Who agrees with those who says smacking a child gets results? right or wrong?

Question

I personally do not agree with smacking and never have smacked my child, believe it or not...all it does is teach the child to hit and that, this is the only way to take control of a situation.

But it's your views i want to see.

Answer 1

It gets results, sure... for better or worse. It teaches a child that "might is right," and that you can get your way by hitting.

I don't believe in hitting or spanking of any kind.

Answer 2

Let me ask you a question - if you had a child who continually ran into the road after breaking free from you time and again - talking to your child didn't work - would you rather smack your child to teach him/her NOT to run onto the road and risk getting squashed OR would you rather wipe your child up off the road? Let me put it another way - if you climbed onto a wall and fell off - you would hurt yourself and think twice about doing it again! It's the same when a parent smacks a child - the child thinks twice about doing the wrong thing! >They will hit other children too< That's actually a load of rubbish! Of all the children I've looked after the ones who are more violent are the ones who don't get smacked! Smacking shouldn't be so the child is black and blue, shouldn't be across the head and shouldn't really be done in public view so as the embarrass the child! Neither should parents yell at their children - this can be worse than one short sharp smack on the back of the leg! If anybody cares for children as a nanny/childminder etc they shouldn't smack their charges! Another thing I would say is - after a certain age children don't need a smack as they can be reasoned with! A smack shouldn't come with temper either - if a parent goes to smack a child - several warnings should be given to give the child a chance! NOT to teach a child how to behave and obey/respect their parents is just as cruel as smacking and shows a lack of love!

Answer 3

I never use it,except when the kids were toddlers and even then it was just a little swat on the behind,more tokenistic than anything. I doubt they even felt it much through those thick pampers. But I use withdrawal of something positive - no movies for a week,etc - rather than negative conditioning,in other words punishment. I get better long-terms results that way. I definately don't believe in physical punishment; all that teaches is might makes right. You're right because you're stronger,bigger,whatever. It's a recipe for creating a little fascist. Kids who get a lot of physical punsihment tend to be bullies around the neighborhood or at the platground,and they grow up to be obnoxious,overbearing control freaks.

Answer 4

Children need to be taught discipline in the right way without denying them the freedom to evolve on their individual paths. Above all, they need support and unconditional love to help them develop into happy and confident human beings.

For moral training, suggest and invite, not command or impose. And suggestion is best given by personal example, and dialogue. Absolutely avoid smacking children as it only teaches them that violence is the best way of maintaining control. It encourages them to hit other children. Punishment is sometimes indispensable, but if it is applied too frequently, it may bring negative results. Frequent punishment tends to make the child irate, secretive and distrustful and leaves painful imprints on his / her character!!!

Answer 5

I have smacked their fingers for touching things after I told them 3 times or more not to touch, I have also smacked their butts when they've charged at me physically and disobeyed. Although, These are rare incidents and most of the time talking solved the problem.

Answer 6

There is a difference between spanking and beating. A smack on the butt isn't really to hurt the child, it's to show who is in charge. If most time out parents could step back and see how awful their kids really were they might resort to a spanking once in awhile. Spanking a child teaches violence as much as putting a child in time out teaches them to hold someone captive. Give me a break. I was hit as a kid and I grew up having respect for my parents and turned out to be a well adjusted adult.

Answer 7

Personaly when i see a child misbehaving, the parent should try to control the child with a simple word.

If the child doesnt listen then maybe a facial gesture and a firm command.

If the child still doesnt listen then i think smacking the child is the last resort.

I do actualy agree with it. (Only as a last resort)

Answer 8

I don't agree with hitting and if you raise you children the right way the thought will never enter your mind. I would like to smack some parents though.

Answer 9

OK! I got smacked as a child and it did not teach me to smack others! I choose not to smack my daughter because I just don't like smacking anyone.

Answer 10

When children are too young to understand anything else it is the only way to teach them what they did is wrong. In older children is also the last way of getting through to them. Did we have such a "youth yob" culture when children were disciplined properly i.e. smacking if neccessary in schools and the home? NO. Do we now when people believe such meaningless, pathetic statements as mentioned in your question? YES.

The side effect you mentioned is very minor compared to if they grow up completely undisciplined, which sadly many children do these days.

Answer 11

i was smacked as a child (only when i was very VERY naughty!). It didn't do me any harm and i certainly didn't grow up thinking hitting people was ok. having said that i will never smack my child - i think this is a reflection of how society has changed in afew years rather than people themselves.