I really want to have a baby within the next few years, what do you think of this?
2007-09-18 16:20:14 · 31 answers · asked by <Silly> 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Are you done school? Do you have a stable career? Do you have the money to raise a child? Do you live on your own?
If NO to any of these, you are not ready
2007-09-18 16:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for a girl to want to have a baby. But having one when your still a teenager is really REALLY not a good idea. Your body isn't done developing and I don't want to be mean but you have no idea what it means to be a Mom. I became a Mom at 22 and I think that is young. But you need to stay in school and go to college and establish a career before having kids. You are way young. You have so much time to have kids. Plus what about the father. I can tell you this for sure not many (if any) guys want to be fathers when they are your age. Plus you have to worry about finding a man that you would want to marry that will accept that you already have a kid. Sex should be saved for marriage..I hope you haven't done anything yet.. Just don't have a baby until you have matured. YOu have no idea what it involves. Trust me and I bet there are going to be tons of other people telling you the same thing.
Don't mean to be rude but why don't you get a dog and take care of that. That will be just a fraction of what a baby will be like. You are way to young. Just wait
2007-09-18 16:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Christen T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question would be are you ready to. Because everything in your life stops to a stand still and your child comes first, providing and depending on the father. Do you have an income so either you or the father can support the family? Do you have somewhere stable to live? Is the place your living in big enough to handle a child, don't forget the child needs their own room. Babies are very demand are you prepared for what is coming ahead, like new born babies, for the first 3 weeks they wake up every 2 hours for a feed, each and every day. Can you handle that for 3 weeks? When your child eventually grows up you have to think of what your going to do with your life, for example what happends when your child starts going to school what are you going to do with your life if you don't have a job or don't have any qualifications from school, university or college? Are you prepared financially, it may not seem like much now but just to get started and set up and preparing for the baby costs a lot, like to set up the baby room. And lastly what about the potential father what does he think, and do you have support from people because your going to need it. It's not as simple as the father going to work and coming home anymore.
2007-09-18 16:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's crazy...that's biology...
BUT!!!!!
DON'T have a baby until you are in a committed, married!! and loving relationship. It is so worth the wait!
Babies are wonderful. They are the next best thing to holding heaven. But they are not toys or dolls. After baby comes, your life is all about baby. It's no longer about you. That means no more going out and having fun because baby needs to come first. School is a lot harder with baby (and I know! I am doing a distance learning course with two little kids and it's MILES harder than school was when I was single!) and finding a good daycare (because if you are a single mom, you're going to need to work outside the home) is a nightmare!
In fact, being a single mom is really, really horrible. Imagine not having the baby's daddy around for Christmas or birthdays. And imagine trying to track him down for child support payments. And imagine him telling you horrible things like "it's not mine" or whatever...
You are not crazy. But do yourself and your unborn children a big, huge, enormous favor...finish high school, meet a good man, marry him, develop a loving relationship and THEN have babies. The greatest gift you can give a child is to have a good relationship his/her father.
2007-09-18 16:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely irresponsible and immature. But not grazy. Why would you not love to have a baby, they are so cute. But make sure you wait 10 years or so, grow up, get a job, and a very serious, loving, committed relationship before even thinking of getting pregnant for real.
In the mean time read about babies, what they need, and about good parenting. So you know what is involved. You can baby sit volnteer to help in baby care at church.
Getting pregnant and giving birth to another human being is VERY serious, and the commitment to love and support that person will last your life time.
2007-09-22 15:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by realme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm your not crazy, i was 15 or 16 and wanting to have a baby by the time i turned like 18. and yeah, im happy i didnt, im pregnant now and im 18, and im glad i finished school when i did, because i couldnt imaigne going through everything, with the stress of school too and its stressful, and most guys this young arent ready to be parents either! I think wanting a baby is normal for women, we play with our baby dolls at young ages you know because its our baby, and then we hit puberty and we want babys more, its a womens instinct. But wait, babys are stressful, being pregnant has its ups and downs too and your gonna want to have fun before you have a baby! you cant party and go out and all that stuff with a baby unless you have someone there to watch him or her. but what you decided will be your ultimate choice, just dont be a mother that has enough of him or her when shes two and walks away because you wanna have fun! they dont deserve that! be careful and think it out before you choose what you wanna do!
2007-09-18 16:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're way too young. Is it a baby you're craving or is it something to take care of or someone to love you back?
Having a child is a milestone event in your life. It will change EVERYTHING about how your life is now. A child is a 24 hour per day, 7 days per week, 365 days per year - job. School will be very tough to finish, keeping your child fed and clothed becomes more expensive as they get older and not having a complete education will limit you quite a lot in your future career. I would advise AGAINST having kids until you are set in your school life and finished living your own life. When you create life - the child becomes the picture and you the frame.
2007-09-18 16:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by karespromise 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you want to ruin your life by having a baby so young? Live your life and enjoy being a teenager! There is so much more to being a parent than dressing the baby in cute clothes and picking names......they are little bundles of oozes and smells that cry when you want to sleep and sleep when you want to take their picture.
Do yourself a favor and get an education first. There is plenty of time for you to be a mommy......try marriage first.
This may not be the answer you wanted, but, Im sure that I am not the only one that will tell you this.
2007-09-18 16:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by snowbirdbabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm 21, 6 years older than you and I just found out that I'm pregnant and I'm telling you right now, at 15 there is NO WAY that you are ready for a child.
Like I said, I'm 21 and I'm not even ready, although I couldn't be happier, I would have liked to have waited a few more years to ensure that my fiance and I were financially and emotionally ready to add to our family not to mention, I would much rather him be my husband than my fiance, but that's just not the way it worked out but let me tell you, I muchhhhh rather would have waited.
How can you possibly provide for a child at 15? At the least you need to finish high school, preferably college as well. You need to establish a relationship that is mature enough and healthy enough to add a child to it and you need to get your financial situation in check.
Please, speaking from experience, wait. You may think you want a child now but trust me, the second you end up pregnant you will be scared and nervous and wish more than anything in the world that you would have waited.
2007-09-18 18:49:22 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gimme a break, get real. It's OK to want to have a baby some day, but wait 10 years. It's not all fuzzy feelings and these types of questions irritate me. My 19 year old niece is due to have a baby in November and she has absolutely NO idea what she's about to go through.
Just get over it for now OK.
2007-09-18 16:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by mom3x 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is womans instinct to want to have a baby and nuture your baby.. but you need to realize that you are still very young... and it is SUPER hard to raise a child... Right now, my husband and I are having a hard time trying to come up with the money to even buy our unborn child anything... I am on bedrest so therefore took a 1400 paycut.. so money is tight.. any my husband has a good job... so being 18 or 19... pregnant and working at a local mcdonalds isn't really going to work..
first get a good education, find a wonderful man, getting married, buy a house, then start to think about children.. that is just my advice...
2007-09-18 16:27:10 · answer #11 · answered by Mommy2Two!! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋