i'm 7 months along in my pregnancy and I'm starting to feel like I well never find someone to take care of me. so do you think I sould forget about the men and just think about my kids
2007-09-19 09:10:38 · 25 answers · asked by firefly_02 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I assume that you are keeping this child, even though the father is not around, because you have not had an abortion and you make no mention of adoption. Do you know what this means? It means YOU are the only one responsible for this child. You also state that you are looking for a man to take care of you. WHAT?!?!?! If you cannot take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of this baby? I come from a single parent family, where I was raised by my mother. She made the decision to keep me, and she did. She got up in the middle of the night with me crying, she was the one that changed my diapers and she was the one that worked crazy hours, all to make sure I had everything I needed. The bottom line is, she didn't look for some guy to pawn off the responsibility on and you shouldn't either. You know what? I have more respect and love for her than any person I have met in my life. I have no criminal record. I did well in school. Basically, I turned out to be a good person, because of it. If you know you are unable to take care of this child yourself, you should give it up for adoption now and save the both of you a lot of pain later on. No, you should not be focusing on finding a guy at this point. You have a much bigger responsibilities on the way!
2007-09-19 10:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Danny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single parent. I take good care of myself and my son. I live alone and for some time now I felt I should just live for my son. After 2 years I realized I wasn't ahppy living this way. I then realized my son is not totally happy if I am not. I thought about it real hard, and know now that I am getting older and want to share the great things in life with more than just my son and I. There is so much in this life that should be shared with that other person. Yes you should not ever stop living for your children, but also you should not ever stop living for yourself. You are just as important as your kids are. Just please don't ever put anyone before them. You need to live for them as well as yourself. No don't ever stop thinking about loving someone else. It is a sad lonely life by yourself.
2007-09-19 16:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by mykd4sound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely stop worrying about finding someone right now! That doesn't mean you won't ever find a great guy, but if you get on with your life, and become really happy with yourself, you'll be much more attractive to a fine man should one happen along.
Meanwhile, if you think you need someone to take care of you, please consider making an adoption plan for your baby. Someone will love and cherish him/her and will take the burden and stress of one more off your shoulders. Focus on yourself and your children. BE someone one! Good luck.
2007-09-19 16:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to rely on somebody else to take care of you. I know how hard it can be during pregnancy, and if you really need help during this time you can always ask a family member. But don't wait around for some guy to save you!
I don't mean that you should give up on love. If you find a guy and fall for him, that's great. But don't expect anybody to take care of you!
2007-09-19 16:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely forget about the men. The right one will come along in due time - when you're really ready and when it's time - just because he's not the father of this baby, doesn't mean he won't love it like his own. Focus on your kids. Time goes by too fast and they'll be grown and gone before you know it.
2007-09-19 16:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by #2 (It's a Girl!!) due 5/27/ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No you don't need anyone other than yourself. I was alone when I was pregnant. You need to take care of yourself first. As soon as I did that I found someone. You can't sit around & wait for prince charming to come & sweep you away to a palace & take care of you. Take care of yourself & the kids & you will find someone one day. Men get scared of feeling like they have to "take care" of a woman. They want someone self sufficient.
2007-09-19 16:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Cheyenne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont "need" a man to take care of you; you have just been programmed to believe you do. Take stock of your assets; study, learn and grow. That child will need a strong mother and one who is not afraid to go out and meet the world on your terms.
Your education now will translate into a salary or income later that will provide a handsome life for you and your child; and then, later, if you do meet a special someone, he will really admire you because you are a well rounded person, who has grown over the years, mentally and emotionally. Men don't admire women who consider themselves second class citizens, "needing" a man to be whole. A real man truly admires a real woman, who is intelligent, self sufficient, fun to be with, up to date on important issues, and can carry on a conversation that doesn't consist of diapers and how much you "need" him.
Good luck to you.
2007-09-19 16:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to take each day at a time - easier said than done I know. Try to focus on what's in front of you (your kids, work, friends, family, etc). The thing I try to remember is to try and have some peace of mind so that you can be grounded enough to take care of your children properly. Good luck
2007-09-19 16:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't necessarily need a man to take care of you but you will need someone to give you a hand, or lots of hands like aunts, sitsters, your mom. That way you can work and take of yourself financially. But you do need help with the kids, so get a support system, maybe a group of single moms, you can alternate taking care of kids, etc...
2007-09-19 16:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by dakini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe uv got a beautiful thing coming your way, im sure your aware of that. If you really want a man jus concentrate on being happy and go out with your friends when you can, do stuff you enjoy and the right man will come to you. Don't expect a husband as soon as uv met though, he will just run, it will take a bit of time but im sure there is someone for you!
2007-09-19 16:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by Kasia K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋