When someone hurts you do you tell them how you feel or wait til you go home and wish you had said something ?

Question

When it's too late?

Answer 1

yes the same thing is happened daily in the year 2006.with my girl friend because she use to tourcher me and hurt me every she use to say me bastered and the only thing my weekness is that i never said any thing to her because i really love her whole heratedly but now she is not there in my life she got another boy friend and i too living a noraml life but now she use to call me daily and she use to say me sorry and i want u and but i netver hurt her

Answer 2

If I'm experiencing much hurt, I usually take some time to myself (a few hours) to think it through, as speaking during an intense emotional state can oftentimes affect the manner and wording when expressing oneself (especially women). Then I speak with the person.
If it was something minor, I usually say it then and there, if it is the time and place to say it (for example, not at work), or wait until we have some privacy to talk.

When is it too late?
In my opinion, its when the other assumes everything is just fine and dandy, you continue to act as if nothing for days, then bring it up. I find that senseless.

Answer 3

Sorry, but life is not that simple. It totally depends on the circumstances. If always go home and say nothing, you'll live a life of regret and get walked on all the time. If you always say something, you will often put your foot in your mouth and be a jerk. That's not a good way to make friends or get your way. In the end, the best way to go is to analyze each situation for its own merits and context. THEN decide whether to say something.

Answer 4

Not right away, but within a minute or tow. Reason is sometimes when we get hurt we tend to overreact. Its better to wait a minute or two and then tell them how you feel. We generally tend to say the wrong thing when were angry or emotional. Never keep your feelings bottled up. If someone says anything that upsets or insults you, tell them calmly how you feel.

Answer 5

I always think of the perfect comeback after the fact, I really wish that I could be more sarcastic and quicker of wit, I need to work on that because I just experienced a situation on monday that addressed this very issue!!

Answer 6

It really decides on the issue. Sometimes I say it then and there. If Im too upset, i just walk away, and call the person later to tell them how they hurt me.

Answer 7

It depends if they're really drunk/ not themself. Also they might say something cause they're reacting- it's not you- it's just that your comment is the last straw in their crazy day.

In general I'd say it at the time. If they make fun of you in front of lots of people on purpose- then they can be humiliated by your reply in front of lots of people; they shouldn't have crossed the line.

But sometimes it's a very sensitive time, e.g. their relative has died/ hormonal times and so I'd tread a bit more carefully then.

Answer 8

You should always something reguardless. Live is too short to hold back. If someone has hurt you let them know. If you dont release it, it would be like walking around with unwanted baggages.

Answer 9

It would depend on the situation but i find that it is usually best to say something asap otherwise i have a tendency to dwell on things and that way things seems to get alot worse

Answer 10

Unfortunately I usually go home and think about it and don't say anything unless it was really really hurtful. I know i have to stand up for myself more often. I am working on that.