Why do modern women feel that a husband should give and give and give and expect nothing in return ?

Question

Christina B where do you live ? The 45000 $ suv she drives, the 500k (though thats optimistic thesedays) house she lives in, what do you think payed it ? Her Arts/womyns studies degree ?

I already have the type of woman I want in my life. She is a peach :). I just wouldnt call her a modern western woman.

Answer 1

This is a typical attitude when you belong to a category of freshly emancipated people -

Answer 2

Well because if you give once then you will stop and never
give, give and give again.

Lets be honest, Most men work their 8 hours just like "modern women" and think that they can come home, turn on the tv and call it a day.
Women, now and before, always had much more to do than men. We come home after 8 hours of work, fix the house, cook and take care of the kids (if any)
Now...........
don't ask why we feel that way, but if you or anybody else didn't understand the first time......then I would put it in simpler words.
"Cause men are lazy!" and if they do, do anything, then I'd say..."It was about time!" Don't expect NOTHING in return !!

Answer 3

You could just as easily ask "Why do modern men feel that a wife should give and give and give and expect nothing in return?"

Women, even those who have outside jobs, do 90% of the household stuff.

Most men come home from work and expect the women do do everything. The men take and take and take and take, and don't give.

But then, neither picture is true of ALL couples.

If you don't love your wife at all, then why are you married?

Do her a favor, and let her get away from you.

Answer 4

When I see postings like this, I try to approach it with tact because I don’t know exactly what your current situation is with your marriage. But it seems to me that someone made the wrong choice in the woman they chose to say “I Do” too. People (meaning men and women) have a tendency to fall in love with the idea of being in love. Not falling in love with the person they’re supposed to be in love with. Just the thought of having someone in their lives or being able to say they have a girl friend, boy friend, husband, wife makes them put up with anything just to say they have someone. Deliver me from these people who can’t stand to be alone, or feel they need a man or a woman by their side to determine their self-worth. I don’t know anything about your wife (or wife to be) but I’m going to step out on a limb and say that you knew she was like this before the two of you even tied the knot.

People will show you who they really are with out saying a word. Just by their actions a lone you can tell if it’s something about this person that will either like or dislike. And I’m sure you saw she was self-involved before the two of you even decided to get married. Men/Women don’t change over night. So you knew her selfish tendencies and you accepted them upon marriage. There is no need to wine and complain now that the marriage is final. If you’re not happy, my advice to you would be to leave. File for separation or divorce and move on with your life. And it may not even be her. It may be you! She may just want you to spend some time with her or do a little work around the house, but your sports and hanging out with friends is more important. For every action my friend, there is a reaction. She’s probably feeding off how you respond to her. If you’re not handling your business like you should, be careful, because some body else will.

Answer 5

Hon that's not modern women just selfish women!!!! Stop thinking about selfish women and starting thinking about the type of women you want in your life so they can appear. Don't you know that what you think and say is what will appear in your life? So don't say what you don't like say what you do like and say I am so great-full that only kind unselfish woman are attracted to me thank you thank you thank you. This works for other things as well. Also what you are is what you attract Learned that the hard way. We create our own world.

Smooches

WonderWoman

Answer 6

I dont know what modern women you're hanging out with...But that to me sounds like a young girl..not a woman. There is give and take in every good relationship. Perhaps if a man makes the inner woman the priority when he goes out to find his mate versus the outer female ...Im sure one can find a balance of brains and beauty all in one. You're making women sound like childish selfish Princesses. Dont settle for anything less then a Queen!

Answer 7

It depends on your perspective and the woman. How about asking for things that you want in an open honest and discussional manner. My suggestion would be if or when you have a partner, both of you write down what you want and then compare notes. Make it a win/win situation. It works if handled with respect for both people.

Answer 8

That applies to both sexes. I'm a modern woman and I beleive in a "give and take" relationship. It can only work with both people making the effort. Thank you and may GOD come soon to right the wrongs that have been done on this earth.

Answer 9

I think many women forget men aren't cash cows or put on this earth to meet their every emotional whim. Not all but many are self-centered with idealistic expectations. There's some good women out there but sometimes we also need to have the courage to set healthy boundaries with our wives or girlfriends just like they do with us.

You may wanna check out a good book called, "No More Christian Nice Guy" by Paul Coughlin. I think you'd like it!

Answer 10

Its not just modern women mine is 58 and i cant get her to do anything around the house and i work and own my own buisness she wont even make love to me unless i start it first no ofence but my women is black and has an attiude but as long as we keep on giving and giving its our fault if we put up with it dont make any threats u wont do cause it gets worse just sit her down and talk make some ground rules make her earn it

Answer 11

That's not what my marriage is like at all. We have a real partnership. On the flip side, a lot of men still think women should do all the housework even though they are working, also. In my household, the housework, etc, is all a joint effort.