ill make this short but i don't know if the ansers i get are what i need/ want to here becuase everyone has different views on relegion and some with others will have different opinions.
see i beleive that sex is for husband and wife or wait til after marage. and like every time i get close to a girl and we find our selfs alone they all seem to want to have sex. and i dont make it obvious i dont i just dont let it get that far. but then the next day everything between me and her changed she basically said screw you then and moves on. and i just want to say well screw it ill do it. each time after it happens i say it to but then i dont. why does everyone think relationships need sex or are based on it. i think thats what leads to problems when sex becomes a must. so opinions?
2007-09-18 17:08:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I do not want to be near someone physically before I connect to them spiritually and in front of God (I'm Muslim).
But my friend this is the age of vulgar, base, instant gratification, simplicity and ignorance. No one wants to "wait" for anything. It's about the moment and fulfilling an animal instinct on the spot.
Do you really care about not being with such girls? Get away and wait for the one who shares your values. You're winning here, the ones you loose are the ones you don't want to be with. If she's easy with you, what makes you think she'll be hard to get with others?
2007-09-18 17:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by whuz007 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not a particularly religious person...and I do not have very many morals - according to such religious beliefs - but the morals I do have are set in stone. I don't think that one should wait for marraige if they feel that they are emotionally and spiritually capable of committing the act of sex. But it is a very intimate connection, and I believe that you have to be ready. What makes someone ready? Well, if you love that person, and the two of you feel that you want that emotional / physical / spiritual / mental connection...than so be it. Just make sure it doesn't become purely a sexual relationship, or you shall lose a piece of yourself. And you will feel drained. I don't think one has to wait until marraige, but if it is your choice there is nothing wrong with that. I also do not think that sex should be mandatory. And women who think that will probably not like you very much. And yes, when sex becomes a "must" it does lead to problems. Like miscommunication. (I speak from experience. My first really serious relationship got to the point where we had nothing to talk about anymore, we knew eachother quite well but we couldn't talk to eachother or share any type of dialogue. It was awful. And towards the end of the relationship it was purely about the sex because there was nothing left besides that for us). I hope you learn from my mistake, instead of making it yourself. I wish you luck with your future relationships, and I hope you find the woman right for you who shares your views and values your input.
2007-09-19 01:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by third_syren_of_seduction 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not a must. No one dies from a lack of sex.
People choose their religious beliefs. I suggest you follow your religion, or maybe choosing another belief system.
If your religion believes that it is not acceptable to do this then stop doing it. Choosing someone with compatible beliefs would be important. Seriously, why should any god care if one gets married first or not for sex, or has sex at all.
Personally, I think it is a backwards concept that is sexist and discriminatory.
2007-09-19 02:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REgardless of your religious preference, sexuality is a private, personal, moral choice. If you do not feel that you are ready for a sexual relationship with someone, you should not feel forced into it for any reason.
If the young ladies you are dating do not respect this, then they are not respecting you, and you will do best to move on and find some someone with similar opinions. Additionally, you are best off not putting your self where you are ina situation to be alone with them, as sometimes our physical desires get the best of our mental controls. It's best to avoid temptation.
2007-09-19 00:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by lisa w 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is why it is so important for people to have society that is respective of values.
You have been with people who have no respect for values. find people in society who have values and talk about them. when you find a woman who thinks like you, the joy will be on both of your faces as you walk together.
2007-09-19 03:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by Dr weasel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when nature made us all birds animals people we were made to be attracted to each other the law of nature does not have laws of you have to ask the preacher to do what nature tells you they do that for controlling every one and what is the most desirable thing about is being with the one you love see what happen to the catholics they abuse nature and then find an defenseless child to get off what their nature tells and made them good luck !!
2007-09-19 00:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have my christian believes, and Christ says HEY DONT DO IT UNLESS YOUR MARRIED...Sex ual feelings are natural things, its part of us, but its better to run away from it, then do it and regret it later.
2007-09-19 00:11:13 · answer #7 · answered by john a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whts this got to do with religion?
2007-09-19 06:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by tony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋