m financially dependent on him as he wanted a housewife. i have never ever worked.now he wants to dump me and go ahead to another woman n make his wife.he does not want to give a single penny to me.what should i do now at 40 and to begin working at this age.
2007-09-18 22:13:34 · 16 answers · asked by christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
seek a lawyer. you will get the compensation sufficiently. financially i mean
2007-09-18 22:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you in the UK? Go straight down to the Citizens Advise Bureau. Your husband has to provide for you and his children whether he likes it or not.
My husband and I divorced a few years ago now and I wasn't working at the time. I began a part time job and received working families tax credits plus the money my husband had to give me for the care of the children. I can honestly say I had never been so well off - for the first time ever I had money in the bank to spend on what I wanted, so don't worry about the financial aspect of all this.
Of course the emotional fall out of your husbands actions won't be as easy to deal with initially, but you will get there - I promise!
Remember - go and get advice, if not from the CAB from your local Social Security Office, they really can help you out. By doing this you are also showing your husband what a strong woman he is dealing with (even if you don't feel it inside at the moment) and he may back down without a fight when it comes to his child maintenance payments. Check out the CSA web site - you can put in your husbands wage and it will calculate how much maintenance he has to give you. This will prevent him fobbing you off with small amounts if you already know what a court would award you. Here's the web site;
http://www.csa.gov.uk/
Hope things soon look up for you, and take care. X
2007-09-18 22:32:38 · answer #2 · answered by ELLE T 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ana the 1st thing you do is go and see a lawyer , get all the information for what your entitled to as a wife heading for divorce , house , car , kids , money in savings accounts , allimony , child support , dont leave that office until you have someone willing to represent you legally in a court of law in front of a judge.
Then you stand up brush yourself off try for some re-education , take a class or find a part time job while the kids are in school and find yourself , do it day by day slowly and as hard as it is to believe you will pick yourself up out of the ashes trust me.
Good luck hun.
2007-09-18 23:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ana, I'm so sorry to hear this. First of all, you have to be aggressive now. You now have to fight for you and your girls. You need to get an attorney that specializes in divorce. Hopefully with that attorney, he can even get your husband to be made to pay for the divorce AND his services. Using a specialized lawyer like that, you're almost guaranteed to get alimony and insurance on your girls, plus alot extras because they know all the tricks and the laws concerning divorce. You won't get all this normally with a regular lawyer. Also, try to get some education behind you. Like you said, you're gonna have to start working, so you might as well make some decent money doing a decent job. The opportunities are limitless. Another thing, you can always get him for abandonment, or even adultry, that way it'll look better for you when you go to court. So I say you go for it, get as much as you can from him, cause you won't have a second chance. I'm just an email or IM away if you need more advice. Best of luck to you.
2007-09-18 22:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are entitled to 50%, unless there was a pre-nup. If he is not planning on dealing with your daughters then you can get him for child support. In the mean time, seek a lawyer (ask around and research who is really good) after that is resolved. If your daughters are old enough to take care of themselves (even slightly) you can look into Financial Aid and go to school. It's never too late. Lots of courses can be done online or you can go part time (maybe while they are at school even).
2007-09-18 22:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't stress he cant....."not give you anything".
You are entitled to 50% maybe more ,of all the marital assests.
You are also entitled to child support for the children and quite possibly sposal maitanence.
You should seek legal advice ASAP.
You should also try to look for some kind of employment, I understand that this is hard, but you will just have to. You can also start doing courses, to enhance your chance of finding a 'better than average' job.
I know it all seems overwhelming right now, but just take a breath, then get started on taking care of you and your children.
I wish you well.....stay strong!
2007-09-18 22:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-05 21:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, and sue him for child support and alimony. A many of woman do not want a man who's money is going out of the relationship, and not spent on her.... She sees what all she can be getting with all that money going out to his other family.
2007-09-18 22:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by swishersweets97 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take him to court. Get haldf of his assets..because they arent his, they are yours, get chiild support and start to get a job or go back to school. Who cares what he wants? He has already shown he is a heel. You are not being mean to him. He has already forfeited his "right" to be nice to. He lied and cheated. He will try to weasal. Get what you are entitled to by being there as part of a marriage.
2007-09-18 23:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Bob D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are not too old to start new. you get a good lawyer and you get support for the kdis and you go girl go you will be fine. you can work and you will be ok you don't need him and don't ever look back.
2007-09-22 14:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a good attorney and sue him for divorce and child support, plus spousal support, and find a job. u need to find a job eventually. he has to share the assetts with u he has no choice. sometimes we get too comfortable in life and really there are no guarantees in relationships, unfortunately.
2007-09-18 23:34:43 · answer #11 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋