So I have extremely conservative Christian parents and I don't know how to come out to them. Every time a gay guy or something comes up in the conversation, they usually bash/make fun of them which I can't stand. Do you think they'd kick me out? Should I just tell a bestfriend and not tell my parents til I'm eighteen?
Please be mature with your answers..
2007-09-18 16:53:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
*I forgot to add that I have nothing against Christianity for I am a Christian my self.
2007-09-18 16:54:04 · update #1
Yeah.. I kind of want to do it so they'd see that not all gay people are feminine and stuff. They think we're all into makeup and stuff. hah
2007-09-18 17:11:07 · update #2
Mine did the same thing. I actually came out at 14... I don't recommend it for everyone. As it turned out, they didn't kick me out of the house. They did, however, spend the next 23 years telling me that I'm going to hell. Whatever.
I left the church at 19 when I couldn't handle the hypocrisy anymore. They're hypocrites: love thy neighbour, but they make fun of gays. Not very christian-like, are they?
Just ignore them or walk away when they crack jokes... if they ask why?... you could tell them that you know a couple of gay kids at school and they seem really nice.
That way, maybe you can either educate them on gay people (without directly telling them anything) or gage their response to the positive comment(s) you're making about gay people.
If they're hostile, just drop the subject and keep it shut till you move out.
I had the rule of not telling anyone I was gay while I lived under their roof.
Well, I was so bored one christmas at their party that I came out to my cousin.
2007-09-19 11:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting it off your chest will make you feel better...for a few seconds. What comes afterwards will make you question why you ever even thought of doing it. The best strategy is the one you've already gotten from other posters: sit tight until you're eighteen and out of the house, or better still, you've gone away to college.
Something like this is always much easier to face if you know that you're not alone. Try contacting this group (link is below). I'm sure somebody there can help you deal...
2007-09-18 17:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by dreamchaser8860 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first yeah till you are own cause i would'nt put it past christian parnets to do the whole kicking out thing second i dont think they will ever accept u thats just my opinion though third yes u should come out like at 18, 19, 21 whatever works for u and dont let it get to u. if they accept u great! if they dont, dont worry they are a part of your life that u dont have to look at after u are on your own and yes come out to a friend before your parents cause you will need the support trust me i know how it is we have it the hardest growing up im 14 and live in a conservative rural area where homosexuality is generally wrong and dont let fear stop u they need to know who u are whether they accept it or not.
2007-09-18 17:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by g.loversmith1993 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am bisexual, but mostly dated people of the same sex .(females) Ironicly, I am married to a man now, which I never thought would happen.
Anyway... I always swore I'd tell my folks when I moved out, and years later, I still haven't. I don't feel that I am "living a lie" or ever did. I was always myself. Who you are sexually/ emotionally, or otherwise attracted to doesn't define who you are.
My life is my business, and I don't want the fact I have been with and am attracted to females to put distance between me and my family.
2007-09-18 22:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by Puppy Paws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, find a support system. People you can turn to as you question what your next steps should be. It's always nice to have a sounding board or two.
Besides, you'll be surprised how many gay Christians are out there.
2007-09-19 03:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Tim A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very highly recommend you not come out to your parents until you are financially self sufficent. It is very likely that they will have a very strong adverse reaction to your revelation which probably will lead to them not supporting you financially. It will take time, but they will come around and realize they love you no matter what. For the time being, put up with them, be proud of who you are, and fly under the radar.
2007-09-18 17:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most of the other posters. Best not to tell your parents until you are ready to leave home. Christianity, in its conservative form, can be a cruel, merciless religion. They may well kick you out, or force you to undergo harmful counselling to 'cure' you.
2007-09-18 18:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Marakey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given how conservative your parents are - I would not come out until you are on your own. Work on trying to get your parents to be more accepting of gay people while you are waiting to get older.
2007-09-18 17:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 23:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ekkkk! I know, don't you just hate that? Hurts doesn't it? I feel you...I'm trying to deal with the same thing too. I think you should wait a while longer-and then maybe come out gradually once they sorta cool. Best of luck to ya!
2007-09-18 19:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋