Does anyone have any (conflict) problem solving strategies for teenagers?

Question

I'm just looking for some ideas such as defining the problem, come up with multiple options, keep track of your emotions ect. What ideas and pointer do you all have in regards to getting along with others and solving problems/conflict productively.

Answer 1

After the fact I have the wisdom to deal with them now it they were still teenagers. Consistency is huge on the parents part. Don't set rules or consequences that you can't fallow through with. Teenagers are smarter than we think. They go through so much to make sure that you won't smell smoke on pot on them.

I found it best to make a chart. On one side make reasonable rules. Like...be home by 9;30pm on school nights Then on the other side of the paper write down a consequence.

It is sooooooooooo important for parents to stick together. Teens know how to divide and seperate parents. Don't let them do it.

Learn ways for you to NOT lose control. They will listen more if you arn't screaming. Just point out the rule & there is no use arguing. It is ok for the teenager to ask for execptions to the rules if there is a good reason to do so. I found out that writting things down and me and the kids sign. They can't argue becasue things are clear. OK, so if your kids arn't that bad , you can skip the signature.

My two youngest were very rebellous. They really saw a change when they couldn't get me rattled and screaming.
I would just say. "There is nothing to argue about, you messed up on rule #----"

Wow did that help me keep my saniety.

About problem/conflict solving.......Kids live what they learn to live with what they see So, parents be a good example.

Have the kid & yourself take a time out,. Then have a sit down discussion of what happened. If you can't listen to them , they won't listen to you. Use some effective conversations by reflecting what the kids say. For example
Kid " I hate doing chore" Mom "ok so we have established the fact that you don't like chores, let talk about how to make it workable for both of us" You might just find out that he loves to cut the grass and hates doing dishes. Meanwhile his sibbling maybe hates to cut the grass, but doesn't mind doing the dishes. Or agree with your kids to rotate chores. Again put in writting.

Teach the kids........Idenify the issue. State the issue. Take turns talking and listening not thinking about what you will say next. Have a pen or spoon to have the person talking hold and when they are done talking, they pass it on to the next person who then talkes. One parent needs to be refree to this talk. TEach them to talk back and reword what you just said, and you do the same to them. Agree that listening doesn't mean you agree with the person. Yelling and fighting with words...just take a time out and get the kids back together when they can talk and also listen.

I am so tired, hopefully it makes sense/

Answer 2

Teenagers are hard to handle. They think they are immortal and bigger than life itself. My teenage brother fights with kids at school. I was always interfering and getting involed defending my brother. Nowdays I let them FIGHT THERE OWN BATTLES as they tend be frineds the next day.

Answer 3

Rewards, speaking to them, explaining to them, complementing. in many circumstances little ones are starting to be to be themselves into arguments or fights by using fact they're searching for interest, they're searching for a fashion too fill in those sparkling spots of their emotion that is got here upon in the middle. lots of those young ones are having issues at homestead, or don't have pals, get on the brink of them, communicate with them one on one.