my daughter and my son have myspace's and my daughter said on my 13 yr old sons profile there was a comment that said he wanted to f*** a girl! what should i do?
2007-09-19 08:10:14 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Confront him about his lack of discretion and respect for women, and counsel him about sex. See a marriage/family/child counselor if necessary.
Revoke online privileges in the house (you decide the extent and term); keep the computers in family areas where everyone can see what is going on; install Network Nanny or other parental protection monitors. I forbade my child from using MySpace just on spam/Trojan horse/virus grounds. That site is a veritable cesspool of malicious software.
MySpace, FaceBook and other online social networks may feel private to the user and the user's invited group, but the fact is that any information posted on these sites is readily available to anyone in the world. This includes future universities and colleges to which your son may eventually want to apply. There was recently a case of someone busted for DUI getting a heavy sentence because she stupidly posted pictures of her getting wasted on a social networking site.
2007-09-19 08:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Gregg 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The internet is a very dengerous place. Have your daughter show you.
Myspace is great and can be a lot of fun to communicate with your friends. Even younger people, however people can miss use it. It can be another way for preditors to find you. All you need to use myspace is an email account and those are so easily made up.
I clean a house for a woman who has a two young twin girls that are both 13 as well and super cute. They each have computers in their rooms and I saw last month where she found their myspace page and had them eliminate it and they did. So of course they did and created a new one. I see them on it when Im in there rooms and when they leave it on and it says they are uch older than they are. Like 16 or 17. And older guys like 18 are writing "Your so F***ing hot!!" and they totally abuse it. Their mother took their computer's away and now she has some "nanny program" on the main computer of the house to where they can only go to websits for education and under 17.
I would take away his internet prvilidges. Sorry you heard about that. I know you are worried. Good Luck with all of that!
2007-09-19 08:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make him remove the comment. Tell him that you will monitor his account, and that if he does not let you have access to the Myspace page you will lock your computer with a password and he will not be able to sign on unless you are in his presence.
My daughter is 18 years old, in college, and I still look at her myspace page. She was a Sr. in high school and and had an inappropriate picture on there and I called her at work and told her I gave her until 10 minutes after she got home to remove it.
Follow through with your threat if necessary.
You are the parent. You have every right to be all up into your children's' business.... you should be. Trust me, it will make them think twice before they do something if they know you are watching over their shoulders. Every child needs some amount of privacy, but every parent should know exactly what their child is doing.
2007-09-19 08:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by deanie1962 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Taking down the account is NOT going to solve the problem. They will just go to the library or a friend's house and do it again.
Instead, ask your son about it. My son was 13 when he suddenly told me he had sex that day with his girlfriend! Rather than scolding, I asked him if he felt that was the right thing to do right now and how was he feeling about the whole situation. Then we discussed that physical connections might feel great, but the emotional connections can be more than he bargained for. Discussed how guys and girls feelings can get destroyed if the relationship falls apart (which it often does).
Then I took him to the store to make HIM buy condoms. Told him that I didn't want him having sex now, but that he needed to take responsibility for his own actions. That I was not going to raise his babies. Then I made him go to the health clinic for a VD exam! >:)
2007-09-19 08:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one I would prohibit them from myspace and do your best to monitor that they are not going on there. It is simply not a safe place for children, and I know for a fact that predators have access to it. As for what your son did, I believe you need to revisit the whole sexuality talk with him. It is certainly not abnormal for a 13-year-old boy to be thinking about sex, but of course you want him to be appropriate about expressing his interest in it.
2007-09-19 08:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Gretta 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-26 18:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by dragoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this sure makes me feel glad I've got my five raised.
It is a hard job. I think this young man needs to lose his privilege. Mighty appreciative is he, of the right to be trusted, to show some class. He needs a wake up call and I hope you can do it in a loving & firm way.~~~~
I was the one in our family that did all the teaching & talking. My husband just didn't have it in him & being in the military most of their lives, he was gone. So a lot of the raisining was up to me.~~~
I don't envy you honey. These kids didn't come with instructions.
I was strict & my children thought I had eyes behind my head. Today when they tell me of the roads they could have chosen, if not for our active church going & me, I shutter & thank God.
Best of luck to you Your reaching out & that's good~~~Jill
2007-09-19 08:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
calm dowwnnn. I'm thirteen and I have a myspace, and yes you should listen to what I have to say. I just changed from a private school to a catholic school. The kids are maturing a lot faster than I think you want them to. The kids in my class pass notes, and I say one and It was like "You f*cked her right?" Times are changing. Kids are doing drugs and having sex. You can't stop it, so just teach your kids the right way. Hopefully you taught them well enough for them to make the right decisions, and you have to trust that you did. My parents always told me what sex was and things, and they told me that if I was ever pregnant, not to have an abortion and to come to them and they would support me. I would like you to know that I am not sexually active if that is what you think, but soon you are going to have to let them out of the nest, ( I know it's hard). Just explain to them right from wrong, and trust that YOU did the right thing. You could also check his myspace routinely (make sure he knows about it) and tell him he needs to have an appropriate myspace. You can also go on myspace and delete the account if you wish, but that would just be covering up your problem. He is going to want to have sex with the girl whether or not he has a myspace. You need to have a talk with him. Good luck!
2007-09-19 08:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by <3 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
My son just got a myspace also. The only thing I could think you could do is talk to him and make him close his account until he is older.
2007-09-19 08:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by amscrystal76 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him. You should always check your kids myspace pages and friends. My son had some hoochies on his..they were gone the very same day!! My younger son is always available to snitch out his brother!! LOL
Tell him to either keep it clean or no myspace. Then have the "TALK" with him.
Good luck to you both
2007-09-19 08:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by Perennial Queen 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋