Black Women:?

Question

Why do you SOME of you say negative things when a black women is out with a non-black man? I know it’s not all of US, but so many do. I just switched jobs because the company I was at, I had so many black women harassing me (me another black woman) because of whom I’m dating (a white man). I had to file sexual harassment charges on my own sista’s at work (one was fired and the other’s reprimanded) because one brought her male cousins up to the office to harass me, then threatened physical violence. What is this, I don’t get it. Please explain I know not all black women do this but when my man picks me up from work or even at school I get it (This is college a place of higher learning) and I’m getting harassed by people who are suppose to be learned. Someone please explain why as black women some of us abuse another sister for her choice of partner.

I know that NOT ALL black women do this I am questioning the ones that do and the one who my know why the ones that do, do!

DT: I simply asked "Katrina T" why she calls white people a curse. She is always saying that white people are a curse & all this negative crap. I told her that her thinking was low class, low budget & ppl would see her as low life if she continued. And yes I do date only white men (sometimes asians), that is what I am attracted to. How is it a slap in the face to you as a black woman you should be happy more black men for you! If you have a problem w/ it, that is YOUR problem. Don't put your hang ups on me!

Boo: I hear what your saying but that social conditioning does not give them the right to harrass me. . . .

Vicky Butters: Any place dick where ain't running free ain't for me! I don't get with women, MEN ONLY!!!! Graze Elsewhere!!!!

DinnerTime: Why do black men who date non-black women give me a hard time for dating outside my race when they are doing it to! Fall back chick!

Atlantic Starr: You add no real value to my questions, fall back!

Answer 1

I am in the same boat. I am a very light skinned latina, husband is black, we live in the south bronx, we get stares and sneers and jeers, one lady told my husband he was a sellout. my husband said to her that, Respect,and self love start at home, go home and get it.lol. its not funny, but sometimes you just have to laugh. Women roll their eyes at me everyday, Husband treats me like a queen and i treat him like a king. Over 10 years now, and the same people still moan and groan. I believe it has to do with the fact that so many of the beautiful brothers out there are not getting the correct home training, they are really thuggish, at least here where i am at. unless you like that behavior. so sorry to hear how bad it is for you. narrowminded people are everywhere, keep your head up sexy chocolate, you will prevail.

Answer 2

I can say, and say it proudly the company I work for "don't allow such behavior" ... they never have and they will.
The city I work in, has more interrical couples than couples of the same race, and I'm so glad of that.
Now granted the office where I'm locaed has more of the white girl black males in it, and yes the black females are like wow this and that, but they also see how my husband treats me, how he's always sending roses to my office, everyday takes me to lunch, cards always ETC ... so I have had some of the black girls make certain comments, but the comments were, dang, I wish I have what you and Todd has .... nothing bad though (now if they're thinking it, I don't care, just as long as they don't speak it) ~wink~
I don't get too much slack (drama) from black females, I take it because they would like to have what we have ... pardon if I'm wrong ...

Answer 3

As a White guy of Viking descent I comprehend i'm no longer meant to remark on a topic count number like this, yet i myself do no longer care. My spouse is chinese language, and that i locate women of all races and hues to be proper. i think of the clarification why white women and black adult men date is for the comparable the clarification why I rather have dated black women and Asian women. they seem stable. I rather have dated black women and been very chuffed with the studies because of the astounding hotness of black women. All women are proper, and if i replaced right into a directly white women, i think i might locate adult men of all races and hues to be proper. Thank God i'm a guy because of the fact i like to be the guy, and that i've got discovered women of all races decide to undergo my masculine nature. it is the organic order of the human species for women to be submissive and adult men dominant. In my studies I rather have discovered black women to be plenty greater submissive than white women, and white women greater submissive than Asian women. perhaps this is why i like black women plenty, they make me experience manly. so a approaches as white people being much less developed than blacks, it is merely an ignorant racist fact likely made by employing an extremely depressing person. it is real there have been many staggering civilizations in Africa throughout the time of history, however the comparable must additionally be stated of Europe, Asia, and the Americas. For all and sundry to have faith one race greater advantageous to a distinctive is small-minded certainly. Please shop your concepts open to people from different cultures and races. The human species has had adequate mindless violence and bloodshed because of the fact of close-mindedness. If 2 people love one yet another than it is that. it is organic to choose each and all of the individuals of one's race to no longer date interracially, yet which will by no skill be a lifelike attitude. people are going to this element whoever they choose, and all and sundry else's opinion is of no effect. This difficulty has no longer something to do with out of control immigration by employing the way. it is merely undeniable stupidity.

Answer 4

That is so stupid for people to do that. I am married to a black man and probably wouldn't date outside my race because I am more attracted to black men, but that doesn't mean I should badger you because of who YOU like. You are dating a white man, big deal. I don't necessarily agree with the number of black men dating white women and other races, but are they being harrassed to the degree that you have been? No, I doubt it. Some people are stupid and narrow minded and don't know how to think outside the box. You don't have to agree with someone's beliefs to respect their beliefs.

Answer 5

i know that trips me out. you would think they'd be happy we found a man regardless of race that likes us you know? ive been there. the white women are cool with it, but like you said, some of the black women....man you'd think i did a crime or something. ive never been in the personal situation like you. that seems very extreme. some people have nothing better to do. maybe these black women are just upset at their own relationship (or lack thereof) or they think that "we black people should stick together, we're already a minority" bs. whatever. im attracted to a black man but not in that way.

Answer 6

Because dumb people assume all whites are racists. I'm married to a non-black man but i've never really had to deal with what you've had to deal with that much. It's stupid. Some insecure black women feel you think you're better than they are if you're man isn't black.

I remember going to a primarily black lounge in downtown Detroit with my husband and you should have seen the looks from the chicks. Another time, this bartendar was so very rude to me and I was so nice to her. She was nice to everyone else but rude to me. My husband was with me. I'm assuming it had something to do with that.

Dont' worry though. More sophisticated black women will say your man is cute or give you kudos because they are secure in themselves and are happy with their own lives.

Answer 7

i never would

and I hear you

when I was dating/engaged to men of other races some of the worst problems i had were other black women!

i was shocked (i expected any bad treatment from non black men and women) because what did it have to do with them?

i was thinking that if another sister saw me with a white/Latino/Asian/Persian man they would say "more black men for me"

but that wasn't the case

it just highlights all the internal issues we have because of the divide and conquer mess from the past

sorry about the mess and good luck to you

Answer 8

I really and truely dont know what to say. We are our own worst enemies! If I see a sista that's happy, I am happy, and it doesnt matter who you are with! I just like to see that people are loving and respecting eachother. It all boils down to self love and self hate!

Answer 9

That is sad. Those women need to mind their own goddamn business. If they WONT date nonblack men, then that is their preference, however when I CONSISTENTLY date white men that is my own preference and that ought to/should be respected. We dont reprimand those black women for dating black men, so they SHOULDNT reprimand us for dating nonblack men either. I think those black women are probably jealous that you were confident and psychologically mature enough to date interracially and dont have racial hangups, UNLIKE THEM.

Answer 10

Like you've said before black women are raised to think interracial dating is wrong. Many are afraid to get harassed or worried what black men will think. It's getting better though. Those girls have been brainwashed try to ignore them.