Why do I get called a race traitor if I state negative realities in the black community?

Question

Primarily the prevalence of children born out of wedlock, the glorification of negative rap music, the number of women who are left to raise their children without support from their father, and an adoration for the thug mentality.

Would a man be considered a traitor to his gender if he said that 60% of men cheat on their wives? Would he get called names? Would a Mexican be called a race-traitor if he spoke on the large number of Mexicans who are here illegally?

Just wondering why people are so defensive? If you could respond without using expletives and/or rudeness, it would be nice. Thanks.

So, I should not say anything then because i'm black? OK. Thanks for letting me know that.

Jessica-Um..thanks for the psychobabble but you're off. Yes, I started expanding and dating outside my race after dealing with several black men. Men of other races would always hit on me, but I would never date them. Since then, I've found the love of my life and am happily married. I'm not getting back at anyone. I just expanded and found someone who was right for me.

Pretty-It was the hood. It is what it is. I'm judgmental because I'm sick of hearing all this crap about racism being teh reason blacks are so far behind. We have to start being accountable for our own role in our present situations. It's not always about racism. Most of the time, in fact, it's our own choices.

This question totally hits on that mentality I'm taking about...

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Pretty-I'm sorry if that term bothers you. I used to hang in the hood. My grandmother used to live in the hood and I loved to go over her house every weekend. I just find it interesting the culture. You will never hear hairdressers dropping the N-bomb and talking about how they cheat on their husbands and how they hate "that (female dog)" while they're doing clients' hair anywhere else but in the "hood." Am I right?

Tamm-I don't burn bridges. In fact, this Saturday i'll be hanging out with one of my hood friends because we have been best friends since high school. Even she is tired of the hood and she lives there.

Answer 1

This happens because they don't want to hear the truth. Many celebrities go through the same thing. Mr. Bill Cosby comes to mind. He too has spoken out several times about the realities in the black community, and he doesn't blame the whites either.

To your questions regarding whether or not a man or a Mexician would be called names...the answer is yes they would and have been.

It boils down to ignorance (which is willful).

You are not a traitor. You are a very wise and brave young person. Keep up the good work.

Answer 2

You must be careful with such statements. You are getting personal with such comments. True as they may be. Also it is all in the approch and the manner in which you speak. Are you saying these things because you care or becuase you are ticked off and hurt? Reminds me of the episode of the Cosby Show when he explaines how its all in the presentation. You don't serve a steak dinner on a trash can lid. hope that contrast isn't too far off the mark. Like the other person stated, you said you went to the hood to get your hair done. Now to me you already have come off offensively. One why was your choice of words, the "hood" like you have completely disassociated yourself from the neighborhood where mostly black people live. and if you have, that is your business, but don't make others feel less becuase they still live there. Also, another point I want to express to you is, don't burn your bridges honey.

Answer 3

I dont think you are a traitor, but we need alot more than just one community do gooder to change anything. the ones we do have are an embarrassment to our culture. Setting up a fund or something where you can help women and men, address their problems in the black community. I hope you dont criticize, then i would have a problem. dont like to be judged by someone who is not going to make a hoot of difference in the community. encouragement is always good. you have to be careful though, like i said some people will take it as an attack on them. fine line. words without actions are just words.

Answer 4

Because the majority of Blacks don't want to see that they are responsible for the change in their lives. They've been told by the King family, NOT Martin, Jesse Jackson, and the Al Sharptons of the world, that they are victims of White society. It keeps them rich and famous and is easier to blame others than to take responsibility and change things--as you are finding out. It is easier to continue in the poverty and violence and collective mentality of Black society (obviously NOT all Blacks) than to move out into the unknown. It is more comfortable to do what's always been done than to do something different.

People like you, and Bill Cosby, and Condi Rice, and Colin Powell are a threat to that comfortable status quo and people get rude and mean when their comfort is threatened. That doesn't mean that it doesn't need to be said and done. Look how difficult it was for Ghandi and Martin Luther King, Jr. when they spoke out for change and threatened the comfort of the status quo?

There are those who support you, even Blacks in the inner city. It needs to be said, not by Whites who are considered racists when saying the truth like this, but by people like yourself who knows what Black society is from the inside out and knows what's wrong and what needs to be changed. Good luck to you--and keep your eye on the prize!

Answer 5

Many of the social problems will never be remedied if the people involved keep denying they exist. The Al Sharptons and Jesse Jacksons do blacks a huge disservice by constantly ridiculing those of any race who are simply stating the facts and looking for true root causes of the problems. Perhaps they have a vested interest in making sure the problems are never fixed.

Answer 6

Seeing some of your postings here on yahoo, I wouldn't say race traitor, I'd take a psychological standpoint to what you are doing as being passive aggressive toward the black men because they have treated you so bad, and now you date outside the group to get back at them. That's all!

Answer 7

i don't think you are a traitor but i read some if your answers and you seem kind of judgmental. i heard you say i went to the ''hood'' to get my hair done and made a reference to what the women were talking about. you also seem to generalize black people if you feel that strongly as you do come off do something about it

Answer 8

Maybe because the people who are calling you a "race traitor" are in fact racists..

Answer 9

other people are called this as well

but i would like for you to think of something

WHERE you address something is as important as addressing an issue

you see

as black people have aired more of our dirty laundry to the mainstream media, there have been consequences

- racists feel more justified in their views
- it makes our people seem silly instead of intelligent about problems
- it reduces sympathy that would grant outside help
- it takes away greatly from positive things
- other people view them as "entertainment" (just think Jerry Springer or any interview with Diane Sawyer) rather than genuine cries for help and we have allowed our deepest issues to become "entertainment" when we do

i don't have a problem with you bringing up negative issues

in fact, every group (nationality, religion, race, etc) needs to do this....the beginnings of failure are rooted in the "we are perfect and nothing need change" attitude (aka "pride goeth before a fall")

what I do feel is that the forum for these issues should be black churches, temples, mosques, civic organizations, shows, psychologists, groups, etc

not the mainstream media or other non black forums

Answer 10

You would be, but people would be wrong to say so. Are you Bill Cosby?