For wives with low libido; What does your husbands come-on feel like?

Question

This is for the wives with low libido out there.

Can you describe what it feels like to have your husband come on to you when you are not now and will probably not get aroused by his attentions no matter what happens?

I can get aroused by imagining she is thinking about doing "it" so I am really having a hard time (no pun intended) understanding what it must feel like to put up with what seems like an overly horny husband.

I'm sure her low libido is caused by meds, frustrating husband and kids. I know when she has had the kids all day, the last thing she wants is something else touching her.

I'm trying to put myself in her frame of mind.

Answer 1

"I'd never met a woman with a " low libido". The problem is a man who doesn't know how to turned her on. Don't go for " it " right away. Start very slowly, be patient and if she doesn't get in the mood, respect her wishes. Try again the next night. When she is sure that you won't force her to go all the way, she'll relax and be able to get on the mood."

as a woman who HAS experienced this problem, let me just say, NO, NO, NO!!!!

it is very difficult to describe the feeling...mostly it would just be that i honestly didn't feel like being touched in that way. i just couldn't get into it, and i would do it occasionally just because i felt obligated and had terrible feelings of guilt over not "providing" for my husband. i think doing it when i really didn't want to led to even more complicated emotional problems. i cried uncontrollably after orgasm and wanted to be left alone... i couldn't help it - i had no control over this overwhelming feeling!

i wish i could tell you what the answer is. all can say is, from the point of view of "the woman who doesn't want any," it is just as frustrating to be in that position--and i have CURSED many commercials for Viagra!!!! (what about ME??)

Answer 2

What an understanding husband you must be. And yes, I was probably the empiress of low libido at one time. When I had anxiety/depression, my libido was turned off. I was fatigued, overwhelmed, uncomfortable in my own skin, didn't like myself inside or out, kids were a handful, bills runneth over,...etc....And I had a husband who I couldn't understand wanted to "paw me!". While I was feeling less than human, let alone sexy, by any means, my hubby started feeling unwanted, unloved, and undesired. Later, after getting on antidepressents, I felt sooooo much better, just not horny...ever. Dead from the waist down. Another ego booster to the hubby. BUT, I went to a couple gynos and researched on the internet and found out that I could be lacking in testosterone! It took a week to get it ordered and practically an act of congress to get it. You'd think I was planning to change my gender the way they made it sound. But I got it, use it, and my bottom half is starting to have awakenings...yeah! I haven't grown a mustache or an adam's apple either!!!!! Have her check it out. You check it out on the internet!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

I'd never met a woman with a " low libido". The problem is a man who doesn't know how to turned her on. Don't go for " it " right away. Start very slowly, be patient and if she doesn't get in the mood, respect her wishes. Try again the next night. When she is sure that you won't force her to go all the way, she'll relax and be able to get on the mood. BE Patient, and touch all bases before getting to home plate. Good luck.

Answer 4

hmmm...i can say what i felt like in the past. the only time that i really experienced low libido is when i was pregnant. all i can say is that i did not want to be touched at all. if my husband even tried to hug me i would get upset. i would get very angry. i dont know if your wife feels this way, but that is how i felt at the time

Answer 5

You can't fix her.

You need to start asking some serious questions about how you want to spend the rest of your life.

My guess it that feeling rejected, unwanted, sexually frustrated and neglected is not so much your target.

Answer 6

Curse nature for making sex so complicated