To military wives, How are you so strong in deployment's? this is my first one and it's the worst.?

Question

My husband is in the airforce and I'm so depressed and lonely, I live in Fort Walton and I have 2 friends here, because all the other wives went home with there families, but I couldn't because I live on base and have to keep up the lawn. I just break down all of the time. Please words of wisdom thanks

Answer 1

Are their any activities you can get involved with? Do you work? I ask these questions because these are places where you could make more friends. I know this is hard, but you can get through it, you just need to keep yourself as busy as possible, this way the time will pass more quickly for you. Before you know it, he will be home, and it will be great! Maybe you could spend time working on a project to surprise him with? Perhaps redecorating the house? I mean full scale, repainting, refinishing your dinning room table... just completely redecorate the house.. that will keep you busy, but help you feel closer to your husband because you are doing something for him. Good luck Honey!!!

Answer 2

My husband has been on 4 deployments and I had six months inbetween every, every deployment used to be six months lengthy. I believe a years deployment is more difficult although, particularly when you've got youngsters, I could A. pass residence and be with the loved ones when you've got a well dating along with your loved ones, B. get an schooling, if you'll be able to affford daycare in your youngsters. or C. get worried in church, like th eyouth software, choir, some thing to take your brain off of your hubby and that he might die any time, this may simply force you loopy to be considering htis at all times or that whenever the door earrings this can be a soldier telling you your hubby has gave up the ghost. You need to hold your self busy, by hook or by crook.

Answer 3

its almost the hardest thing i have had to go through my husband has been deployed since january and the first 2 months wer tuff but now im better and i just try not to think about the fact that im alone i have 18month old and i need to be in good menatl health for him take this time to get a job if u dnt have on already go to the comissarry or bx and sink into work or take guitar lessons jus keep busy lucky on base they have lots of free workshops u should take advantage oh and a way i stay real busy is here on yahoo answers and sending carepackages going shopping for goodies to put in the boxes and decorating then real colorful ..cheer up time will pass faster than u think good luck

Answer 4

I know it is hard but you will get through it. There should be info through the ombudsman about a support group. I know it is hard on YOU, but it is even harder on your spouse because he CAN'T come home right now. For his sake, be upbeat when you talk to him. Send him MAIL. Not email, but real mail. The kind that he can read over and over again and hold in his hands. Hallmark cards are wonderful. Send a care package a month. Keep his spirits up and don't let him know yours are down. Just keep busy. Find a part time job or take up a hobby. You'll get through it. You have the toughest job in the military and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Know one likes to be alone with out their loved one beside them and it's not that the other wives are strong it's just something you go through. One day he is here and the next day he's gone and there isn't a thing you can do but hang in there until the day you see him walking towards you. It will get easier for you the most important thing is when he calls you make sure you tell him your OK and everything is fine you don't want to have him worry about you being alone.

Answer 6

Try and look at the bright side of the situation the air force only deploys 3 to 6 months as for the Army they are up to 15 months. He will be back sooner than you think.