Hi,
I recently caught up with a former student of mine who I haven't see since she graduate (2005). I was never interested in her before, she was my student after all! But, she has turned into a beautiful women. She was so easy to talk to and so sweet, I can't get my mind off of her. But I find myself caught in a moral dilemma. Is it wrong for me to try to pursue her? There is a bit of an age gap, but I know she likes to date older, and I also know that she is into women. What do you think?
*Sorry for any typos, math teacher here!*
2007-09-19 08:17:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
latourneau???? Your kidding me right? That kid was 12!
2007-09-19 08:30:46 · update #1
If you are both of age and no longer in a teacher/student relationship, why should it be wrong?
2007-09-19 08:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by astralpen 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why there should be a problem. The difference between student and former student makes all the difference you need, as far as I'm concerned. The reason for not allowing teachers to date students (assuming we mean college, where the students are old enough) has to do with your objectivity in assigning grades. Once the class is over, that's no longer at issue.
2007-09-19 08:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would form a friendship but would not pursue a romantic relationship until she provokes it. I only say this because you don't want to turn her off from you...she might think you're creepy if you just come on to her, because like you said, you were her teacher after all! If she initiates the relationship however, then go for it!
2007-09-19 08:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by travwell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm on the other end of the store. I'm currently dating my college admissions counselor. I've since graduated, but I originally met him when I was touring my college during my senior year of high school.
I kept in touch with him throughout college and during my last year of college, I found myself attracted to him so I asked him on a date. I was 22 at that point and he was 29, so the age difference wasn't a problem, but he was somewhat of a role model for me at one point, I guess.
In your situation, I'd say go for it!
2007-09-19 08:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by gopher646 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Former student? Nothing's wrong with that as long as neither one of you are married. Whoever cites the examples of LeTourneau obviously doesn't know the whole story. That teacher was wrong because the student at the time of the liaison was a MINOR.
2007-09-19 08:24:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
So long as she is mature , over 18 and appears able to make sound judgments whom would you be to question her choices, even if that choice is you?
Go with it, there are no rules if your both adults, the age is insignificant so long as you both have things in common.
It all adds up as Mathematically sound advice...
2007-09-19 10:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by Adonai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she's your student anymore so I don't think a problem exists. Had you developed feelings for her while she was a student then yes...wrong wrong. But time's passed so do what you want.
2007-09-19 08:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by JoJo 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking highschool or university graduate??
If highschool, she's still pretty young and naive.
Also, how did you 'meet up' and how do you know she likes older women?
2007-09-19 11:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by stevemeister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you ask this yesterday? She's graduated and I assume a legal adult, so no conflict of interest or problem with age.
Talk to her, flirt and see what happens.
2007-09-19 08:25:26 · answer #9 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Ur both of age and i see no problems with it. Go for it!! Hope it works out :)
2007-09-19 08:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋