what unique specioality she has that he has fallen for her after being married to me for last 16 yrs.
how can i woo him back from that female?have they had sex?????????????????????????????what is in her that is not in me
2007-09-19 00:02:36 · 33 answers · asked by christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men like to have sex with as many women as humanly possible. Its just their nature.
I am sure he must have had sex with the other lady, anyhow why worry if he has or has not, you either overlook his follies and keep your marriage intact or you confront him and deal with the truth. Most men get bored once they have got what they want, so you can wait it out till your husband becomes bored with the other women or you can take him to court for adultery and divorce him.
You can try different ways to win back his love if you have the patience and desire to keep your marriage intact.
2007-09-19 01:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you want him fight for him , make him want you more ,make time for him ( pathetic as men are they need to be the center of attention always ) ... and the reasons hmmmm maybe she has no children (gathering you do ) and he probably feels that she can give him all her attention self bastards !!!! Or mid life crisis have to feel young again ( like the immature losers they are ) and honey probably he cant see past his **** to see the one standing in front of him is really what he wants ! However am not all about gloom and doom make sure it is what you really want he will never give a reason and if he does he will blame you ( most do ) and you probably know the answer to the sex question ( which once again you will never know for sure ) .... just be sure of what you want and whatever that is be positive and move towards it .. and you are way better then her don't try and compare she already is a loser she is breaking up a relationship hold your head high honey and remember there is always someone out there for you if you choose to move on , believe me its not easy but it can be the light at the end of an extremely dark horrible tunnel !!!!
2007-09-19 00:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by yoursandmine05 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These are all questions that if you thought it through logically, you'd know that the only person who could answer them is your husband or this woman.
Think about it. How in the world are complete strangers going to know if your husband had sex with this woman.
The bottom line is, he's cheating on you and you are being played for a chump. Grow a back bone and pull yourself together.
No matter how much it hurts to think about the betrayal. What's done is done and you are only torturing yourself by constantly speculating on the details.
For now, you need to think about if you want to salvage what is left of your marriage - if salvageable at all.
Things to note. You are NOT in competition with this woman. She isn't the culprit. Your husband is the one who either (a) lost interest in being married to you for whatever reason, (b) never cared in the first place or (c) has been allowed to "make the rules" and do what he wants to with little to no regards for your feelings.
Figure out how you feel about the situation then decide if it is time for a divorce or for mending.
It is up to you but I can tell you it is a waste of energy to ponder whether or not he's having sex with her.
He most likely IS because it is a rare man indeed who thinks about leaving his wife for someone he isn't having sex with.
2007-09-19 00:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by KD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it like this ... you are NOT the first woman to marry a man, give him all you have, be a housewife and a mother for many years and then find your husband no longer love u, cheated on u and want a divorce.
Other women have faced challenges even worse than yours and found the courage to stand up on their own! You have to do it.
Right now you are being very unfair to your daughters. They need your strength now more than ever.
Don't be so self absorbed and only think about how much it hurts u. You are a MOTHER!. Think of your children! Get a lawyer and a divorce.
Don't be a coward and feel sorry for yourself. Your daughters need their mother to help them survive this terrible experience!!
Get out of there and find the guts to face the world on your own two feet! Your Qs will be answered then and only then.
2007-09-19 02:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, he is just having his mid-life crisis. He'll have to have a little red convertible next. She tells him all those lies that you used to tell him, like how handsome, talented, sweet, smart............enough to make a normal human being puke but menopausal men love to hear it. When she runs her fingers through his hair, she never mentions his bald spot and how he is getting a belly like his dad had. Now, admit it. Until this started, you were so bored with him you could scream. What you should do is spend all his money on yourself so you will look fine when you start to date. Get a face, boob, belly and butt lift, a new wardrobe and a little red sports car for yourself. Have those grey streaks in your hair dyed blonde and get a good hair cut, manicure and pedicure. He'll soon realize he can't support two trophy wives so he may as well keep you. She'll be as bored with him as you were by that time and he'll want to come home where he can scratch and fart, in other words, be himself. At that point in time, be very very sure you even want him back. Remember how hot you are looking by then. You will have lost a lot of weight from being stressed and will probably have found someone who will have your interests first in bed. It's going to be a tough decision and you may find you like it as the other woman. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-09-19 00:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To him she's new and exciting, if they've had sex it will be like a honeymoon period for them all the sneaking about and deciet will add excitement!!! But it won't last forever and i bet she's got nothing on you..... she'll never trust him and will make his life a misery if he leaves you as she'll always be wondering is he cheating on her?? your worth so much more than staying with a decietful man who treats you like that, but if you want to woo him back just show him how much you love him and what he'll be missing if he leaves you... she's not special she's a homewrecker and will get bored of him once she finds another married man. Ihope it all works out for you.
2007-09-19 00:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by sandie s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-17 05:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ana For last 8 day i am also trying to understand the same thing that why my husband went after this girl why???? I am dieing for what he has done. Yes they had sex and am sure your husband also because this is the reason why they were together!!!!
Mens forget everything very fast no matter if it is an affair,clothes or his favorite tie.
I got my answer that is our love was not strong enough that he did not took a moment to forget me that time.Forget him.... Why we have to beg them to love us?? why me have to sacrifice? why we have to adjust,compromise????? Everything we will do then what they will do??? **** with someone else and ditch us?????
its never easy but never imposible also.move ahead.
Best of luck.
2007-09-19 05:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she makes him feel young again, and special. and he may have a low self worth. its like a new toy, that he is not yet bored with yet. its not that your not special its that she has him bewitched, and he can't see the truth. he may be immature, he may not know that in a few years he won't see her in the same light as he sees her now. he is like a school boy in love. he seeks excitement that the new thing offers him. he lacks integrity and has poor character, he doesn't see the truth here, he thinks this is what will make him happy, but in reality it won't. but u can't convince him of it now. unfortunately we do get hurt because of someone elses choices, that's when we turn to god for the answers, get some self worth, don't go after him or beg him to come back, that will not win u any respect. u will only get his respect when u stop allowing him to treat u like this. this man has disrespected u in the worst way, hurt u, and basically kicked u to the curb for this other woman. this other woman has an agenda, she wants him and she will pull any trick to get him, she will give ultimatums, she is doing it through sex, and making him feel important and special, your husband is immature to fall for this, and leave his marriage but it happens everyday and innocent people who have done nothing wrong do get hurt.
2007-09-19 00:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish i could give you an answer but there are alot of factors here that have to be put into the equation before an answer can be formulated. Like how was the relationship? What signs did you see? Whose the other woman?
2007-09-19 00:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋