I have a relative ...who repeatedly..doesn't miss a chance to pass SHARP sarcastic and demeaning comments on me n other family members ..especially when we are doing good or celebrating or happy....and they do mean to put you down....and I can't really ignore them or stop talking to them( till now) ...they are relatives and live close by...
Everyone in their family has this habit of putting others down and mock at others' success and also talking foul behind your back , ......on the good side ,they are not entirely bad people , they are helpful and supportive at times when you are down(on face and talk bad behind my back:( ).. but don't miss to put you down when you are doing good. Do they wish us to suffer all the time or what? Their words can be very Sharp and aweful. I hope some of you would understand what I mean.
Till now I was forgiving thinking that its their nature and was avoiding them..but now i have to do something.Enough.
Need your Help !!!How to deal with such people??
2007-09-19 07:58:53 · 7 answers · asked by anay 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The vast majority of people generaly want you to do well and succeed in life. Unfortunately there are a small percentage who want others to fail. The rationale is that these other people will not be able to hurt them then. They are basically terrified of others.
These people may well be sympathetic when you are doing badly. This is because they are happy you are in such a state. The minute you get out of that state they will try to bring you down again.
It is all very well for someone to tell you to laugh off their comments, but when the verbal attacks are constant, that becomes pretty much impossible to do and you will find yourself dragged down by them.
It sounds like this relative of yours is one of these people. In that case you need to cut communications with him and any others like him. They will not reform, you can not show them the light or even reason with them, and unless you want your life to be completely ruined by them you need to get out of their influence.
2007-09-19 08:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has someone thought ever at the time of despair that there is possibility of light at the end of the tunnel? Hope is the basic motivational force to go ahead. Hypothetically speaking we can say that “hope” and “faith” sits alongside and they are not far away from faith, “belief” is also near about, and very close to “conviction”. There is strong possibility that hope saved a lot of lives, reached more goals, solved lot of problems and overcome many obstacles than any other quality we know.
When all else fails, hope shines. Medical doctors will tell you that often patients started on the road to recovery when they had hope. Hope inspires belief and being component of subconscious mind it produces chemical changes in the brain which comes into action when we start losing hope. Having hope creates a new sense of belief and in many cases a new sense of determination. This rekindles the fire to survive.
If you want to create more hope within your self, you can help by creating thoughts that produce the fertile ground from which new belief can grow. Instead of accepting the despair of futility, create the hope of possibility.
2007-09-19 08:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by b_banth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad is just like that that's why he doesn't know anything about me or is always the last to know something that's going on in the family. I try not to pay him no mind although it's hard livivng in the same house. I know that he only does it because he's unhappy with his life so he feels the need to make other people feel bad.I know I can't change him butI can move out and get as far away as possible.
2007-09-19 08:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I have an uncle who is rich but not educated. Anyway my aunt use to have a full time job walking dogs. She was in Europe for 6 weeks and when she came back she was telling us that she met a man while in Europe and that he was from Florida but was staying in Europe for a while and that they went out on a day cruise and talked and my uncle says to her. "Oh, and did you tell him you walk dogs for a living." It was so rude I couldn't believe it came out of his mouth.
The best way to deal with it is only talk to them about what is necessary and avoid them the rest of the time. I dint talk to my uncle that much. If I go to his house I walk in his room and say hello and then that's about it. The rest of the time I avoid him.
2007-09-19 08:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by <Carol> 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the terrific difficulty-free is to probably merely recover from your self and comprehend that they probably are not jealous of you. Your merely self-based and that they are in a position to't deal which comprise your tumor sized ego
2016-10-09 11:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by henze 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have simple prepared comebacks ready such as:
"What did you mean by that?"
"I don't understand, can you explain what you are saying"
Or-
"Is everything okay? You seem angry."
2007-09-19 08:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Oceana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the problem is that your one of them ,, if not I would have said NEVER pay attention to sarcasm because ,,,, make them say it like it is , hints are given no worth,,,
2007-09-19 08:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by darkcloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋