Whether it was an object, a person or a life style? And deep down inside you realized that it was an impossiblity? How did you cope?
2007-09-18 20:05:23 · 13 answers · asked by Praire Crone 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Dr Weasel....FASTING????
Hon, I have been on a like 600 calories a day since last Yule season...I have lost 105 pounds...I could recite reams of info on the subject of fasting. I laugh at fasting... and you are talking to a woman in full blown menopause about keeping things in perspective??? Hon, hormone surges have no perspective... survival is my only goal at this point and not hurting anyone in the process...
2007-09-18 20:41:47 · update #1
Ms Crone, First off you have to determine whether or not what you are lusting after is a TRUE need or just a selfish desire. If after a lot of careful consideration it comes out to be a genuine TRUE need, then you need to determine if it is a need that is possible to be fulfilled and if it's fulfillment will contribute to your spiritual and personal growth as a spiritual being. if THAT is so then you should work you magicks and energies to obtaining that goal. If it turns out that it is NOT for you but you lust for it is still very strong, then you need to work your "mojo" to reducing or eliminating that desire in yourself. There are two ways to go about that. First, you can work on the desire itself, willing it to decreas and eventually go away. OR you can work on finding another, more appropriate desire to replace the original desire (in other words, distract yourself from your obsessive desires). Neither is an easy to tackle challenge, especialy if you have obsessed about your desire for a long time. It WILL be hard but, it is also doable and requires a LOT of very hard concentration and hard work to overcome.
The thing YOU have working for you is time and experience as a Witch. You KNOW the things that you can do to focus and change your focus towards more worthy goals. That is the experience that you must call on to accomplish that hard task. A lot of mind clearing meditations are certainly called for here, as wel as a vision quest, to find your distracting goal. It's going to have to be as desireable as the unhealthy goal that you've been obsessing about, NOt an easy thing to do, for sure. But, I have the fullest confidence in you that you WILL be able to do it. (((Ms Crone)))
BB,
Raji the Green Witch
2007-09-19 02:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Raji the Green Witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Anytime that I really think about something that I want or need I have trouble concentrating on anything else until I have gotten what I want. Once I make my mind up I work to make it happen. When there are things that currently seem impossible to acheive it just means longer time to work to that goal. The obsesive problem though is not letting this intense desire impact the other parts of your life. For example finding a house was keeping me awake at night until be found the right one.
2007-09-18 20:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by Hazelnut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fortunate and Linda, are you men kidding me? no longer asserting that the letter author has a severe concern, however the aptitude is there! i myself desire you may seek for some help perfect away Honey. there are various countless issues that must be inflicting you to experience this type, whether that is not any longer a feeling you desire to play around with. There fairly some themes that could reason highs and lows. maximum of wich might nicely be dealt with, in many cases by a mix of therapy and medicine. you're no longer
2016-10-19 01:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my Mother was on life support i thought the frustration of wanting her to improve would kill me. ~ One night as i left the hospital after a long day and in the foyer as i was waiting for the lift there was this group of young people sitting there with a gutiar~ they were playing this soft slow song ~ i dont know the name of it but i will always remember the words~" And the drugs dont work, they just make you worse, but i know i will see your face again".......I cried like a baby. But it helped me accept that even though i thought the world would end if i lost her....i knew i would see her again one day and it was just a matter of waiting until then.....
I felt at peace with things then.
I guess i learnt that even though things may not always be as i wish them to be ...they are as someone else wishes, and that good things can come from bad situations, and that makes it ok in the grand scheme of things.
BB
Ariel
2007-09-18 22:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by *~Ariel Brigalow Moondust~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that obsession is off balance. seek to balance your life. When a thing has that much attention you should ask if it is a life or death issue? if no, then seek to put things in a proper perspective.
If you have trouble doing this, you lack self control. Self control can be learned. in fact, fasting is an exercise in self control. this is why people fast. To build self discipline through reason and rational. Not easy at first, but neither is walking.
2007-09-18 20:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Dr weasel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep. i was in a relationship like that. the guy was my friend, and i wanted to take it further than friendship, but he didn't feel the same way. i was totally obsessed about it for a couple of years... we even ended up dating for a while, but i always knew that i felt more for him than he did for me.... in the end i realized that it wasn't a healthy relationship to be in as it was destroying my self confidence. i coped by ending the relationship, regaining some of my pride, and going out and socializing a lot. only down side to that was that i started dating a guy on the re-bound, who i had nothing in common with...... so then i had a different set of problems to deal with ! u have to be careful that u don't swap one bad situation for another.
2007-09-18 20:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a question I've asked myself and others many times. I personally just try to swallow it down, hope and wish. It's really a painful thing, and I wish humans didn't have the mechanism required to experience such a thing.
2007-09-18 20:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah...like just awhile ago...i was craving for samurai food...i only have 300 bucks left in my wallet....still have bills to pay...
besides samurai foods are sold somewhere very far from where i live...so that's a bit far from possible....
i thought hard and long...i decided if i can't have it...the next i'd want is a big burger...
now that's easy...so i had it delivered (2 big burgers! with fries and root beer)...so now i'm full and satisfied...not craving for samurai food anymore...
problem is...now i'm out of money...*sighs
ugh...howell... =(
2007-09-18 20:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Slide♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, an Object, I just stopped thinking about it and i stopped looking at it.
2007-09-18 23:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i drink party and not giving a ****.it a person.they ****** wit my heart.i was faithful only to her but now im convinced that ill stay a player.i still havent got over her.its been over4 yrs.
2007-09-18 20:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by ????? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋