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have aproblem in life i just dont enjoy what i do>>like a play . when i work idont enjoy it when i play i i feel like not working. i cant do anything properly.i have readf many self improvement books etc
but i dont enjoy whatever i do. idont know what i want in this life
is it money or something else people help me with it tell me address of free online counsellor or motivator.im a 2nd yr enggg student
going through very bad phase in life.very bad academically
i jus dont enjoy what i do.tell me how can i really enjoy whatever i do .tell me address of some motivator or counsellor thank u!

Answer 1

May I suggest a Christian counsler. I too was at a point in my life very similar to this. Then I read the bible and it didn't happen over night but since then my life has changed drastically and I am happy with alot more now than ever before. It started with getting medication for depression and anxiety. But since then I have improved drastically and I attribute this to my belief. There is help out there. Please don't give up. You will find you niche in life just give it time.

Answer 2

Sounds like you are stuck in life.
Just a guess, but may be you dont have a good companion to share your everyday life.
love is the best soul lifter.
You sound like tired and coz of that you cant enjoy whatever you do and you cant focus on your academic studies either.

Take some time and make some deep thinking, (and I mean real deep), meditate about what you really want in life. Are you happy with what you are doing? You are not enjoying it now but may be you enjoyed it at the beginning? Is this what you really want? are you happy with the person you have become throughout all these years? What are the things that fill your soul? Love? Running around the block? Helping others? etc you have to be totally opened which is not easy. YOu need to learn how to open yourself little by little until you reach the point you are completely vulnerable
You will not solve this from night to morning but if you do it after some time you will notice that it has made you open your inner self and you may discover some things about yourself which you do not know by now, things about your personality or what would really make you happy.
Accepting what you are now (from the heart) is the beginning for growing for tomorrow and for getting to know yourself better, as well as accepting the changes in the future.

This may sound like a little shallow or easy but it is not easy.
WE think we know ourselves so much coz we have lived with ourselves since we were born, but believe me, you may get surprised.

Answer 3

You are on the right track. We all have things to do which are requirements in some way, but that we don't necessarily like. If you avoid that which you don't like, however, your future will begin to take on a very downward spiral.

Disliking or not enjoying school is a decision you made at some point. Until you become aware of how you made this decision, you are likely to be a victim of that decision.

Without academics, you can almost wager that you will have a life of poverty. With a life only doing that which you enjoy, you will avoid any success and even find yourself in very difficult situations.

You may want to consider reading a bit on delayed gratification versus immediate gratification.

Answer 4

I had an old friend tell me one time when i was going through the same problem you are experiencing. There are three things that will make you like about any job. 1 your boss is not a jerk. 2. you make decent money, and 3 you like the people you work with. he suggested i try to make some friends with my peers. once i did this, it became more of a team activity than me against the engineering problems. I am an engineer myself. I really do not know what else to tell you. The only other possibility is you are depressed.

Answer 5

I sympathize with your feelings of being disconnected to yourself and your future. The underlying causes are not as important as the first step which you have already taken. You've reached out for help. I am attempting to respond to you in any helpful way. Tell me as much or as little as you require and I will continue to respond. I am a friend that you haven't met...yet or maybe ever. You make your own choices but I can offere others.

Answer 6

Examine your health first. Sometimes depression and apathy are symptoms of a physical problem. Personally, if I don't take vitamin B and a good multi vit everyday, my life starts to go downhill for no obvious reason. The stress of being a student can use a lot of the bodies nutrients.

Answer 7

I would say this: The meaning and purpose you get out of life is directly proportional to the meaning and purpose that you put into it.

Find something that you feel worth is being devoted to. Maybe its God. Maybe its service to other people. Maybe its programming. The point is, dedicate yourself to honoring and respecting whatever that is. Don't concern yourself with what you can get from life, concern yourself with what you can give to it.

Its really this simple: don't try to find out what you love to do. Just start loving whatever it is you do. Similarly, don't try to find out who you are, just start loving who you are. Again, its not what you get out of life that is important, its what you put into it.

Maybe try watching the movie "Last Samurai." See if you can identify with Tom Cruise's character. At the beginning of the movie, he appears to be in the same "bad place" that you are describing. See if you can discover what it is that he discovers during the course of the movie. If you can follow it, you will see what I mean here.

Answer 8

You need to have your αss kiked real hard in a bar brawl. Such things have a way of quickly helping to bring the important matters in life into clear perspective.

Doug

Answer 9

Hell. I'm 71 and still still trying to figure it out. Look in ward.Try to identify with that inner chord that gives you peace, enjoyment, oneness with yourself and environment. Hey, get one out of four and you're ahead. A kindness. Try a kindness and see what returns it gives you.