What are the problems most commonly faced by newly married couples ?

Question

Please suggest some solutions also.

How to get off to a good start right at the begining of your married life ?

What is the best way to resolve disputes in married life ? i.e thru abitration, mutual discussion, intervention of third party etc.

Answer 1

One big problem is expectations. So many ideas of what a happy married life should be - blue birds singing in the trees.

Immediate communication is important. If you don't like something, just say so. This way it doesn't build up. And teach our partner to do the same.

Disputes -- the solution is that it can't be someone's fault. If you are fighting about money, it isn't that one of you is doing the job poorly - it's that the job itself isn't done right.

In the bedroom - explain what you want to happen. If you are unhappy, it's not your partner's fault that they are doing it wrong. It's your own for not teaching or telling what you want.

Tackle problems! If you can have an energetic exchange with positive solutions - then you can tackle life with strength and confidence.

Answer 2

Problems Of Newly Married Couples

Answer 3

Stay Committed
Shed Egos
Be Positive
Let the Other One Have Some Space
If One is Angry the Other Must Keep Cool
Fight, if Necessary (Steam Off!) But Never Make it a Prestige Issue
Do Not Prolong the Bad Mood - Make Up with a Kiss or Even Have a Great Love Making Session
Agree to Disagree if You Cannot Agree
Understand & Appreciate the Other One's Point of View

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Communication.
Communication.
Communication.

Sit down, listen, honestly listen, speak what you mean, describe feelings, listen, and oh, listen.

The biggest problem I think we run into during our... conversations is, we jump to our own conclusions on the given information without hearing all the details, feelings, and explanations from the other side. Result, usually the wrong conclusion are jumped upon.

Sit at the dinner table and talk. We need to take time every day to do this. Some of the most enlightening moments occur here. Do not let them pass by.

All problems can be dealt with here. Whether it be money, family, Friends, personal issues, kids, what ever. This is the solution to all family problems.

All the other options: arbitration, third parties... only as a last resort. Because at this point, no one will be happy.

Answer 5

Well it's supposed to be the honeymoon period, but some people dont have that. If you didnt live together before you're definitely going to have a little bit of a rough time adjusting to one another. I think the best way to get started is to just be very patient and know that this is for life. Whatever you've got to fight about won't mean much in the big scheme of things. Also know that couples counselling is always an option and a very good one. You dont always have to be on the verge of a break up to go to one. Sometimes it just helps get the communication and understanding going.
Problems that usually arise are : money, adjusting to one another, little pet peeves that you didnt notice so much before etc.
Id say the best way to resolve disputes is a lot of listening. give space and time to cool down before addressing things. just a lot of patience and taking it day by day.

Answer 6

Before you marry, both need to sit down and put on paper (or discuss) what the perfect married life is. You know...expectations, how you pay bills, who cleans the house, what kind of roles each play, and how will you raise your kids in the future. This way you know kinda what to expect from one another. Always be open with one another and never lie. It never ends well if you do. The hardest things are learning to live with each other and dealing with the little habits one another have. the first 3-5 years are the hardest. But a marriage is something you have to continually have to work at, no matter how many years you've been married.

Answer 7

Money. It's almost always money. Sometimes it's that you didn't realize exactly how much money you spent on the wedding or the house is too large and the mortgage is too much or the car notes...

So far this is the only way I've been able to figure out how to handle it:

3 bank accounts. Hers, his and ours. Sit down, make a list of the cost of living. Rent/mortgage, groceries, electricity, water, upkeep. Divide it in half. Each person has to deposit that amount into the 'Ours' account every month.

Any new expenses that arise should be split 50/50 if it's medical or benefits both people. If it's something for just her or him, it comes out of the separate account.

It prevents the argument of "that cost HOW MUCH?!?".
But when it comes time to pay the bills out of the central account only one person is in charge. They write the checks and balance the account. It keeps it straight and prevents the ever classic "but I thought you did it!".

Answer 8

Problems - Plenty these days. Some of them are:
- Lack of time for both
- Too much of money for both
- Poor listening habit
- Arrogance
- Not creating space for others
- Too much pampering by parents

How to resolve:
- Better understanding
- Good listening
- Spent quality time for self, both and for the family
- Plan for money, kids, investments, outing, spending etc.etc.
- Most important - make a home and not a theatre for living.

Answer 9

I would say being honest with each other, and giving yourselves enough space to get used to the way each of you do things is a healthy way to start out your lives together.

We are all raised differently, and newlyweds need to give each other enough room to get used to each other's habits. Maybe his mom was a great cook & you're not...maybe his mom starched & ironed creases in his jeans...may your dad did extra things for you...etc. This is your lives together now as a married couple..as one..and you're not in Kansas any more. You need to solve whatever cards life may deal you by yourselves, together, as a couple.

Just remember, each of you is his/her own person, with your own good & bad habits/points. It's up to both of you to work toward harmony in your new life together. There are bound to be arguments. The most important thing is to keep lines of communication open, with adult talking and not adolescent screaming at each other. Respect each other's opinions. Tell each other what your expectations are, and reach some common ground. Life together is constant give & take, and in every relationship, one will always give more, & one will always take more. Just make sure it doesn't become too much of one or the other for either one of you.

Any problem can be worked out, if you just respect each other & listen to each other. It may take you some time to reach conclusions, but keeping things to yourselves, being secretive, or being too demanding are sure to bring trouble into your lives.

Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy. The delivery of the honesty is the key. Be patient...be kind...be honest...and don't go to bed mad at each other if you can help it at all.

I would keep family & friends out of your personal problems if at all possible. It's hard for your best friend to be objective. Moms & Dads usually think their kids can do NO wrong. If you absolutely can't reach a workable solution, seek professionial help. And don't EVER think you can't be wrong. Remember...being right or wrong isn't the real issue. Being able to compromise is.

All problems are important, but serious problems, such as addictions, infidelity, etc., are best aided by professionals. Most of us are not equipped to deal with such things, as we can't keep our personal feelings out of the mix.

Common sense, humility, and sensitivity to each other's feelings are probably the 3 most important habits for you both to strive for. The rest should fall into place.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 10

MY FRIEND, THE MOST COMMON PROBLEMS FACED BY MARRIED COUPLES ARE AS FOLLOWS:-
1)DIFFERENCE OF OPINION WITH REGARD TO EXPECTATIONS RELATING TO SEXUAL PERFORMANCE.
2)DISCOMFORT OF EITHER PARTNER IN MINGLING WITH EACH OTHER'S FAMILY MEMBERS.
3)DIFFERENCE OF OPINION WITH REGARD TO FAMILY-PLANNING.
4) IRRITATION IN RESPECT OF MATTERS RELATING TO CLEANLINESS AND PERSONAL HYGIENE.
5)CERTAIN FALSE PRESUMPTIONS AND STEREOTYPES IN THE MINDS OF EITHER PARTNER LEADING TO ARGUMENTS.
6)DIFFERENCE OF OPINION IN RELATION TO VALUES WITH WHICH CHILDREN ARE BEING RAISED.
7)IN CASES WHERE THE WIFE IS WORKING AND IS GETTING BETTER PAY THAN THE HUSBAND, ISSUES OF EGO MAY CROP UP SPECIALLY FROM THE HUSBAND'S SIDE.

THE BEST WAY TO RESOLVE DISPUTES IN MARRIED LIFE IS BY BEING FORGIVING AND GIVING IN THE RELATIONSHIP. MARRIAGE IS A RELATIONSHIP WHICH HAS TO BE NURTURED EACH AND EVERY DAY. IF THE HUSBAND AND WIFE MAINTAIN THIS HABBIT OF EXPRESSING THEIR CARE AND AFFECTION FOR EACH IN LITTLE WAYS, THEY GO A LONG WAY IN STRENGTHENING THE RELATIONSHIP JUST AS DROPS MAKE AN OCEAN. AS FAR AS POSSIBLE DISPUTES OF MARRIED LIFE SHOULD BE KEPT PRIVATE AND ONLY TRUSTWORTHY PEOPLE SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO ADVICE OR INTERVENE. THE CHILDREN ARE MOST BADLY AFFECTED BY SUCH DISPUTES. A DIVORCE BETWEEN A COUPLE CAN HAVE LONG LASTING DAMAGING EFFECT ON THE CHILD.

TO HAVE A GOOD START RIGHT AT THE BEGINNING THE TO-BE -MARRIED COUPLE CAN VISIT A GOOD MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR OR A PSYCHOTHERAPIST RATHER THAN READING BOOKS OR LITERATURE HAVING STEREOTYPIC CONTENT