ok so heres the deal, i met my girl friend sophmore year and we went out for like 2 weeks before her pearnts dissaproved of me because of a hicky! ever since soph more year we secretley been together and well you know shes pregnet,..i told my family already but their fine with it, on her side their real into family morals and trust her with all their hearts, ive argued with her dad telling him a good guy but he still denyed me, now i feel stupid, but we have no idea how she should tell her pearnts shes pregnet with the guy they hate, !!and on top of that they were paying her college and other important things, i figure shes 19 out of high school now so it wouldent make her look as bad *** high school preg. their still going to go crazy , how should we tell them shes pregnet, and yes im taking full responsibility im getting us a place a car and have a job, i remamber him telling me he didint want me with her because she would end up pregnet, and thats why im so confused
2007-09-18 19:05:37 · 15 answers · asked by redrum952000 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You know what?
You guys need to get together and sit down with her parents and just say it and get it out of your backs...
That will be really rough but once it's said it will be DONE.
She is 19 right?
So she is an adult and her parents can't do anything about it so please just get this off of your backs.
Good luck
2007-09-18 19:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit them down together and you both tell them: that's the brave thing. Then, frankly, offer to marry her. Be prepared for them to have a complete fit. However, she's an adult and can make her own decisions. For her part, she was wrong to keep lying to them, especially after she turned 18: that was immature of her, and now her parents will know never to trust her again. They may refuse to keep paying for her college, since she lied to them, but she should check with the college financial aid office and keep going as long as she can. She can go until she gives birth, and she may be able to arrange for on-campus day care and go after the baby is born. Oh, and next time, get better birth control. One kid is going to be hard enough. One other thing: learn to spell or use spell check. Your spelling makes you look ignorant. The words you need are "pregnant" "parents" "denied" ... and too many more to list.
2007-09-18 19:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband came from a really strict family that wanted everything for for their son, and I wasn't in their equation, but we got pregnant, and I was still in high school. We didn't tell his parents until I was showing and it made them furious. So from experience I'd say step up, be responsible and tell them. Just say that you know it was wrong to hide your relationship and that her dad was right about you getting her pregnant, but that you're planning on taking care of your child. They won't be happy, but the longer you wait the worse it will be. Your life is going to change more than you could imagine, but don't stop going for the things you wanted before this pregnancy, unless it puts your child in danger. She should finish school, and you need to get a good job that can support the three of you until she can go to work. The worst case scenario is that her parents won't keep paying for her tuition, but she'll have to go get financial aide. But you're grown ups now and you'll have to start acting like it. Good luck and I hope for the best for you.
2007-09-18 21:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just tell them straight out. Don't wait, the quicker you deal with the backlash the faster you get to a solution. Her parents will hate you but they need to understand that SHE had a hand in this predicament too. They have 2 choices: stay mad and not be supportive and be a negative influence in her life and in their grandchild's life, or try to get over it and support her and realize that it is not the baby's fault, and this is their blood too. I became pregnant "unconventionally" as well but I was 24 years old, even my parents were still a bit pissed, but they got over it.
2007-09-18 19:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a bout a singing telegram? just joking trying to lighten your mood a little. is it an option to have your parents there when you break the news? maybe it would be better to wait until you have set yourselves up so they can see you are willing to be responsible. do you want to marry this girl? if so tell her parents that. by the sounds of it they are not going to dance a jig no matter how you tell them but at the end of the day they are going to be grandparents and this child is another person for them to love. best wishes.
2007-09-18 21:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't ask her to tell them by herself. You could have her invite her parents to dinner and you and your parents could meet them there and you guys tell them together. They will be less likely to cause a scene in a public place. Maybe if they realize that you two have stayed together all this time that will help. They will probably be upset but they will come around with time. It's an idea.
2007-09-18 19:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the baby starts getting bigger and moving up the rib cage expands a little from the baby pushing on it. That could be making her rib cage hurt. Also the skin starts to stretch as the baby grows and it gets really itchy and uncomfortable. Rubbing it probably helps with that.
2016-05-18 02:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow bro that blows. well i had a friend that was in that position and i once thought i was pretty scary thought so i can give u more advice, bt id say have ur parents b there wit her parents and discuss it,that made it madd easier for him. that shuld take the burden off u and also consider marrying her and i donno if ure in school or nt bt if u are i think u can get more financial aid from the gov't.
2007-09-19 03:28:01 · answer #8 · answered by walk on water 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a grown women. Her father pushed you guys together by being so against you. Just go and tell them they will just have to deal with it. I am sure once the child is born they will accept it. IF they love their daughter they will accept it.
2007-09-18 19:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by <Carol> 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm i would talk to her mum first, espec ially if the dad is an angry kinda person, or even the other way around, ask her who se is clser with, or talk to another family member like her brother or sister or uncles and aunts, or if you really cant talk then maybe write a letter
xx
2007-09-18 19:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋