I have a friend & he has at least 3 kids of that he knows about all under the ages of 3 & does not take care of them at all. He does not visit them, help with diapers, milk, Nothing not even a phone call.
I am a mother who works 40+ hours a weeks (& so does my husband) just to be sure that we can always provide for our daughter. I had her when I was 18 so I HAD to grow up real fast, & did RIGHT AWAY. When I talk to me friend he is always making jokes about how his kids are so much cheaper b/c he does not have to take care of them. Things like that really make me almost ashammed to say he is my friend. I have told him in the past how I feel about his comments, but does not change what he says around me.
So Is it wrong for me to kick this friend to the curb????
I can not stand DEAD BEAT PARENTS. All of my other friends are aware of this!
2007-09-19 07:32:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The definition of a friend, in my opinion, is one that knows all about you and loves you just the same. Do you fit that? I don't think so and I don't blame you for telling him off. I don't think you would suffer much loss if it irritates you just thinking of it. Don't be ashamed - HE is the one that should be ashamed of himself! Talk to him, be honest, and tell him you just can't be friends with someone that doesn't have the love and respect for his children to put clothes on their backs and food in their bellies.
2007-09-19 07:42:29 · answer #1 · answered by DPL06351 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a long story short not being around is the best thing for the kids. After all who wants to be around someone who dosen't want to be there? Also the sad fact is that you can't make an adult take care of their children. If you can't stand dead beat parents take action.
2007-09-19 15:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by divineserenityearth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what was his response when you question his comment about his kids? He have some serious issues about kids. I am taking a guess at this (without knowing what else he said about how cheap to take care of kids) he feel the women that had his child wanted them and not him (sorry azz excuse). Yes, just slowly cut him off and let him be. That is so sad the way people are now days about kids.
2007-09-19 15:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the feeling totally since I have a child who gets nothing from his father. I can't tolerate men who think they are so smart to leave any child without the care, love, financial help and responsibility of a real Daddy. I do not think of them as men, just really low.
2007-09-19 14:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Alright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are the courts looking for this deadbeat dad? If you think they might be try to find out and then turn his useless self in. I'd also ask him why he's so proud of the fact that he's fathered these children but doesn't have the b@lls to be a man and do his job.
2007-09-19 15:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't convince him to do the right thing, I'd kick his sorry butt to the curb! Usually, you're friends with people you respect. Why would you want to continue a friendship with a selfish, irresponsilbe, & immature jerk?
2007-09-19 14:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, anyone who thinks it's a joke not to take about his children obviously is totally irresponsible towards other people including himself. All children deserve better than someone like him.
2007-09-19 14:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kiwi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you getting out of a relationship with him? I don't hang out with people that are druggies/alcoholics/unwed mom or dads/mentally unstable. It makes my life a whole lot nicer. I was not put on this earth to be the social worker of the world.
2007-09-19 15:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you made it quite clear to him how you feel, now tell him that if he values the friendship he has with you and your husband, he should first value his role as father to his children and take care of them, otherwise you want nothing further to do with him.
2007-09-19 14:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are friends, why can't you be honest? i have friends that don't take care of their children, they know where i stand on the issue. if all your other friends are aware of this? why isn't this friend? maybe he's not a friend afterall.
2007-09-19 14:58:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋