Why is openness so difficult to handle?

Question

When is it a blessing?

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Answer 1

There are several reasons. one is there are some people out there who are, well, predators. There is a user mentality in this "it's all about me, if it feels good, do it society". Therefore it causes most people who are not of that mentality to be guarded. Yet sad as this is I don't think this is the main reason for most. We carry secrets, & these secrets must be protected or hidden at all costs, & it is impossible to just shut down in one area , we do it across the board. For some the secret they hide is their poor picture of themselves, for others it is the little lies they tell not realizing that the only person who does not know they lie is themselves. Others hide much more serious matters. The point is hiding from ourselves has become so well practiced that we no longer even know we do it. In this world it takes 2 things in order to be able to live an open life. One is courage, & the other is having nothing to lose. We hide out of fear & need to protect something we precieve as precious.Once again you have given me a question that made me "go to the source" for the answer & I thank You.

Answer 2

Openness puts people on a vanourable state, that is why it is difficult to handle. It shows that we are just human, and that all we need is love and care.

Through out life, we put up a front, pretending that we are tough and we are independent, because we don't want to get hurt.

Openness is a blessing and it will make a world a better place if we all practised it.

Answer 3

Openness is difficult because every person is afraid of being hurt. I think it's human nature...that is then compounded on by life experience.

And for the second question...openness is a blessing when you are going through something that you think no one understands. Then you take a chance and open up to someone. And in return, that person shares a part of who they are with you that helps you with what you're going through.

Answer 4

Openness of mind is a blessing indeed. It lets us see farther. It allows us more horizon. It gives us all the chances to understand the uniqueness of every thing.
But openness of self is different from my point of view. I cannot lay open my 'private rooms'. I'm drawing my line clear between private and public. I think there's some limit of information I can give away, and the most I have to keep for myself. I don't believe this is selfishness. It's just some kind of protection against the vulnerability of being so exposed.

Answer 5

Because we are humans, we are frightened of what we cannot understand or cannot believe it may be possible.

Openness is a blessing for those wounded-souls. They will see there is TRUE LOVE within other ones as well. They will see, they are not all alone in the world of tears, and this way they'll find new truly friends alongside their own huge space of loneliness, silently craving.

Answer 6

Humans are fearful. We control much of the Earth while still clinging to our cave-man fears. Most of us humans prefer our comfy illusions to having to stand up to the ugly truth and we get resentful when someone wakes us up.

Its like in the movie The Matrix, not many of us actually wake up and figure out what is really going on and even among those there are people that would prefer to go back to their illusory lives, prefer the taste of imitation steak to real gruel.

I prefer the gruel myself but I'm definitely in the minority.

Honesty is always a blessing, always the right path to take, but it feels uncomfortable as it twists and bends and is strewn with obstacles. Most people prefer the superhighway of lies and deception (you may get to where you're going faster but you lose yourself along the way)

Answer 7

Is it really so difficult? I never knew that! But from a very young age I did have to grow my courage - especially when dealing with idiots and teachers who had not been blessed by the same nurturing as me. So I did, and survived, and grew - and always found openness a blessing. If it exposes one's folly, one learns from it. If it offends, it sorts out where others stand (and that's their problem, not mine, unless they choose to make it mine, in which case I know I have the wit to make it theirs again). If it pleases, one makes friends (and even lovers) one might never have otherwise, and spreads joy. And in moving amongst the mass of people, who are usually somewhat paranoid and inhibited, or (even if in positions of power) more unsure of themselves than they pretend - I found openness was a powerful weapon, like telling the truth, and admitting error. That confounds the powers of darkness!

Answer 8

I think that as humans we feel very vulnerable emotoinally. We don`t like to feel as thouogh we have failed in some way, or appear as if we can`t cope. Some times we don`t want to open up to those we love for fear of their answers. There are other time were it reminds others of thier painful journey and they don`t want to listen. I think opening up though,saying it out loud or to a complete stranger often helps make it concrete and easier to deal with. There are lots of exercises for that. I just think when its out of my head then its easiere to talk about to anyone.

Answer 9

It is diffiult to open ourselves because that is basically exposing ourselves and sometimes including our weaknesses. Not everybody is comfortable talking about their weaknesses. And it takes som courage to accept them too. it becomes a blessing when talking about it and allowing people to help you overcome your weaknesses and convert them into strengths.

Answer 10

It is always a blessing whether or not it is perceived as one. Open wounds are more easily cleansed. Confrontation with open hostilities is preferable to a knife in the back. If one has no fear, openness is welcome.