how to be social?

Question

I can't seem to talk to people and I just can't I want to but cant's. I need tip on how to do this...

Answer 1

Theresa gave the best answer,took the words right outta my mouth.

Answer 2

If you breathe deeply, and concentrate on your breathing for a little, you will then be focused. You won't have that little voice chatting away, telling you how dumb you sound or you can't do it. I know because I do this for soccer, and I'm then completely focused on the game. So after the breathing, there are a few things you can do to look confident. Straight back, everybody thinks they know this but nobody applies it. Walking with your hands behind your back also looks relaxed. These are all impressions that will be entered into somebody's sub-concious, so they automatically think you're cool. Look the person right in the eye, even if its hard, keep looking, and they will feel you are the social, cool person. Ask more questions instead of talking about yourself, people LOVE talking about themselves. Listen, and if you don't really know what to say, don't say anything. Also, the most effective thing to make people absolutely love you, is estabilishing rapport. You do this by going on the same level as them, meaning speaking like they do, at the same pace, being excited like they are, and moving like they are. Hand motions, tapping a foot, whatever they are doing, do it too, so you feel like they do. Notice their breathing pattern, and copy. Some people say it looks like they are mocking the other person, but most people are so caught up with themselves, they don't notice. You will know you've built rapport when you feel a kind of warm, tingling sensation, or a feeling in your legs or chest. Its hard to describe, but you'll know when you've done it.

Answer 3

1) The most important thing is to be yourself. Don't try to be anything your KNOW your not

2) You need to realize that you're not alone, a LOT of people are shy and nervous, too.

What I like to do is start a conversation through the simplest things and start from there. Maybe in class you're about to start a quiz, so ask the person next to you, did you study? and start from there. Another thing is to think about things you've done and share it with someone. THat's another conversation starter...

3) You have to be confident. Know that there is at least one person in the world that would love to get to know you. So if somebody doesn't like you or etc.. there is always somebody else.

4) You have to patient. It just takes practice. Make a goal for yourself, like " Today, i'm going to try to meet 2 people i don't know

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Do you have a few really good close friends that you enjoy being with? Do you find yourself just "clicking" with a certain type of person--but not often. Then don't worry and don't beat yourself up about being shy. I used to worry about this too, until I grew older and realized that you don't have to have hundreds of friends to be happy. It's quality, not quantity. I used to worry about the fact that I could not be like other people--clown around in public, talk and laugh loudly, say clever things for the sake of saying them. Do you really consider these "skills" to equate to friendship? I don't.

Answer 5

You seeem to be having some speak disorder or commnuncation lag try to over come this by talking to people who you meet or just enquire wiht them just abt any thing

Answer 6

Ask people questions about themselves and then listen to them respond. Nearly everyone likes talking about themselves.

Answer 7

PRACTICE MAKES MAN PERFECT Try asking questions which you think people enjoy anserwing

Answer 8

Talk to them! It's not that hard... even if your a shy person! Ask a RANDOM person about themselves, like "Hi, can you tell me what your favorite _________ is?" like that. IT'S NOT HARD!

Answer 9

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