2007-09-18 20:34:50 · 15 answers · asked by back to life and enjoying 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
adjusting means understanding their problems and needs and giving them their time and freedom to have more friends
2007-09-18 20:52:25 · update #1
Because anyone who "demands" that you adjust is not worth the trouble to be "committed" to. :)
If you had some problems, for example, that needed you to "adjust", the method of helping you would be to gently encourage you to change your behaviour, and NOT to "demand" changes.
Try to solve your problems first. Do it for yourself and no one else!
Good luck!
2007-09-18 20:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by Adviso 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste too much time worry about this, it is really their loss. I was in the same situation, had this great relationship for 2 years, then little by the little the other person started to change, making excuses why we couldn't hang out or do things, or why they didn't call, or retturn calls. And it just got worse, I tried to make it better and did everything they asked, give them space, or maybe not see them every day, or don't get upset if they don't call for a few days, or too busy at work to really chat. But all it did was make it worse. And in the end, it was my fault (or so they said) because I wanted too much from them. So, just accept and move on. Good luck!
2007-09-26 17:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Manny V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they have no conscience and didn't really love u like u loved them in the first place. don't ever allow someone to demand u adjust to their wants, that kind of person will always dump u no matter how good u are to them. they do it because this is who they are, its part of their character and make up. it has nothing to do with u or what u did or didn't do. once they got what they wanted there was no challenge anymore.
2007-09-19 06:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one that retreats never actually loves. At least you know what it is to love and that you can love again. I think I know what you meant about adjusting or adapting. That is the way to work at a relationship. But, s/he also must adjust and adapt to your needs. S/he probably did not. Again, s/he didn't love.
C. :)!!
2007-09-26 22:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you aren't attracting the people that would appreciate this behavior but I think that you should concentrate on being you and not so much on being the person that you think someone would like.
2007-09-25 13:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
Perhaps the person you're speaking of..really wanted someone who would stick up for his/her self, and not always be subservient to your commands.
Just a thought!
Have a nice day!
2007-09-19 03:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you adjust your personality for anyone. If they ditched you then it is their lose..
2007-09-19 03:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by mia m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times no matter what you do or what they do...people just become complacent and unhappy with their situation. I'm sorry it happened to you. Good luck.
2007-09-25 21:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people just don't care about that person's feelings. They say they need ''space'' blah blah blah then when you give them their ''space'' it gets used against you. I would say whoever it is isn't worth it.
2007-09-19 05:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it was a one-way relationship. You're better off alone.
2007-09-26 10:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋