Would you feel so hurt from a failure, if no one knew about it? Is dented pride the main reason for the hurt?

Answer 1

well, since i'm starting to have major failures in my life, i guess the thing i feel most is embarassment and that sense of disappointment. more than the hurt of knowing what i did wasn't good enough, knowing that someone know about that failure is embarassing for me, not hurtful. but i guess that if no one knew about it, no one would sympathize with me, or will motivate me to still go on. that's the hurtful part i think. but if someone just knew i failed, well i couldn't care less of his/her opinion, just embarassing that he/she caught me on my lowest time. dented pride. . . you know, one thing i noticed about myself is that my pride seem non-existent, well for the most part. i mean, i have my own pride, i wouldn't stoop down to anyone, but in this case, my pride wouldn't bruise if no one would know about it. if my pride would then it's because someone made a laughing stock out of my failure, and that would really s*ck. =)

Answer 2

I think if you're pride is hurt because of a failure, it definitely increases the level of pain/embarrassment/etc you feel from it. Like right now I just started learning how to play the guitar, but just in case I give up or turn out to be no good, I didn't really tell anyone I'm trying to learn. I guess it's a way of protecting myself from embarrassment if I fail.

Answer 3

No, I have to admit I wouldn't feel as hurt from a failure if no one knew about it. It would just be another mistake to be learned from, and would effect no one else at all, except those who may benefit later from my private lesson learned.

I've made enough mistakes by now in life to be pretty used to them, and to find them to be lessons instead of embarrassments. This occurs also in public, unless it's something even George would be embarrassed about.

I guess it comes with age, I don't know. I can't remember, the years are heaped up so thick! No, kidding! I remember. I used to be upset about failures no matter where, feeling the fool, but that has long gone. It's a bonus package, I guess, for having made so many mistakes in my life. ;-}

Answer 4

You are indeed correct. But failure necessitates one to be more vigilant in his desire for success. We learn things out of failures and use this to be more cautious in dealing with the same obstacle he had experienced. Failure is a feeling of despair that's why it is just normal for a person to be hurt out of the consequence. Feeling is superior in facing the truth and it is a dented pride of a person when he is hurt. The ego is at stake when failure comes to a person. Ego is struck right at the center of emotion. That's why the feeling of being hurt is very apparent on one's feeling. On the other hand there is a silver lining out of those clouds when one experience failure.

Answer 5

Failure is a judgment about the outcome of a situation. Making the judgment is what hurts. Calling ourselves a failure is hurtful to the self. Most of us would never say to another "you are a failure", but we will to speak to ourselves this way.

Failures are opportunities. When we can learn from situations that don't turn out as we wanted or expected, we have learned a lesson about ourselves and about life.

Answer 6

I think it very much so has to do with pride, but pride doesn't necessarily have to stem from outward sources. I hold myself to particular standards regardless of whether or not others expect those standards of me so when I don't live up to my expectations, my pride is damaged and I feel discouraged.

However, without others I would not be able weight certain standards of behavior/thinking/etc. over others and would therefore not be able to feel discouraged because there would be nothing that I failed to live up to.

lol I hope that made sense, it's awfully early and I haven't been to sleep yet.

Answer 7

Well I think we all have expectations of ourselves and we often tend to be competitive and perfectionistic and if we let ourselves down then it's like we start to question our own abilities and maybe start to negatively self talk. We also have goals in life, personal goals that no one knows about and if we let ourselves down then you also start to wonder if you will ever acheive them or have the skills to acheive them. I guess it's important o reflect on failures and mistakes and learn as much as we can from them and then move on and live the rest of our lives.

Answer 8

Very true.Our sorrows are aggravated by the thought 'What will people think of me?'It is particularly true of competetive societies.Even tragedies become disgraceful.Man lives in a social environment because he hopes to get help in times of need .But society actually adds to his sorrows.

Answer 9

your mind will be hurts by that's. Because your mind is the only trues knowers of yourself as who you are of the mind. Your pride, moral, capability-ability, skill, and, or, others sorts of you are between all of your corresponding within you and your mind that's will becomes your feeling of whatsoever accordingly to yourself consideration without or no matter whats others will thinks of you, AS YOURSELF.

Answer 10

very good point, yes i think we feel less hurt if no one knows our mistake.but not forget we know it ourselves, so though less we are always hurt. so yes its a lot about pride.