What do you do about someone who has an extremely annoying personality?

Question

I think it's wrong what others are doing to this individual. They are ignoring her. In my opinion that is very wrong. But she greatly irritates me too. Will she have no choice, but to eventually change in this environment? I feel embarrassed for her. I want to tell her that it doesn't matter what others think, but sometimes being yourself in this society is not acceptable. I feel that in some ways she is a mirror of myself or maybe she is a mirror of all the negative things that we hate about ourselves. She represents it. What should I do? If I were in her position what would I do? Happiness is fleeting. I wish everyone was happy. I wish people didn't form clicks. ;(

Answer 1

I understand how you feel.

However, people do create positive energy and negative energy toward other people. Positive energy, and people who give it, makes people happy. Negative energy, and people offering that, makes people unhappy.

When someone exudes negative energy, others avoid that person. This is best for their health, as a person with negative energy can poison the environment and make people physically sick--hypertension, anxiety, difficulty sleeping, and other disturbances easily emanate from someone adept at causing misery.

No one is entitled to create misery for others. If their so-called 'personality' is such that it sucks air from the room, it would be in their best interest and that of those suffering around them for them to get busy and rework themselves into a more acceptable persona.

Cliques are usually people whose energy rates are complementary. Humans like to form small groups, similar to family units, and there's very little that can be done to stop this from occurring. Don't worry about that.

Answer 2

When I first saw your question, I was going to say avoid the person. I'm guessing the person you're talking about didn't have much social guidance growing up. If that's the case, then perhaps she needs to change a bit. I work with someone who constantly complains and nags about minor things. I avoid her as do a lot of the people, but she has seen no reason to change. It also doesn't seem to bother her. So in a sense I guess you need to do what you feel you can live with. You could talk to her and ask her to tone it down a bit. However, you probably don't want to unless she asks you what's up. She may not be willing to change. I know you feel bad for her, but when I tried to be around the annoying woman at my place of work it just caused major aggravation. So I guess be around her as much as you can stand to but don't say anything about her personality unless she asks.

Answer 3

You know what you could be a great role model for this girl. If she has a problem like lying maybe you could talk to her about it but don't say you lie just say I know this girl who people don't like because she lies. Talk to her don't ignore her even if she is annoying because what if that girl was you how would you like to be the outcast. Maybe you can stop all the stupid immature clicks cause they exist everywhere. It seems you have a good heart maybe you should show this girl what a good friend is you never know she may turn out to be the best friend you ever had.

Answer 4

If she has some specific behaviors that are annoying, try to put it gently and tell her not everyone finds that cool. There are tons of things you could say: "ignore them", "turn the other cheek", "let them think what they want". Since you feel some kind of kindred spirit with her, you will now the right thing to say. If the other people aren't bothering her though, then you shouldn't let it bother you.

Answer 5

thats her fault for being annoying. tell her face to face. if she gets pissed off and doesnt want to then leave her alone