the gulf war killed my sense of humor and to some degree my imagination. Keep it simple I'm a simple man who adores her but my mind doesn't work the way it used to before I saw the worlds dark side up close and personal...help me think of or remember life when I was blissfully blind to hate and horror
2007-09-18 21:05:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is your wife! Take a step back, clear your mind, and embrace her beauty!!
I know it must be hard but you can't live in the past otherwise you will never get to live and dream the future!!
2007-09-18 21:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by buttaflykiz05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try changing your self and by doing so you change others. It is not probably your wife that has a problem but it is you. Hey the gulf war is over, you are now with your wife and by the way you talked, guess you love her. Change your attitude, think of what you can do that would make other people happy. Dont you know that a smile can make the world a happier one. Try to be cheerful so you may bring happiness to your wife, it is just your wife is worried about you thats why she does'nt smile no more - (so are you). If you want her to be really happy, treat her as your girlfriend, the spark will be there again.
2007-09-18 21:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by kidnash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say whether or not you've been to a counselor after coming back from the gulf war. If not, you may want to - you probably went through he**, and that is too much for a person to handle by themselves.
That said, do small things for her - write her short love notes and leave it in the car, on the mirrow, on the milk carton, anywhere where she will find them. Call her just to tell her that you love her. Buy her favorite dessert and bring it home to share. Surprise her with a weekend at a bed and breakfast.
2007-09-18 21:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by lordmisrule2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been to the dark side of humanity - and survived! Use that experience in a positive way for your own growth first. Instead of focusing your mind on the horror in the past, live each day in wonder and appreciation of the love and beauty that is in your life right now!...Make a habit of looking for something to be thankful every morning - it could be the peaceful look on your wife/child's face while they are sleeping, it could be the sun shining on YOUR garden, the soft breeze blowing, the sound of neighbours children laughing in the street......Any of the simple day-to-day things that make life worth living.....
As the smile reappears on your own face and the light comes into your eyes again, you will see it reflected in your wife's smiling eyes....
2007-09-18 21:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get help. I wasnt in combat but spent time in Saudi (13 yr USAF vet) so though I dont UNDERSTAND I can empathize. Pretend you are a teenager. Try to look at the world and at her how you did when you met her. Every day tha you were there, did you think of her? And how much you missed her?
You can redevelop your sense of humor by looking at how silly life can be. Work at rediscovering the wonders of your life and your wife by letting go of the ugliness you have seen.
Best of luck and thanks for your service. Now go live
2007-09-18 23:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bob D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend quiet time remembering your past together. Bring out old photos, etc. Start new trust with confessing your situations that you endured during the war. I'd create a memory book together. Time spent doing that (as girly and dull as it is and yes, I hate that idea but I know some girls who like that kind of thing) can bring back happier memories. Create new memories by taking trips together.
2007-09-18 21:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visit beautiful places. Walks together in parks, beach at sunset, funny movies, whatever works for you both. She is feeling the same about your smile I am sure. God Bless you for your contribution and I pray you find your joy again. Remember the "Joy" of the Lord is our strength. There is great power in renewing the happy moments in our life. Perhaps some reminicing of happier times, a quiet evening by candlelight with the photo album to remind you and above all be patient with yourselves.
2007-09-18 21:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should both get away from your normal surroundings... even if it's just 40 or 50 miles away, check into a hotel, have a nice dinner, get a bottle of wine and then TALK. You have a lot to get off your mind and show her SHE's the only one you want to do it with. Good luck bro.
2007-09-18 21:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Dave 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember how big a part of you she is, cuddle her, give her random kisses, spend time just sitting holding her hand, really appreciate that she's there.
Not many people see how dark the world really can be, but you can also see how amazing the world can be.
Just make sure she knows you love her, every single day.
2007-09-18 21:39:00 · answer #9 · answered by SuperKylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God bless you, it's not easy but talking and sharing your experiences will help you get rid of your demons, i'm sure there are support groups that will help you, you should try to get your wife to come and hear the sad stories which had an impact on you, she will understand what you went through.
2007-09-18 21:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by sword_maker_samurai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋