Did I do the wrong thing or is my husband over reacting?

Question

Ok tonight while on phone with husband my dog starteed going crazy and barking at the front door. I looked out the window and saw that someone had put stuff all over my car. I told him that someone had put **** all over my car and I was going to check it out that I would call him right back he is gone alot with his job and is out of town. he said alright and we hung up. so I took out my legal gun and went out since is was midnight but forgot my phone on the bed. I woke my oldest son up who is 16 and asked him to keep an eye out I would be right back. went out side to find condoms and lotion and panties all over my car so after making sure everything was safe and had a friend from next store come out and help me clean off the car and keep an eye out I went back inside my husband jumped my butt because I didn't call him right back and tell him what was going on he knows I can take care of my self after all the training in self defenese and wepons training I can out shoot and kick his ***

know he wants to quit his job and come home and protect me. he say's I'm marked for sex and that someone is watching me. he called my phone several times and the house ophone except my son didn't answer the phone why I don't know but anyway now my husband is pissed and i don't know why yes maybe I should have called him right back but I know what I'm doing and have always taken care of myself. he his very controlling and very possive is this just another way for him to try in controle me or should I have called him right back. we live in a collage town and kids are all the time playing games and pranks on people. He know I know how to handle my self so why is he so angry because I didn't call him right back.

it only was at the most thirty minutes and my son know tells me he did not want to answer because he would have had to walk away from the window in the house where he was looking out after me but when he saw the friend I guess he could have answered the phone but he was probably scared to

Answer 1

Please think carefully!!! you have created a circumstantial anxiety by telling your husband, someone out there has put stuff in your car and hung the phone with a promise to call back soon on what's going on. He is out there wondering what is going on and you never called to update is highly improper act. He could have called you back but again he might have some fear for not doing that and his reactions are only human. He is not controlling you but telling you not to take chances with the situation because he loves you. If he wants to quit the job then he is over reacting to the situation and needs your loving assurances. Tell him "your grave concerns are unwarranted and if we panic to a likely prank then we can lost our faith in ourselves and what we have learnt in self defense. However,if something of this nature happens twice you will be the first person to know and you will be more happy to be guided by him". This will boost his manhood and soften his concerns. Trust me this will resolve the issue.

Answer 2

First I'll tell you that what was done to your car is always done by a very p i s s e d off girlfriend or wife. You think because your husband works out of town he doesn't have the time well my husband was always out of town to but he sure did find the time to have an affair with a co-worker when he was home. When kids trash a car they throw eggs fire crackers and put sugar in the tank. P i s s e d off or jealous girlfriends do the panties and condoms. That's funny your husband saying you been marked for sex and someone is watching you, you better check your husbands E-mail and when he gets back i would check out his cell phone. Something just don't sound right with the way your husband reacted to what was done to your car. He got mad because he wanted to make sure you didn't found out about his jealous girlfriend.

Answer 3

He's prolly angry b/c he was really worried about you and he probably felt helpless because a) he wasn't there; b) he couldn't do anything; c) he couldn't contact you; and d) he loves you and would be upset if something happened to you.

Just apologize for not contacting him back immediately and let the matter drop. Tell him if that situation ever happens again, you'll contact him immediately so he is in the loop.

Yes, you can take care of yourself, etc. and he may or may not know that, but guys don't like feeling helpless and his anger came from this feeling of helplessness. Just know that he truly cares about you and is concerned over your wellbeing and let the matter drop.

Answer 4

Get into treatment. From the sounds of it, you have somewhat some misdirected anger, and you will desire to make your concepts up what's the basis of your rage. i might advise the two marriage counseling for you and your husband, and one-on-one treatment for you on my own. If money is a venture, touch your nearby disaster counseling center (in lots of situations placed in a wellbeing center, and close to to the emergency room), and your nearby psychological wellbeing outreach courses to work out approximately loose, or low-value/geared to earnings counseling it is attainable to you. interior the advise time, each and every time you pick to have a in advantageous condition of anger/tantrum, count form backwards from twenty, take deep breaths, and do your terrific to no longer supply into the anger. There are various analyze out now, that advise 'venting' your anger by employing yelling, hitting some thing (even an inanimate merchandise, like a pillow), or swearing, would somewhat make your anger WORSE, so do no longer enable your anger to dictate your movements. Breaking a existence-long habit would be confusing, yet you're able to do it once you're desperate.

Answer 5

I'm just guessing, but he probably isn't so much mad as scared.
When I was about 4 years old I got my tricycle going too fast down the driveway and couldn't stop. My mom was chasing after me but couldn't catch up. I rolled right into the street where a car was coming. The car slammed on its brakes and I wasn't hurt. My mom gave me 2 swats on the behind and then said "Don't ever do that again!!!" Then immediately she followed with a huge hug and an "I love you so much!"
This confused me at age 4 and it might be confusing you at your age now. Sometimes fear comes out like anger.

Answer 6

Put yourself in his shoes.He tells you something is wrong and going out to check and you don't hear from him for an hour.When in fact he figured out what happened in minutes.
Of course when you didn't call it freaked him out plus no one was answering the phone.
You messed up royally.
You should have went back in and called him before washing your car.

Answer 7

Maybe he was just really worried about you and the kids safety and with you not calling right back you got him all freaked out. How long did you wait to call him?

Answer 8

I think he was overreacting about this situation, you seem to know how to properly and legally take care of yourself, and it does sound kind of controlling that you would have to call him all the time to hang up the phone

Answer 9

Your husband has reacted normally to the given situation and has over reacted by telling you he wants to quit the job. That needs your emotional and loving approach in rebuilding the faith that his intentions are un warranted and you are capable of taking care of yourself.

Answer 10

He overreacted, if he wanted to talk to you, he could have called. A hint..... a friend of mine did that to a guy's car that she had been fooling around with and broke up with. Your husband may have a jealous gf that he just dumped.