressed, but once he felt her move it was like "Oh my goodness there's a baby in there and it's mine." kind of attitude came on.
I can imagine twins would be something of a surprise when planning on or expecting one. My husband joked about that saying he wanted us to have twins so we could each have a baby to spoil *laughs*. I told him to trust me that one would be enough for the first time. This baby is his first, but my second.
Anyway, i wish you luck with your husband and your pregnancy!
2007-09-19 16:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by ~Angel Eyed Pookie~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was definitely not happen when I found out I was going to be a father. The thing is that men don't bond with little screaming things. Women do because that little screaming thing was inside of you; it was part of you. Combine that with maternal instinct, and it is easy for woman to develop an attachment to their babies. Men operate on a more rational (less emotional) level. I did not fully bond with my daughter until she started talking and chatting with me. I did the whole dirty diaper thing, and I cradled her to sleep many nights. But until we had a conversation, I didn't have the same feelings her mother had. My daughter is now 7, and we are very close. I think the role of fathers is just different. He's supposed to support the family and worry about the future. He sees this as a threat to the security of your family. If you have a loving relationship, I'm sure he'll come around.
2007-09-19 16:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just explain to him that you need support right now. Plus the sooner you have them the sooner they are out of college and not living off you. lol... We just got married and lots of people are telling us to have kids early so you are still young enough to travel again when they get older.
2007-09-19 16:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cash, Gage and Jax's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably still in shock haha I know I would be. Give him time to soak it in eventually they just relize they have no other choice except to be positive and get excited. Maybe if you get your twins excited about it then he will be too:o)
2007-09-19 16:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by ashleylynne_84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we've been ttc for so long that he was super psyched. but they do show their emotions differently then us women do.
don't try to get him excited. there's no need. let him be. he is excited in his own way. give him time. maybe he'll get excited when your belly grows bigger, or when he hears the fetal heart tones. or when the baby gets here. excitement shouldn't be rushed. let him be at his own pace
2007-09-19 16:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋