How can people say that make is what you make it?
I dont agree with that saying at all,
How can life be what you make it,does that mean that people do not influence other peoples lifes?
my life has not been what i make it otherwise i would have made it a better one,
People have hurt me loads in the past and have made my life a misery so how can it be what iv made it?
2007-09-18 22:45:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe other people have influenced your life negatively and hurt you in the past, but you don't HAVE to continue letting that affect you. You can CHOOSE a different way, you can choose to get over it and to not allow that stuff to spoil any more of your life. You can make your mind up to do whatever it takes, and to get whatever help it takes, to get the life you want and to feel happy. That is what people mean by life is what you make it.
2007-09-18 22:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The decisions that you've made in your life have made your life what it is today. Perhaps you are bitter against the people that have hurt you? If you are still holding grudges or hate against them, you don't have a clear mind. This causes you to not really be able to relate to the statement I made in the first sentence.
I know that when I think about people who have hurt me, it's usually been men; though, I could have prevented some of this pain. You too, I'm sure could have prevented some of your pain that was brought on by others. Blaming others for the pain in your life is wrong.
Unless you have the worst life ever to have been lived (which I highly doubt) you don't have much room to say that people are wrong. :) Also, everyone is entitled to their opinion of course, but I don't think that you've thought everything through as you should.
It is very true that other people have influence on how your life pans out, but -you- are the true holder of what goes down in the end. Do you have someone holding a gun to your head, making you choose left or right, wrong or right? I didn't think so...
2007-09-19 05:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by Erin M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to put it bluntly. but your life IS what you made of it, you LET people hurt you. I know that sounds cruel, but if you hang associate with people that will hurt you, and you let them get away with it, then yeah that's your own doing.
upset because your boyfriend is always jealous and demeaning or even abusive? DUMP HIM! No one is pointing a gun at your head or anyone else's head forcing you to stay in relationships like this. Boss at work is a sexist insulting pig? go over his head and report it, if nothing changes, then leave.
Don't be taking the lies of people that tell you "you're not good enough for anything but this" bullshit! Life is what you make it, if you don't make anything of it, your life won't BE anything.
Want to be smart? study! want to be rich? work hard and smart! We've all made a billion choices in our life. To study or to watch TV? to go get a job or sit on the couch? not every choice is so crystal clear and obviously relevant. but every little choice you've ever made, is what defines what your life is.
2007-09-19 06:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by jadespider9643 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear that you have been hurt. However I do agree with the expression. Every time something bad happens in our lives we have a choice, we can accept it, make the best and move on or we can let it really get us down, its our choice. Sometimes its really hard to do the moving on, its easier just to wallow in pity, but we do still have the choice to move on. We choose most of the things that happen to us in life. We choose our job, our friends, our partner, our hobbies etc etc. The things we choose are important, the things we can't help we must try not to let them ruin our lives. That, for me anyway, is what that expression means and I think, on the whole, its true.
Be brave and choose to be happy.
2007-09-19 05:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think what people mean by that is for example people do make mistakes in life and some people never learn and continue to repeat these mistakes and at some stage people either have to take responsibility for there own actions or carry on making mistakes and blame it on everyone else.
people have made my life miserable before but when I look back and try to see where I went wrong I find that there were times that I ignored different happenings and ignored warnings to my own detriment.
2007-09-20 11:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by stuartie74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do agree that life is what you make it. at the end of the day you are the only one in charge of your life other people can influence you and tell you to do stuff but you don't have to listen to them. besides everybody makes mistakes its how you learn from those mistakes and move on
2007-09-19 05:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by mrsclaura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is reality. Our PERCEPTIONS of life are what we make of what happens to us. How we view what has happened through our 'own prescription of tinted glasses' that we make for ourselves is our perceptions OF that reality.
Example: If a gal has a b.f. and he dumps on her...is it her fault? Not always. That is his view of his life, not the girl's.
So, if the girl chooses to believe that it is her fault, that is her perception of 'reality'. If the guy believes it is her fault, that is his 'reality'. Reality says that you both broke up, one way or another.
Broken down, it's how we LOOK at what has happened. You can make your life what you make it be. You can accept someone else's hangups or go on about your life and get over it. Be happy for who you are.
2007-09-19 06:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by caves51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A quick answer. Our son, when younger always moaned especially on a Sunday, " I'm bored, there's nothing to do "
A lad across the street, the same age said to me, " I wish Sunday's were twice as long, I've got so much to do ".
I think this answers your question.
2007-09-19 06:00:15 · answer #8 · answered by ADRIAN H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is what everyone else makes of it. You meet people through your life that will have positive and negative effects on you. You learn from them and move on.
2007-09-19 05:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by deebee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me I think we all come from something what ever it is...we are all sharing property..
Indeed we can live the way we wanted all we have to do is create it..work hard and be patience
We learn from our action-consequent...what it mean is do good thing and you'll get good thing. we all learn to live...our instinct won't be enough for us live our life. rather idea to learn things..
No want can magic things...rich or poor there is still always lack of something.
2007-09-19 07:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Max Skinner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋